starSkipper

tran and crossdressing tips, inbox and dms open for questions

[starskipper]

My master list

I run a blog that recommends the best methods for things like tucking packing binding and padding/stuffing menstrual care and more, I also try to spread general safety resources for anyone who needs it. And I add more information as I learn new things.

The plan is to put links for all my recommendations then have a link to another post that explains things like instructions, safety, and how to wash and care for and alter what I recommend. (my intro post is linked here, I want to keep the master list pinned instead of it and one more thing) Why don’t I have a DNI?

And I’m always open for questions or requests, I’ll do specific research on any items you ask about to answer whatever questions anyone sends. I take both asks and DMs, its what this blog is here for.

status: everythings updated :) my grammar is messy but i did my best, ill probably be going back and fixing grammar at some point later maybe. (updated as in everything i wanted to put here, is here but that only off the knowledge i already had. like i said if i learn something or get more resources for something im missing ill add it.)

1. News. for keeping up with news about people who are affected by gender/presentation/sex/sex variation discrimination in the states Erin in the Morning(this is who i got these three news links from i recommend subscribing to Erin in the Morning theres a option for a free subscribtion) Anti-Trans National Risk Assessment Map: 2026 February Edition(the most updated anti gender/sex/presentation national risk map breaks down each states safety. the anti trans is just the name, i acknowledge this isn't accurate and this affects many more people) LGBTQ+ Legistlative Tracking 2025(tracking all the anti queer bills) Transgender Healthcare "Shield" Laws(sheild states that promise to protect trans people. again it shouldnt just be trans people here) where to get HRT USA map (informed consent) good news lists 1.notes

2. packers, harnesses, altered boxers, stp tutorial(stps can be finicky and arent stealth, i wouldnt spend alot of money on one) free crochet pattern first video tutorial second video tutorial free knitted pattern free sewing pattern altering boxeres to hold a packer how to attach a packer safety instructions and care

soft silicone packer (US shipping on hold, customs restrictions. production times are four weeks.) another soft one different brand (international shipping from uk. two weeks production times.) more information on tarrif costs safety instructions and care why I picked the packers I picked shipping information tarrif information and more details about the prosthetics design and fit

3. breast forms and bras and bra care and shapewear free crochet pattern Knitted, website with free pattern and videos easier sewn breast forms Intricate sewn breast forms (cost money boooooo) silicone circle option or silicone triangle option another option shipping information tarrif information and more details about the prosthetics design and fit pocket bras or expensive pocket bras and shapewear you can get cheaper underwear from stores near you read my link it explains if you can’t afford or safely buy shapewear more information

4. repairing torn silicone(again for specifically soft prosthetics, breasts and packers) sil-poxy safety instructions and care

5. silicone adhesives for prosthetics wig tape(walkers ultra hold. i don't have a link for this, check shops near you or online stores. walker doesn't sell this directly to people. if you don't use the walker brand remember you need something with extra strength to be the equivalent to ultra hold) and Uni-solve adhesive remover for the remover wipes youll need to check online stores for that one (if you cant get this a hair dryer on high heat low blast works to loosen the adhesive so you can get it off safely or a hot shower) information

6. trans tape trans tape or big roll of off brand i get into which one is better for what situation here safety instructions and care

7. binders this gets complicated so again please read the stuff i link safety instructions and care and the three brands cut comparison how to alter, repair, and reinforce a binder and if you can’t afford or safely get a binder how to sew your own binder (the person who did this said it was cheaper for them to make it then buying it)

8. tucking this video is what id recommend for this you dont need anything special for this just tights or boxers with some kind of stretchy fabric tube from a shirt or leggings 8. notes 9. menstrual stuff pads recommended, adult diapers for heavy bleeding, if you can insert something then Saalt Menstrual Disc or Saalt Soft Cup, (i read the disc is better) gender and sex neutral guide to menstrual products to insert inside (information on cups and discs) shaving guide for men women and non binary people (doesnt acknowledge intersex people :/ i couldnt find a better shaving guide) voice training information on dysphoria therian and otherkin addition :) phalloplasty, metoidioplasty and vaginaplasty masterlist diy hrt and where to get HRT USA map (informed consent)

