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Repaired Library For Kinksters
Please every reblog this just in case my three new backups failâŠ
Welcome to the Library For Kinksters. Check back often as the library is updated frequently. NOTE: In areas of gender or identity most articles are transferable. Articles on subs apply to anyone regardless of gender, etc. The same is true for Dom/Dommes - all articles about Doms applies equally to Dommes.
Aftercare
Aftercare 101
Aftercare For Dominants
Aftercare Kits
Coping With Emotional Subdrop
Different Kinds Of Aftercare
Dom Drop
How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
Online Aftercare
Providing aftercare to your Dominant/Top
Responsibility of Aftercare
Some thoughts on aftercare
sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
Subdrop and Aftercare
Subspace and Aftercare
Collaring
Collar Gallery
Collar of Consideration
Collaring: No, it isnât just a fashion statement in BDSM
Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
What is collaring?
Consent
50 Facts About Rape
Consent & BDSM
CONSENT IS MANDATORY AND NON-NEGOTIABLE
Guide to Consent
Stoyaâs guide to sexual consent in porn
What Is Consent (video)
Dommes/Doms, Daddies & Masters
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
10 Considerations for Aspiring Dominants
10 Reasons you Suck as a Dom
10 Rules For A Dominant
10 Things About Littles
10 Things We Subs Need From You But Wonât Say Out Loud
10 Tips For Spanking A Little
12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
45 Things A Girl Wants, But Wonât Ask For
50 Rules for Daddies
50 things a Caregiver could do for their little!
100 Nonsexual Ways to Make Me Feel Little
100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
Adorable names for the little man in your life
Alternative Names For âDaddyâ
Alternative Domme Titles
Are you a Dom?
Aspects Of Control
Asserting Ownership - Rules
Caregivers On A Budget
Conditioning Submissives
Daddy Up!
Defining A Daddy Dom
Dom Drop
Dominance and Self-Control
Dominants Need Training Also
Ethics of Dominance â New Submissives
Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
Help For New Doms
How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
How to be the Perfect Daddy in 10 Steps!
How to Find a Submissive
Ignoring in a D/s Relationship
Ignoring your little is never OK. Period. Point Blank.
Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
Long Distance Help For Submissives
Male Dominance - Reality and Fiction
Master List Of Punishments and Rewards
Neglect Of A Little
New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
Observations On Doms By A Submissive
Punishment Management: A Guide To Unruly Submissives
Punishments for littles
Qualities of A Successful Dominant
Questions To Ask Your Little
Rewards Of Having A Submissive In Your Life
Rules For Owning A Catgirl
So You Think You Are A Daddy Dom?
So you want to be a Dom?
So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
The Daddy Dominantâs Creed
The Dominants Creed
The Dom Commandments
The Gift Of Dominance
Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
Things You Can Do to be a Better Daddy
Tips for Taking Care of a Little When Theyâre Sick
Traits of a Genuine Dominant
Websites/Pages You Can Get Stuff For Your Little On
What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissiveâs Perspective
What does the title Daddy mean?
What is a Daddy Dom?
What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
What is a Dominant & how to be a good one
What It Means To Be A Dominant
What Makes A Good Dominant
What To Do When Your Little Has The Grumps!
Littles, Subs & Slaves
6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
7 Common Types of Submissives
10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
10 Things a Dom Expects A Sub To Know Without Being Told
10 Things a Dom NeedsâŠ
10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
10 Top Little Space Activities
11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
12 Things Every Submissive Should Know
12 Traits of a True Dom
16 Things That Make Me Feel Little
21 First Steps for Daddy Dom & little girl
26 Baby Girl Jobs
40 Things To Do With Your Stuffies
50 Great Rewards For Your Little Princess
50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
101 Little Space Activities
A Bottomâs Responsibility
A Dominantâs Advice To His Submissive
A Littleâs Masterpost
A Man Who Knows YouâŠ
A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
Acid Test For Subs
Ask A Million And One Questions
Activities Littles Can Do Without Caregivers
Attraction to DD/lg: A Littleâs Perspective
Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
Becoming A Sub: The Starter Guide
Bedtime Rituals
Bedtime Stories For Littles
Care and feeding of Daddies
Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
Coping with Emotional Sub Drop
Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
Daddy Is NOT Always Right
DDlg Masterpost
Feminist Submissive
Finding Your Dominant
Fun Bentos To Try
Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
âHow do I find Daddy?â A guide to help you safely find the Daddy youâre looking for.
