Growing up in Philadelphia as a young black male i knew i was different from all the other males around me i kept have fantasies of guys but at the same time i was still into women. First i thought am i gay ? But i thought gay men donāt wanna have sex with women. It took me a long time to come to terms that Iām a black bisexual male. Now i understand the stigma when people hear you are a bisexual male,they think you are having unsafe sex with every guy you see and canāt say no to anyone. Thatās so far from the truth yes i like doing sexual things with guys but it doesnāt mean Iām unsafe or i have a STD. It also doesnāt mean i canāt be faithful when i am dating a woman. I see many bi women especially in the black community who get a pass even if they did something with a girl just to try it people will still respect them and they have no problem dating. When it comes to bi black men ,the minute women meets a guy then he tells her he has sexual feeling or he has experimented with his sexuality automatically heās gay and less of a man and they say men canāt be bisexual , they wonāt date us because they afraid we be thinking of a man when they have sex with us or we will end up being gay. I truly donāt get why women get a pass on this but us bi men are forced to be looked at as men that women never wanna date. Itās unfair but we live in a unfair world. I have even had times when i would meet another bisexual woman and i tell her Iām bi but she judges me calls me nasty and says am i sure i donāt have any STDās ? This type of judgement forces many bisexual black men to hide and not open up to women . A lot of us donāt want to hide many of us want to be open wth the woman we are dating and still be looked at as a strong man. We also donāt want our business not to be shared with your family,girlfriends and most of all social media. People always say just be honest but look at the back lash we might get from it. My friends and family have no need to know my sexual preference. The only person i want to share that with is the woman Iām dating. I can only speak for myself when Iām looking for a woman to date i tend to look for women who are open to bisexual men,but as you already may know itās so hard. Many many women especially black and Latino women are against us. Itās one of the reasons Iām single now. I have only been in Tumblr for short period of time and i donāt see many pages that carter to bisexual men . I truly would like women to get to know us with out judgement . We are normal men you see every day in the street. I know i will get a lot of nasty messages from women calling me all kinds of names. I hope i am wrong. Yes my page has a lot of porn on it thatās just my sexual side. If you take time to get to know me you might like me.
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