----------------- other recommendations

adulting

guides for the internet, tech, shopping, and cleaning how to get ai off your search results tech/online safety degoogle cooking easy food disability friendly cooking lady finanial aid more financial aid (mostly international but it depends) good rx(not insurance but discounts on medication) things to keep in mind about boycotting about boycotting YouTube(newpipe, freetube, and using mp3 downloaders on YouTube vids work to) keep in mind about activism protesting safety disabled protesting more on mass surveillance seatbelt safety (for people and pets) Reminders vaccines

Things you can do to help everything script to use when calling to complain about KOSA for SCREEN take any of the free patterns for packers and breast forms make them and drop them off at local trans centers or homeless centers and if you have the money do the same with binders bras boxers underwear and the reusable menstrual discs and cups(these are especially amazing because they’re silicone you just rinse them out shower and reuse every time every month so homeless people and just anyone doesn’t have to spend money on tampons every month. They’re also safer then tampons) and get vaccinated

blogs I recommend for positivity and resources trans-punk-experience, transsexual-experiences, dandelionsresilience, letters-to-lgbt-kids, queer-mental-health, anti-terf-posts answersfromzestual, crafting-and-tea, reasonsforhope, isuggestcompassion,

the family blogs, people who listen your-queer-lil-sib, big-sister-blog, bigbroadvice, your-new-big-sibling, your-trans-brother your-queer-dad(he’s been taking breaks so there won’t be quick responses, the breaks are a good thing just want to make that clear) trans-joy-is, intersex-joy-is,

this-is-sexism(one of my favorites) this-is-transgynephobia, this-is-transandrophobia, thisis-intersexism, this-is-excrosexism, this-is-amato-heteronormativity, this-is-aphobia, this-is-internoirism, thisisracism (these last two are about poc experiences!!! thats so rare on tumblr im so excited!!! please do go check them out!!)

sex ed blogs(real accurate sex ed, as in intersex inclusive) comprehensive sex ed, dhddmods(is back) sex characteristics and genitalia variations rundown whats igm/ how to check yourself for it list of sex surgeries (reconstructive, constructive, sex reassignment etc are all under this) where to ask questions and unpack negative sterotypes about peoples sex this is one of my favorites when it comes to 101 of gender and sex some things to keep in mind while youre going through all this sex binaries are bad no matter how you slice it even if theyre degendered. and its up to people to label themselves, people cant force labels on you or force information out of you, and at the same time you cant transition into being intersex because its a sex situation youre born with. at the same time pretending like everyone who has x and started as y is z is not the move to make. and everyone is oppressed under patriarchy and everyone has a word to describe their feelings, misandry isnt a incel word they stole it and warped it just like how radfems stole and warped feminism and misogyny, but it doesnt make any of it theirs. lastly anyone can be any kind of bigoted being any gender or anything, doesnt make you more or less likely to hurt anyone or be hurt by someone specific, there are so many people in this world and so many ways to think you cant generalize groups and assume one is safer and these others are unsafe based on factors people cant control. and of course never threaten anyone or drag things out when someone is trying to harass you the safest thing to do is to just report and block and move on. i have complicated feelings about some of these guides and "this-is" blogs because a lot of what i listed out isnt acknowledged or ever taken seriously but they still do hold the most updated guides so just tread carefully and its the same way the other way around too my resources are open to everyone as long as you dont start harassing me or my followers or anons etc

blogs I like about mostly bugs and fish and art onenicebugperday, marinebiology1, snoopyoftheday, herpsandbirds, mammalianmammals, stickyfrogs, uncharismatic-fauna, bugposting, sealsdaily, bugthingsdaily, fishthingdaily, isopawds, maggotmuncher0, amingledyarn

and the art masterlist

music recs (mp3 information in tech masterlist)

no idea where my work out links went?? take this this and this there you go heres a proper guide

remember it’s important to balance out the things you have to put up with for safety with stuff you like art or animals or anything else