How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
How To Find A Dom
How to Get Your Little to Go to Bed: A Guide
How to Interview a Dom/Master Prospect
How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
How to Spot a Fake âDaddyâ
I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
Littles vs Ageplayers: Why they arenât the same
Non-binary pet names for littles
Novice Submissives
On Being a Woman and a Little
Pet Names For Littles
Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
Phrases that little me loves to hear
Signs Of A Fake âDominantâ
So, What is a âLittleâ? An EssayâŠ
Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
Sub Frenzy â A Seductive State of Potential Trouble
Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
Submissiveâs Owner Manual
Submissive Pride
Submissive Traits - Intelligence
Submissive Traits - Leadership
Submissive Traits - Service
Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
Websites/Pages You Can Get Stuff For Your Little On
What is a Little?
What is a Middle?
What is the definition of a Baby Girl?
What do you do when a submissive says a safe word?
When newbie subs, with asinine âdoms,â need to run away.
When your Daddy is having a bad day
Why I call him Daddy
Wonderful World Of Littles
Words Have Meaning - Submissive and Slave Explained
Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance & Online Relationships
10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Kink And The World Of Warcraft
Long Distance Relationships Ideas
Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
Meeting For The First Time
Online D/s Relationships - A Personal View
Punishments for LDR DD/LG (CG/L) Couples
The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Things To Help Long Distance Relationships
Ways a Dom can be more involved in his submissiveâs daily life.
Relationships
10 Habits of Happy Couples
10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again
10 Signs Youâre in a Healthy Relationship
10 Tips For Keeping Your Love Alive
10 Top Communication Mistakes
10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
50 Best Ways To Say âI Love Youâ
BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
Building Trust in Relationships
Communication Is Key
Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
Crucial Ingredients for a Great Relationship
Daddy Doms and their little girls
Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
Dangers of Dom/Sub Gravity
Date Night In A Jar
Depictions of D/S as Unromantic
DD/lg In Public
Dominance, Submission and Freedom
D/s and Domestication
Factors That Make A Relationship
Finding Love When You Least Expect It
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
Forming A D/s Relationship
Great Idea For All DDlg & CGl Relationships When Youâre Together
Green Flags For Relationships
Importance Of Communication
Is Your Partner Having A Bad Day? Hereâs How To Help
Help for When a Relationship Ends
How To Be Present In Your Relationships
How To Build A Healthy Relationship
How to Create a Winning Relationship
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
How To Know When Youâve Found âThe Oneâ
How to Recover from a Broken Heart
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
Importance Of Trust In A Relationship
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner - Part 1
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2 - My Partner is Not Interested
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!
Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
LDR: Tie A Yellow RibbonâŠ
Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
Perfect Date Check List
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
Searching for a D/s partner?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
Science Behind A Happy Relationship
Stop Arguments Before They Start
The Faces of D/s
The Rewards of a Submissive
Types Of Relationship Insecurity
Unusual Date Ideas
Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
What Is Real Love?
