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“No. I just have a sexy imagination.” 33 ♀️ 💗💜💙 Not my original content NSFW 18+

[sin-deep-my-wicked-angel]

[dead-darling]

[feralkwe]

i'm bisexual and tired. rb if you're bisexual and tired.

[queerandkinkier]

Aftercare

I’ve organized some of the things I need from aftercare (in person or long distance) into 4 components, and thought it could be helpful for others too! I’ve put some examples for each, but it will of course look different for everyone.

1. Physical Care/Needs -

Wiping away tears

Helping up from floor

Getting a warm towel

Soothing bruises

Getting a glass of water

2. Physical Comfort/Affection -

Gentle kisses and hugs

Holding eachother tight

Breathing with eachother

Cuddling and/or napping together

Brushing fingers through hair

3. Scene Validation -

“That was so fun/sexy”

“That felt so good when you ____”

“You were such a good ____ for me”

“I love the bruises/marks you gave me”

“Thank you for (carrying out some fantasy) with me”

4. Human Affirmations -

“I love you; I care about you”

“I’m so grateful to have you in my life”

“I always have a great time when I’m with you”

“You’re a wonderful/kind/etc person”

Mentioning a non-sexual part of your relationship that you like, or reiterating that you value eachother as more than just a sub/dom(me)

I think that this can work whether you have a deeper connection or a more casual play partner! I always feel best when all of these components are covered during aftercare.

These things can obv be done in person, and I think it’s also really important to give this kind of care when you’re long distance, even if it’s just through words after sexting… for example-

“When we were done, I would help you up and wipe away your tears, bring you a warm towel and make sure you’re ok. Then I’d love to cuddle, with your head on my chest, and give you forehead kisses while telling you how good you made me feel and how wonderful of a person I think you are.”

Thanks for reading! Be safe everyone 💕💕

[kinkobra]

Hope it's okay to add on but in the Human Affirmations category I find

"You are not below me"

"I see you as my equal"

and "You are my partner and I don't look down on you in any way"

very helpful!!<3

[puppyboydrools]

If you don’t mind me adding some dom/top affirmations:

“The things you said or names you called me weren’t to harsh/hurt my feelings”

“That was a lot of work do you want water”

“Are your arms/hands sore?”

“Please let me know if you need to catch your breath at any point”

[nastybrattishandshort]

Yesss aftercare for doms + tops is super important. Especially if exploring something new or spicy like cnc, humiliation etc... these things are a big ask of someone psychologically and a bit of reassurance goes a long way. On both sides, before and after. Reassurance sandwiches for all!

[dominantlife]

So you want to try anal? A Practical Guide For Women

By Fetlife User: CQPublic Reprinted with permission

So you want to try anal, and you’d like to avoid hurting or emotionally scarring your partner for life. Congratulations! You’ve come to the right place.

First things first. This is only my experience, and I only speak from what I know to be true for me. YMMV

I cannot stress this enough:

PORN WILL NOT TEACH YOU HOW TO GIVE ANAL

I promise.

They edit for time, and they edit for the sexy. No porn will ever show you the 15 minute or so leadup before you can even think about sticking your dick inside her/him. They aren’t going to show you the “ouch, ouch, go slowly, go slowly… DAMN IT I said GO SLOWLY!” that you may encounter.

The leadup is not sexy. It is functional. Sort of like a nude bra.

You will want a good bit of lube. I promise, if her butt crack feels like a slip n slide, you’re gonna have a great time. If not, you’re gonna have a bad time.

Since my husband and I don’t use condoms, I like to use lotion that smells good. (I know I am going to catch hell for this, but it is my personal preference) Now, with that being said, if you are using condoms this is obviously a bad idea. Lotion can deteriorate a condom. However, since we don’t…. I like the smell of lotions, and sort of treat it like aromatherapy for my poop chute. I’ve never had an issue with using lotion in the 14 or so years I’ve been using it. Other folks use astroglide, KY, anal glide etc. etc. etc. I personally am put off by these types of lube because they become sticky, and that is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. Like I stated before, it’s a personal preference of mine. YMMV

So, you’ve got the mood set and you’re ready to do this– be cool, bro. Be cool!

Don’t let your excitement kill the interlude.

Don’t be so gung-ho to get your junk in to hit the brown note that you forget that there is a person attached to that pucker.

Start by mentally stimulating them. Whatever gets your partner in the mood. Now may be a good time, if you so choose, to use your tongue to further stimulate their arousal. Get creative at this juncture. Play with her pussy, give him a good ‘ol fashioned reach around, whisper all of those dirty little thoughts you have about her, jiggle his balls a bit (I dunno, I just like to say 'jiggle his balls’). Whatever you know will keep them in a heightened state of arousal– do that.

Then once you have them considerably aroused, take your finger and lube it up. Start massaging the anus gently, and you may feel some movement in the perineum (the space between the “good stuff”). This is a good thing. They are flexing their pelvic floor muscles, and this can be incredibly stimulating for both of you later on. Make a few circles, and when you both feel comfortable, insert your finger. Go slowly

There are two rings of sphincter muscles (sphincter ani internus and externus) that you have to relax. BOTH sets must be relaxed before you can try inserting anything larger than a finger into the anus. You can sort of hook the tip of your finger around the second one and this will help it to relax.

DO NOT try to “fuck” the anus with your finger just yet. Simply insert, and wait, insert a little more and wait. This is the boring leadup. Insert, wait, rinse, repeat. You will literally feel the muscles loosen, and you may feel like your finger is being sucked further into their anus.