[wollratten]

reverse gear noises

[anautisticraccoon]

hi I've started researching keeping isopods so I'm gonna start with looking at the local population of where I live :D. Behold my bug box (only for collecting and inspecting, as well as short travel)

[transhuman-priestess]

the way teenagers are treated these days is wild. when i was a teenager we were all watching porn, jerking off, and going to horror movies with 3000 gallons of blood. Nowadays they make kids get a permission slip to watch anything darker than Barney the Dinosaur. Insane.

[transhuman-priestess]

Every year we infantilize teenagers more and more and act surprised when they grow up to be terrified, angry, emotionally stunted adults.

[genderkoolaid]

& then for some reason people fixate more on "ugh these teenagers just want to be treated like babies!!! teenagers are to blame for the rise in puritanism!!!!!" than how this is a very obvious example of ageism and the increased control over a socially vulnerable and exploited group

[absolxguardian]

I think a commonly overlooked part of this coddling is that it teaches kids and teenagers to be afraid of things they don't need to be afraid of, which is exactly how they end up as "puriteens". I remember as a child being terrified to change the channel on the tv because I had ended up with the impression that seeing even seconds of an R rated movie or tv show would give me nightmares. And then as a tween every time I saw swearing I felt sick to my stomach because I had been taught such a thing is bad and harmful. I think I would have suffered less if I hadn't been raised with everyone around me acting like mature media was so bad. By the time I was a teenager I had figured out this was bunk, but understandably a lot of people don't. By making this whole system worse and stronger you have teens who have been told that seeing explicit or dark media Will Harm Them, and so they act in ways that would be appropriate if it really was the info-hazard it's implied to be.

[headspace-hotel]

^^ never heard anybody specifically talk about this but yeah. parents acting like sexual or any "dark" content in a story or show was going to put bad things in my head that were going to be there permanently just gave me a deeply distressing sort of contamination anxiety

[ratsquinks]

a little croissant

[teetharium]

One of my bolder st lucia isopods, fun fact, probably not a true st lucia. I heard online, not sure which source so feel free to fact check, that st lucias dont usually have those yellow patterns on their backs, it’s more of a feature that american armadillidium vulgare wild types have! I don’t live in america, so if anyone wants to tell me more about american isopods then please do.

[1feelnumb]

*gets on stage* micropenis jokes arent funny and are very intersexist and just damaging. a person's penis size does not determine the validity of their statement. even to non intersex people. i keep seeing people saying something along the lines of "haha your dick is small" to demean male presenting people. as soon as a male presenting person is mean its "your dick is small" and not "youre being mean"

+ trans men who prefer to call their clitoris a micropenis (i see yall you are not forgotten). these jokes can be just as offensive to them

i need everyone to understand that these jokes benefit nobody. the jokes about appearance in any way need to stop. its unnecessary and makes you mean.

[easternhognose]

I'm not really a fan of 'Protect the dolls' becoming the new media slogan for trans rights. 'Trans men are men trans women are women' had it problems absolutely, centering cis people for our validity and either leaving out or clumsy including nonbinary people with a slapped on 'nonbinary people are...also alive'. But I just watched some red carpet interviews and, while I don't give two shits what an actor I've never heard of from a show I don't watch things about me, I do find it interesting and a little concerning that the majority of people when asked what message they would give to the Trans community on Trans day of visibility just said protect the dolls or acknowledged their fashion, hair, makeup, music genre, ect won't exist without trans women. It feels like trans mascs are only seen as people designed to protect trans women and trans women only exist to be beautiful and fragile. When bathroom bans were first becoming really popular a few years ago I would see posts from white cis passing able bodied post op trans men in women's bathrooms to try and be some kind of got ya to conservatives completely ignoring how many trans men and mascs are harmed, assaulted, and killed by these laws. And I don't like the cis savior idea that trans women need cis people to protect them either. Idk I just think that like trans men need protection too, And trans women deserve love and respect even when they are not fabulous, And trans people don't need cis people to save us.