When He Doesnât Call
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Rope Tutorials
Shibari Tutorial: Box Tie
Shibari Tutorial: Coin Basket Harness
Shibari Tutorial: Consequence Collar & Cuff
Shibari Tutorial: Corset Harness
Shibari Tutorial: Dragonfly Sleeve
Shibari Tutorial: Frog Tie
Shibari Tutorial: Hand Ties
Shibari Tutorial: Hip Harness
Shibari Tutorial: Hitachi Harness
Shibari Tutorial: Hog Tie
Shibari Tutorial: Loverâs Harness
Shibari Tutorial: Pearl Harness & Wrist Cuffs
Shibari Tutorial: Rope Ladder
Shibari Tutorial: Side-arm Harness
Shibari Tutorial: Samurai Tie
Shibari Tutorial: Tortoise Shell Body Suit
Safety
Another life ruined because of the morality police
BDSM & the Law
Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
BREAKING BONES AS PUNISHMENT IS NOT KINK, IT IS ABUSE
DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
Guide To Choking
Infographic: Difference Between BDSM & Abuse
Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldnât
Limits in BDSM
PSA: Be Cautious When Choking
Red Flags in BDSM
Safety Before Suspension
Safety when looking for a Potential Dom/me
âTumblr domâ versus Daddy Dom
What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
21 Tips to Keep Your Shit Together When Youâre Depressed
7 Tips for Being a More Likeable Person
7 Tips for Leading a Fulfilling Life
8 Powerful Steps to Positive Thinking
10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
10 Steps To Positive Body Image
10 Steps To Self Care
10 Truths To Live By
10 Ways To Be Happy
10 Ways To Show Love To Someone With Depression
13 Things mentally strong people avoid
15 Important Life Lessons
35 Practical Tools for Men to Further Feminist Revolution
Alternatives To Negative Feelings
Anxiety and BDSM
Avoid Some of the Main Brain Damaging Habits
Battling the complications of varying emotional states
BDSM practitioners âhealthier and less neuroticâ than âvanillaâ peers
Body image & BDSM
Characteristics of Genuinely Low Self-Esteem
Communication Tips to Save Relationships
Dalai Lamaâs Guide Rules For Living
Dealing with Feelings of Shame and Worthlessness
Declutter Your Life
Do You Love Someone With Depression?
Good Habits to Develop
Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
How To Be Yourself
How To Cope With Jealousy
How To Cope With Test Anxiety
How To Deal With Your Enemies
How to Get Over Feeling Sad
How To Ignore Haters
How To Increase Your Patience
How to Let Go of Fear of Abandonment
How To Make A Gliitery âCalm Bottleâ
How to Overcome Apathy
How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
How to Succeed at School
How To Take Care Of Yourself
How To Trust Again
Is BDSM normal?
Living a Life that is Meaningful
Love your Vulva â a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
Meditation And Mindfulness
On Cutting
Overcoming Fear
People You Need In Your Life
Psychologists Say Coloring Is The Best Alternative To Meditation
Qualities of a Winning Personality
Quick and Simple Guide To Anxiety Disorders
Science Of Happiness
Self-Care Masterpost
Self Help Masterpost
Slut Shaming Explained
Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
Taking A Look At Depression
Tips for Getting What you Want out of Life
Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
Tips for Overcoming Shyness
Tips for Recovering from Codependency
Tips for Showing Kindness
Tips For When You Feel Angry
Things to Do When Youâre Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
Things To Do When You Are Sad
Very Brief Guide To Self Care
What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
When You Feel Fed Up
Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Sex
10 Chastity / Forced Denial Benefits
10 Traits of a Blowjob Queen
50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
50 Things Public Education Probably FAILED To Teach You
Anal Sex - An Ownerâs Manual
Basics of Breath Play
Butt Stuff - A FAQ For Anal Play
Changing the way your cum tastes
Chastity ControlâŠ
Comprehensive Sex Ed: The Basics
Contraceptive Masterpost
Disability and Sexuality Resources
D/s or Kinky Sex?
Edged Beyond the Point-of-No-Return
Fellatio Tips - It ainât all about sucking
Fetishes Explained
Girl-on-Top Cunnilingus
Head-Play: Excellent Masturbation Technique!
