Just like you have safe words/nonverbal actions to let your partner know to slow down or stop, y'all gotta incorporate predetermined provoking words/actions that let your partner know 'I want you to escalate the scene'.
For example, mine is spitting, if I spit, I just know I'm about to get my shit rocked. It's been scene changing for us, especially for cnc. It's a nice way to beg for more rough treatment without breaking the immersion. I can still fight back and struggle but I get him to choke me harder or slap me like I want.
omg that's genius. it's like a taunt