Sphincter internus is the more difficult of the two to help relax, and the one that most often causes the “ouchies” and mishaps.

I think that starting out with a finger as opposed to anal beads or plugs is the best way to delve into the world of anal for two reasons: First, it is more intimate and you learn more about your partner’s body. There is no barrier, and you can literally feel their body give way. Second, fingers are free and more versatile.

So, you’ve played the insert/wait game with the first finger…. great! You’re not there yet, brah! Keep repeating this process until you can fit three fingers in.

Then there’s more waiting.

This was the best method for me to get his cock inside my ass:

Have your partner get on all fours and get behind them with a well lubed, hard cock. Line up your cock with their asshole and do nothing. I’m serious. Line it up for them and let THEM slide back on it at THEIR pace.

Don’t grab hips.

Don’t thrust.

Don’t touch. Hell, lace your fingers behind your head if you have to.

There’s going to be more insert, relax, and wait. But I promise you that if you put the time into making her/him feel relaxed and comfortable it is WELL worth the extra effort.

Once you can get the head past the sphincter internus, you’re good to go! Have fun!!!!

Oh, and you don’t just have to do anal doggy style. I’ve found that I really enjoy girl on top and reverse cowgirl anal. (Hint: BIG BIG orgasms from girl on top anal with a flat based butt plug or a bullet inside my pussy) Get creative! Once you’ve loosened up that booty-hole the possibilities are endless!

Also, remember those pelvic floor muscles we talked about earlier? Ladies and gents, if he’s inside you, squeeze your pelvic floor muscles as he is withdrawing, and then release as he is entering–it will blow his mind. Trust me.

Now go and have fun! Enjoy!

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[denalis]

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[dominantlife]

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

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Some very good information, opinions, and insight that has helped me contextualize my desires and better understand this community.

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Great post that everyone should read.

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Some awesome sources and learning to do during this coronavirus pandemic

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[fuck-yes-baby]

Imagine leaning back against me, your naked back resting on my tits as I play with your hair and kiss the side of your face. I bring a hand round to cup your chin, pulling you into a deep kiss that leaves us both wet. You can feel my wetness against your ass, it turns you on even more. I take my hand from your chin and caress down your body, stopping to play with your sensitive nipples and enjoying the moaning that elicits. My hand ventured further down your body, over your stomach and between your legs to brush against your slit. I gently part your lips and coat my fingers in your wetness. Your head falls back against my shoulder and you whisper my name desperately, urging me to play with your clit. I love listening to you beg so I stop and you try to move my hand with your own. God you’re desperate for me, darling. Because I won’t comply, you begin rubbing your own clit. I let you do this for only a little while before I whisper what a good girl you are for me and take over. My thumb ghosts your clit and my fingers slide effortlessly into you. Two fingers just isn’t enough, is it? You need more. I add another finger, feeling you stretch around them and your breath hitch in your throat. I push you right to the edge, edging you for as long as you can take it and then make you cum. Hard. Do you want more darling?

[neonvqmpire]

[vanilla-voy]

Taking a bath with a sub??? Adding bubbles or a bath bomb and relaxing with them nested into your lap????? Possibly maybe definitely teasing them under the water and kissing their neck from behind??¿??¿?

[sethsblogofkink]

okay hear me out

soft sexual kink

I would Die™️ to need to ask to come, even knowing the answer will always be "yes"

Being told to "give it up"/'give it to me" when I'm so close to coming

Being praised and called sweet thing and blushing and scrunching my nose because praise makes me shy and squirmy and embarrassed and blushy

Asking for what I want from a scene like an adult and then getting it, relaxing into it because there are no surprises, nothing to brace myself for, and I can trust my dom to handle things while I'm soft and small

"don't muffle yourself, those noises are mine, give them to me"

Hickeys!!!! across my shoulders and chest and stomach and thighs!!!

Giving someone an orgasm as they walk me through pleasing them, not having to worry about being good at it because they tell me how to please them, they tell me what to do and all I need to do is listen, and I'm so good at listening

Getting to worship someone who deserves it and being able to ask how to do it better, knowing I will never be made to feel like I've failed

Kneeling and being quiet and soft!!!!

I would like all this very much!!!!!!!!

[vikingefd]

[monstergasms]

As a monster dildo connoisseur, I can say with confidence Bad Dragon is shit. Their quality is like. Slightly below average while their prices are INSANE. I highly recommend Xenocat Creations, Fantasticocks, or Primal Hardwere for cheaper and higher quality toys. The first two are on Etsy and the third has their own website.

Ok, see this is the kind of information we are looking to share to our readers. I am sincerely glad we have a monster cock connoisseur among us to make better recommendations than I can. Thank you very much for helping us.

[konoko]

[gashadyatko]

[girlxgirl-loveedition-blog]

I do

[somebodycallixii]

Love as Acceptance

Caitlyn Siehl // Leonard Cohen, "Anthem" // Rumi, "Bitterweet" // trans. Anne Carson, "Euripides" // Sade Andria Zabala, "Coffee and Cigarettes" // tumblr acct @/gayassnatural // Anne Carson, "H of H Playbook" // William Shakespeare, "Sonnet 116" // Clementine von Radics, "Mouthful of Forevers" // Toni Morrison, "Jazz"

[queenstylinsxn]

Reblog if you’re bisexual, support bisexual people or are actually a bunch of tiny velociraptors in a human suit