How I Became a Queer Heterosexual by Clyde Smith (1997)
How to Have a Female Orgasm That Lasts 15-Minutes
How To Make A Girl Squirt
How to Properly Edge Him
How To Tell Your Son About Sex
Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
Managing decreasing libido in D/S
Perfect, Real-World Blowjob Technique Part 1
Perfect, Real-World Blowjob Technique Part 2
Perfect, Real-World Blowjob Technique Part 3
Philosophy Of Denial
Sensual Biting
Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
Sex: Practical Details
Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
Squirting Educational Video
Squirting Notes
The Neurobiology of BDSM
Unsung Virtues of Hard, Fast, Quick Sex
Why Itâs Important For Her To Cum First
Why Some Pain Helps Us Feel Pleasure
Toys
Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs
All About Violet Wands
Basic Types Of Ball Gags
BDSM on a budget
Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)
Dildo Types
How to make a Hitachi Magic Wand Chair
How to make an ice dildo
Kink On A Budget
How to hide a suspension point in your celling
Lube Compatibility: Sex Toys & Safer Sex Barriers
Nipple Clamp Gallery
Pet Ear Gallery
Safety Guide to The Violet Wand
Tail Butt Plug Types
Types Of Wax For Wax Play
Vaginal Juicers: A Buyerâs Guide
Training
10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
10 Tips when Spanking a Little
15 Points of a BDSM relationship
30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
A List Of Books About BDSM
An Instructional Guide to Kinks, Fetishes and the World of BDSM
Age Play: A Short Guide
Asserting Ownership - Posing
Basics of Domination and Submission
BDSM Contracts
BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
BDSM Roles
Common BDSM Roles
Direction and Acceptance
Discipline & Punishment
D/s and Kink
First Things First - A BDSM Checklist
Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 3 - Structure and Discipline
FAQ For Newbies
Female Orgasm Control
Female Stimulation and Forced Orgasms
Forced Orgasms, With Love!
Glossary of BDSM Terms
Guide To Blood Play
Guide To Bruising
Guide To Jelqing
Guide To Spanking & Impact Play
Guide To Subspace
Guide To Talking Dirty
Guide To Wax Play
Hand Signals For Subs
Hazards of Ignoring in a D/s Relationship
How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
How to Choose and Use a Safeword
How to get your Sub in subspace, a guide for beginners
How to Lace Up Your Corset - A Helpful Infographic
How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
How To Make A Comfort Box
Ignoring your sub is an act of abuse
Infographic: Anatomy Of A Spanking
Infographic: Tips On Breath Play
Introducing your partner to a new fetish
Introduction To BDSM
Kinky Sex And Bondage Tips For S&M First Timers
Learning To Trust Your Instincts
Matters of the D/s Heart: A Serious and Long Overdue Conversation
Mixing Vanilla with the D/s Spice - Opening Pandoraâs Box of the Heart
Newbieâs Guide To Vaginal Fisting
Pet Play: How Kittens Can Annoy Their Owners
Pet Play: How To Make Pet Food For Your Pet
Punishments in BDSM Relationships
Rape Fantasy & Resistance Play
Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
Remission, Revitalization and anchoring of life through D/S
Safewords and Safesigns 101
Safeword Basics
S&M for beginners: Easing into a new situation
SFâs Guide To Safewords
Should you mix personal fetishes into punishments?
Slave Position Training Map
Some Thoughts On Rules
Sting Levels of Impact Toys
Submission Training With Love - A Vanilla Perspective
SubmissiveFeministâs Guide to Behaviour Modification
Switching It Up
The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
The Need For Rules and Discipline
Thoughts on Correction
Thoughts on Protocol - âThe Invisible Leashâ
Topping from the bottom
Training in D/s: Why? (1 of 3)
Training in D/s: How? (2 of 3)
Training in D/s: Thoughts & Concerns (3 of 3)
Trust and D/s
Wax Play Tips
After me and my dom have a scene he always wants to talk about it afterwards. It's really annoying having to reassure him that I liked what he's done and him wanting to cuddle. I am trying to come down from the things he has done to me during the scene and this weakness in him is really turning me off. How do I get him to stop with this stuff and have him take care of me?
Honestly this kind of shit pisses me off really bad.
Iâm gonna level with you: I understand that many different people require many different types of aftercare. Some people need sweet intimacy. Some need alone time. A little may need a story. A slave might like her Master to give her a warm bath. All of these are valid.
This is not valid. This is selfish.
No, you arenât selfish for needing what you need after a scene. You are selfish for this derogatory attitude towards your partner.
