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I know you sit alone scrolling through all the dirty horny blogs you follow, squeezing your thighs together, maybe you edge, maybe you lay there wishing you weren't alone.
But no matter what; you fantasise.
All those naughty thoughts in your head.
You're wet.
You should confess.
You should tell someone, make them real.
Be a good girl and confess to me.
Asks and DMs darling.
Outa curiousity, would anyone be interested in me starting posting again?
It's been a while 😅 but if you would, drop me anons and we'll give it a go
Stay safe 🌹
A post about masochism:
Okay, I want to start out by saying that this is just my personal thoughts and that not everything I say is to be taken as the 100% accurate truth. I don't act like I know everything, and I make an effort to learn and educate myself whenever I have the opportunity.
But after spending some time running this blog, I do think some people have the misconception that masochism looks and works the same for every person. That it's only about physical pain, for example.
When in reality it's actually about the feelings and pleasure the masochist experience.
First off: Masochism is a broad term used in psychology and comes in different types.
In BDSM, it often refers to sexual/erotic masochism: generally speaking, sexual arousal from pain, physical, and/or mental.
Other types of masochism are: psychological, moral, and adaptive. The first two are nonsexual forms, while the last one can be debated depending on how you look at it.
If you're interested, I definitely recommend looking into masochism and the different types (you might have to read some Freud though, so have fun with that). But in this post, I'm only going to focus on sexual masochism.
No masochist is the same. There's no standard version that you can spot by how they dress, look, act or talk. Learning if someone defines themselves as a masochist can only be done through communication. For most people, this statement is pretty obvious. But unfortunately, it's not uncommon that we sort people under labels at first glance.
What is pain and what do I enjoy? Just as with appearances, no masochist is the same when it comes to what type of pain they like.
Physical pain: most common form is impact play, like someone using their hand or an object to inflict pain on a certain part of your body. Temperature play, biting, rough groping and holding, certain types of knife play, asphyxiation, "forced penetration", are a few other examples that falls under this category, in my opinion.
Mental pain: like degradation/humiliation, denial, feeling inferior to someone. In general, things that makes the person experience emotional pain in some sort of way. Wanting to feel ashamed, objectified, or belittled are a few examples.
Some masochist like all types of pain. Some maybe just like physical or mental. While others might enjoy a mix, but like one kind more than the other.
If I use myself as an example: I lean heavily towards mental pain, I like to feel embarrassed, ashamed, and inferior to my partner. Dacryphilia (like, getting turned on by crying) is also a big one for me and can be achieved both through physical and mental pain. And though I lean towards mental pain, it doesn't mean I don't enjoy being manhandled once in a while😌
If you reading this is someone who's trying to figure out if you're a masochist or not. Or maybe trying to figure out what kind of pain you are into. Don't stress it!! Self-discovery is a never-ending journey when it comes to masochism. There's a lot of trial and error in discovering what works best for you. And you can like something for a period of time and then not be into it at all. It's okay to change your mind!
A list of things that's good to keep in mind for both masochists and their partner:
I can't stress this enough, but open communication is so important. You need to know your own boundaries and set them in stone. Your partner needs to respect them and not push them without your explicit consent.
SAFE WORD SAFE WORD SAFE WORD! A must always if you are engaging in any type of BDSM or kink play. If you can't speak, using your hand to tap your partners body or holding an object that you can drop is a good way of communicating that you need to stop. And safe words need to be respected, no matter who says it!!
Trust. You need to be able to trust a person before putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. Because that's probably how you will feel during and/or after, vulnerable. I would never engage in any type of pain play the first time I'm sleeping with someone. Building up a mutual trust is essential, both for you and your partner.
Don't push pain play onto someone. Even though Tumblr seems to be crawling with sadist, it's not an accurate depiction. There's plenty of doms who hate pain play and find it mentally straining to hit or degrade someone. Once again, communication.
On that note, not every masochist wants to experience pain every single time they have sex. Everyone wants to feel cared for and loved once in a while.
After care is mandatory, always. Your partner should know what your needs are and how to make you feel comfortable, safe, and reassured. If you intend to break skin during impact play or knife play, your partner should know how to properly clean and dress the wounds. And remember, after care goes two ways. Your partner also have needs, and reassuring them that you liked what they did to you is a must, in my opinion. (*If you liked it, otherwise you need to communicate what you didn't like to them too)
Okay, this might sound a bit weird. But I highly recommend testing things out on yourself. See how hard you are comfortable hitting yourself with a paddle before letting someone else use it. Curious about temperature play? Buy some paraffin candles or take some ice cubes, so you know how it feels on your body. Set up your camera and film yourself saying degrading words, so you know what feels embarrassing, but also good. It's a good way to test your limits with someone you can trust 100%, yourself❤️
To finish this very long post, I want to highlight something:
There's nothing wrong with being a masochist. Believe me, I understand the confusing feelings of shame or thinking that there must be something wrong with you, just because you like pain during sex. The important thing is that you know what you enjoy. And if you're worried that you might be exposing yourself to pain during sex for the wrong reasons, talk to a psychologist. It helps so much, I'm speaking from personal experience.