[catboy-tdick]

[directactionforhope]

Sex isn't actually biological either, by the way.

Sex is the social construct we use to attach gender to bodies.

If it was actually about science, they would have updated biology classes with info about intersex variations as soon as they were discovered and documented - the way animal biology does with new species, and chemistry does with new elements.

There are over 40 different intersex variations named and described by medicine!! We know for an absolute fact that intersex traits exist, including chromosome sets besides just XX and XY - there's also XXY, XYY, XXX, X-null, and more. If this was actually about science, you would have been taught about them.

If it was actually about science, you would have been taught that what we think of as biological sex isn't any kind of binary - it's constellations of averages of similar traits, any of which may or may not occur alongside any other sex-associated traits in any specific person.

If it was actually about science, we wouldn't actually still be arguing about this, period, because the fact that the sex binary is false undermines the entire rationale for the gender binary's existence.

And if it was actually about science, intersex people would be subjected to a hell of a lot fewer infant genital mutilations and other human rights violations.

[directactionforhope]

For a model on more accurate language, I really like to refer people to Asher’s seminal essay “Not Your Mom’s Trans 101,” which does I think the best job I’ve ever seen of explaining these topics concisely and from the ground up.

Not Your Mom’s Trans 101

Asher Not Your Mom’s Trans 101 November 26, 2010

Almost every Trans 101 will contain the truism “Sex is between your legs, gender is between your ears.” Gag. Or they may say “Sex is physical, gender is socially constructed.” This simply isn’t true. Sex is no more an immutable binary than is gender. There are intersex people who are born with non-binary genitalia, as I have already mentioned. There are people with hormonal anomalies. In fact, hormone levels vary wildly within the categories of cis male and cis female. Chromosomes, too, vary. If you thought “XX” and “XY” were the only two possible combinations, you have some serious googling to do. In addition to variations like XXY, XXYY, or X, sometimes cis people find out that they are genetically the “opposite” of what they though they were– that is, a ‘typical’ cis man can be XX, a ‘normal’ cis woman can be XY. The fact is that the concept of binary sex is based on the fallacious idea that multiple sex characteristics are immutable and must always go together, when in fact many of them can be changed, many erased, and many appear independently in different combinations. “Female” in sex binary terms means having breasts, having a vagina, having a womb, not having a lot of body hair, having a high-pitched voice, having lots of estrogen, having a period, having XX chromosomes. “Male” means having a penis, not having breasts, producing sperm, having body hair, having a deep voice, having lots of testosterone, having XY chromosomes. Yet it is possible to isolate, alter, and remove many of these traits. Many of these traits do not always appear together, and before puberty and after menopause, many of them do not apply. And what about women who get hysterectomies? Or who have had mastectomies for reasons related to breast cancer? Are they not women? What about a soldier whose dick gets blown off by a mine? Is he not a man? The fallacies of binding identity to bodies, which are fragile, changeable things, subject to injury, mutilation, maiming, decay and ultimate destruction, should by now be clear. Sex is as much a social construct as gender, as much subject to self identification, and besides all that, quite easy to modify. Surgical and hormonal techniques are only becoming more sophisticated. If there ever was a need to consider biology destiny, that time is surely past... None of what I say here is to minimize the necessity of surgery. Many trans people do experience body dysphoria. Many of us do seek hormones, surgery, and other body modifications. But the point is that, while such modifications may be necessary for our peace of mind, they are not necessary to make us “real men” or “real women” or “real” whatevers. We’re plenty real right now, thank you.

-Asher, via The Anarchist Library, November 26, 2010. Emphasis mine.