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The words you are using make me physically hurt for him. âAnnoyingâŠweaknessâŠstop and take care of ME.â Itâs actually disgusting. Orchestrating a scene is a very demanding job. Making sure to keep you engaged while not pushing you too hard too fast is a lot of work. Taking count of your body language, your words, and each draw of breath you take in order to calculate his next move to maximize both of your pleasure is MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY GOD-DAMN EXHAUSTING. Submissives with this â Itâs all about meâ mentality are a fucking stain on the community. Itâs about BOTH of you, and you should be ashamed of yourself. You deserve the kind of care you think you need. I believe that very much. But so does he. Doing so will help him perform better, be more confident, more comfortable, and be an all around better dominant for you. Build him up. Support him. Imagine it was him who was asking me this, but the subject was you? How would you feel? Like shit, huh? Neglected? Hurt? Are you being the person you expect him to be? No. No you are not. Appreciate your partner, please.
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Red Flags
I read a lot of posts/asks here on Tumblr that make me want to scream, âGet out! Run away!â Over, and over again, I see submissives ignoring the warning signs of an abusive, or âfuckboyâ, Dominant. So, I thought assembling a list of what to watch out for might help even one submissive stand up for herself, and to me thatâs definitely worth the effort. I hope other submissives will comment and add any warning signs that Iâve missed, in hopes that they reach someone out there that might find courage in seeing them in black and white.
You should be reevaluate your Dominant (or prospective Dominant) if theyâŠ
-Disappear for a day or more without any contact or explanation
-Withdraw attention as punishment
-Ask whether you like anal before asking about your hobbies
-Tell you that âas the Dominantâ they donât owe you an explanation when theyâre âtoo busyâ
-Habitually limit your contact with others
-Have nothing nice to say about any of their former significant others
-Tell you that you misunderstood the situation instead of apologizing, or comforting you, when you are upset
-Never say please
-Tell you boundaries are meant to be pushed
-Complain if you use your safeword, or if say you donât want to try something
-Get mad when you ask about the reasoning behind a decision
A day? Most of this list Iâm all for, but please recognize people have lives.
For myself its not uncommon to vanish for 2-3 days when I get caught up with work and training and I canât be the only one.
Be transparent, but people get busy outside of tumblr. Patience is a virtue.
In my book, outside of emergency situations, there is no reason to disappear for more than a day without, as I said, âcontact or explanation.â
That is a matter of priority. If youâre a surgeon and you have a 30 hour shift you send a message beforehand and say âon call this weekend and wonât be in contact. Love youâ.
99.9999% of situations there is no excuse for not taking literally 30 seconds to tell someone whatâs going on.
Sorry if you disagree, but for ME, unless you have an emergency, (which would mean there is an explanation afterward other than âI was busyâ) thatâs 100% a dealbreaker.
Iâm with @pleasurewhore on this being a dealbreaker. My first D/s experience ended because there was increasing unpredictability about when he would be in touch, including a couple of isolated days of no contact toward the end, and I couldnât handle that. Because, you see, D/s involves a lot of vulnerability and trust, and if I was opening myself up, being willing to submit, and I needed to know, both at a conscious and practical level, and at a subconscious instinctive level, that it was safe for me to do that, andâto use an awkward metaphorâwould definitely be caught every time I stepped off a vulnerability ledge. The dynamic ended amicably, and I didnât fault him for it; it was just a clear sign that we had different expectations, that what he could offer and what I needed didnât align, and in short, that we werenât a good match.
In response to the âpeople have livesâ person, yes, they do. And people have lives outside of Tumblr. But unless the dynamic in question is very specifically only messing around on Tumblr, I donât think people having âlives outside of Tumblrâ is at all a reason for lapses in communication. For me, for a lot of people, and I think certainly for the intended audience of this red flags list, D/s is a real thing that has real impact on peopleâs real lives and priorities and state of wellbeing.
If you happen to be looking for something casual, then more power to you! Youâre entirely within your right to do so, and I will defend it as a legitimate choice. But if a D/s dynamic is meant to have any real bearing on a personâs real self, then âgetting caught up with workâ and the like just doesnât work as a reason, because it clearly demonstratesâand not favorablyâwhere the dynamic ranks in priorities.