Like I said in the beginning, these are just my personal thoughts about masochism, and I'm definitely not an expert who knows everything there is to know. There might even be a few errors in the text.
So feel free to correct and/or add as much as you want to this post so we can learn a little bit more together.
Thank you for reading❤️
My brain is all over the place lately but this beautiful human put all my thoughts together without even knowing it!
She speaks 1000% truth, it's a long read but it's good for your brain!
Stay safe, stay curious and keep learning❤️
Drop me an anon ask, give me something challenging to reply to❤️
This is your safe place
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You horny lil freak, you delved too deep😘🌹
I'm a feminist but get so wet reading your posts, I can't help it. A man domesticating me and putting me in my place sounds hot.
That's totally okk sweetie, your beliefs and your kinks don't have to line up.
It's totally okk to want to be domesticated and have a place to be put in, and as long as you're comfortable and you have someone that respects you as a person the main thing is to have fun☺️
Feminism is a very broad term and it means a lot of different things to a lot of different people, but to me I feel that at it's most simplistic it just means that any woman should have the right to choose freely and a fair chance to try to be anything she wants. If that's a housewife, that's her choice, at the end of the day, you don't have to worry about feminism if you just treat each person with respect ❤️
Just be yourself and if you want to talk more, my inbox is open ☺️🌹
hey btw i just wanna say that if someone ever sends you a picture of their face or body and you shame them for how they look or for having body hair you're a dick and never deserved those pictures in the first place !!!!
Fuck fucking yes.
Now read it again and tattoo it behind your eyelids.
OP idk you but that some top shelf badassery of the highest level❤️
I I think m too needy.. m supr drippy all times an an it makes me soo dumb.. how needy is too needy? how how do I stop being this drippy toy? 🥺
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Aww sweetheart! Drippy and needy aren't bad things! You can be as needy as you wanna as long as you make sure you're safe and cared about!
If you need serious advice on how to get out of subspace though I'm always happy to help, and sub drop can be really hard too.
No matter what, though: In every situation, make sure you always always always get aftercare! It's super important ❤️
I need my cunny filled so bwad but im scared it’ll hurt >< ~🐰
Aww darling, it's okk to be nervous, especially if it's your first time! The important thing is to take it slow and steady and start with something small at first☺️
Just remember you're only little and you have plenty of time to practice, don't rush into anything that's going to hurt🌹
it’s so easy to get lost in your kink on here, remember you’re still talking to real people. it’s not all kink all the time. be considerate. be kind. irl these things take a LOT of communication and trust in order to be healthy and safe physically and mentally. fantasy is fine, just don’t forget we’re all human at the end of the day.
Say it louder for the people in the back!🌹
Sometimes, you just need to hold hands and get compliments, and that's okk❤️
Guys and girls, everyone deserves compliments and a hand to hold❤️
...also sometimes orgasms 🌹
Girls that look up at you with their makeup ruined, lipstick smeared and drool running from their chin to their thighs, just to ask;
"Did I make you proud?"
Yeah. Those girls.🌹
Not a confession, but a question for you, would you rather be in a relationship with a woman / man who has other partners ? Or would you prefer you and your partner beeing the only ones in the relationship?
Good question, I think it works differently for different people, and monogamous relationships are definitely more stable and comfortable as a rule. However, I think dynamics with others involved can work, and there's nothing inherently wrong with them but as a rule I would prefer a monogamous relationship and if ever me and my partner decided to experiment and involve anyone else that would be something for us to talk about between us and see what works ☺️ I hope this answers everything and if you wanna know more my DMs are open for a chat 🌹
I love you supporting the women in your rebloggs💕 we need more people like you one here!
Also your blog is very very nice 🤭🤭
Aww, thank you so much for such a lovely ask sweetheart! 🌹
Not just women, we all just need to support and care for each other more and be kind!
You have a very cute blog yourself ☺️
Reblog if u want anonymous dms and asks ;)
Is there ever a bad time for anons 🌹
✮⋆˙ just wanna be skinny enough to post my t!ts and h0les like all the good slvts do.. ˙⋆✮
Fuck this mentality. Let's normalise anyone (of age) being able to show off without feeling bad about their size.
Show off the curves, you look amazing!
Don't believe me? My dms are open, and I'm happy to confirm.
I need bigger tits so men know they can grope me
Such a silly girl.
Little tits still deserve grabbing and groping.
The important part is the size of the smile all that attention gives you🌹