[medicalmechanicas]

Trans resources

Just wanted to share some of the trans healthcare resources I've accumulated considering the state of things The Gender Dysphoria Bible - defines and describes a lot of the ways dysphoria manifests, available in several languages

Am I trans?

Masculinizing HRT 101

Feminizing HRT 101

Transfeminine Science - compilation of clinical studies and research focused on feminizing HRT

Hudson's FTM Resource Guide - the OG transmasc resource, last updated in 2017 ;-;

A Beginner's Guide to Microdosing Testosterone During Your Transition - personal essay and primer on low dose testosterone from a nonbinary perspective

(US) Map of HRT informed consent providers

(US) Name and gender marker change guide by state

DIY HRT resources, be safe out there y'all

HRT Homebrew - A structured DIY MtF hormone guide - goes over making a variety of feminizing HRT with many different route options

HRT Cafe - transfem focused resource listing online pharmacies shipping worldwide, some of the linked pharmacies also offer testosterone!

The Transgender Herb Garden: An MtF guide to disconnecting one's self from big pharma - zine of one woman's experience growing herbs as her sole form of HRT

(US, most states) Own Your Labs Blood Testing Services - A la carte labwork to check your levels

[lastoneout]

FLIPPED HIS FUCKING STATE REP LETS FUCKING GO!!!!!

[lastoneout]

Dude????? Florida has been long overdue for some Ws after all the shit they put up with, this is amazing to see :D

[lastoneout]

NEVER FUCKING KILL YOURSELF THE FIGHT IS WORKING AND IT'S WORTH IT!!!!!!!!

[starskipper]

updated map for the USA came out February its good to know what your state is allowing

Anti-Trans National Legal Risk Assessment Map: Feb 2026

The situation continues to deteriorate when it comes to transgender youth care. For adults, we see Kansas as the newest state added to a "Do

[lamignonette]

[this-is-fatphobia]

whenever people say fatphobia isn't real I get a little note like a video game to never talk about oppression with that person cause they will have the worst idea of how oppression works

Absolutely.

[prideprejudce]

so today a public health official guy came into my class to give a lecture on disaster awareness and he was talking about house fires and mentioned that the reason people most likely die during a house fire is because they refuse to leave their pet inside or they go back to get their pet. and right when he said this my friend immediately turned his head and looked at me and in that moment I had the most complete and genuine acceptance take over my body. I would 100% in front of my family and Jesus himself walk straight back into some raging inferno that was once my house to go get my fat cat. I nodded back

[prideprejudce]

the best part of this post is reading all the tags from animal people who would also go back to save their pets. like no hesitation. walk backwards from heaven straight back into hell. someone even said they would go back for their fish. amazing

[sterna-hirundo]

If you are a person who would walk into a blazing inferno for your animal, and your pet has free movement around the house, here’s a training exercise that could help save you both:

1) Set off your smoke alarm or play the sound on your phone (if your home has no smoke alarms, pease get some!)

2) stand BY THE FRONT DOOR to hand out treats

Do this a couple times and then keep it up NO EXCEPTIONS. Accidentally set the alarm off cooking? Treats by the door. Smoke alarm sound on TV? Treats by the door. Changing your smoke alarm batteries twice a year like you’re supposed to? Give them a test run and your pets get treats by the door.

Most dogs and cats will clue in VERY quickly that hearing that specific sound means go to the front door and wait for treats.

If there’s an emergency and even if you leave by another way, you will still know the most likely place your pet(s) is and can direct first responders to help.

You can also do this for any other kind of emergency alarm. My friend had both her cats trained to go to the front door for a tsunami siren.

[starskipper]

Just checking in on ya, hope you are well. Always doing the work 💪

Stay safe <3

I'm not doing well I cant really even describe how not well I'm doing but I'm working on it I haven't stopped trying and I don't plan to stop trying thank you <3

[starskipper]

im glad the update got taken back seeing everyones tags and replies is my favorite part