Speaking personally again, and with my flavor of submission in mind, there would be no point in pursuing it at all if I didnât intend to let it hold a position of priority in my life. Where specifically it falls in, say, the top 3 priorities, I think thereâs some fluidity there, and that will certainly vary even for people interested in 24/7 D/s. In short, though, the vulnerability that is needed on my part in order to submit to someone is totally incompatible with a âjust Tumblrâ dynamic, or with falling low on someone elseâs life priorities list.
Thatâs right, Iâm reblogging again because I think this is spot on. ^^^
Casual relationships are fine, and legitimate, but thatâs just not how I do D/s.
Iâve been on the receiving end of this sort of behavior, and Iâve watched a couple day absence send a good friend spiraling into depressive anxious behavior. I donât know any subs personally who would be okay with this lack of contact, but that doesnât mean they donât exist. This is âRed Flagsâ for people to look for and think about. Not having anything nice to say about Ex-submissives isnât necessarily a deal breaker for everyone either, but it is a red flag. Personally I think if youâre going to be taking absences of a day or more thatâs got to be a negotiated part of the relationship.
A 30 second message is no time at all âŠ. thatâs the time in an elevator or walking from your car. 30 seconds to make your partner know that they are important - surely they deserve that?!!!! It doesnât have to be an essay - no one is asking for that âŠ.just a message to know that they are acknowledged. If you canât do thatâŠâŠâŠâŠâŠâŠâŠ.
A man should never be ashamed to own he has been wrong, which is but saying, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday. - Alexander Pope
Reblog and see if you get a color.
PURPLE: We near never speak, but I do enjoy your presence on my dashboard.
FUCHSIA: I wish I could become your best friend through the internet.
GREY: You leave me with jumbled words.
RED: I'm in love with you.
PINK: I have a crush on you.
TURQUOISE: You're hot.
CHARTREUSE: I sincerely wish you would notice me.
TEAL: We have quite a lot in common.
BLUE: You are my Tumblr crush.
ORANGE: I dislike your page.
YELLOW: PLEASE FUCK ME.
WHITE: PLEASE MARRY ME.
GREEN: I find you cute.
BLACK: I would date you.
BROWN: I dislike you.
Broke up with my boyfriend because I am sick of how busy he always is with his job and his family. I can't come second to that. I have needs. He also had a cry about how stressed he is and how he's on the verge of a mental break down. I need a daddy who is strong and has his shit together. Suggestions on where to find one of those?
You sound like an incredibly selfish person who lacks empathy towards people and the understanding of how the real world and relationships work, and quite frankly with the disgusting attitude that you posses, I dont think you deserve to be with anyone until you rectify this self entitlement.
Having a Daddy, Dom, Caregiver, Sir, Master etc. Does not mean that the entire relationship is about you.Â
Understanding both parties needs and being there equally for each other.
Supporting each otherâs up moments and down moments.
Offering some guidance and clarity on a situation he may be dealing with, just like he does with anything youâre dealing with.
Its all give and take.Â
There is so much talk on all these bad Dominant, but no-one really goes on about a bad Submissives;Â
The âSubmissiveâ that wants everything from their Dominant, but gives nothing in return.
The âSubmissiveâ who places all their happiness and self worth on their Dominant, hoping that this person is going to make them happy and keep them happy 24 hours of the day, and when that burden is placed too heavy on the Dominant, then resulting in them not being able to deliver in such a way, (a way that is merely impossible for anyone to sustain mind you) the Submissive then blames the Dominant for not âgiving proper careâ.
Relying on someone to make you feel complete and whole, isnt fair on your partner, but its not fair on yourself, because you need to be able to find happiness and be content with yourself, just as you are.
I find it very sad that your Daddy was tending to his responsibilities at work and because he couldnât give you the attention you needed, you called it quits. I suggest maybe getting a hobby, or finding some friends because you can not place your entire existence on one person.
Thats unhealthy.Â