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10 Facts about DD/LB you should know right now

1 - Dino nuggets are infinitely better than boring round ones, if only because they double as cool toys. 2 - A loose sweater and undies might tease daddy but it’s really comfy so us littles don’t really care! 3 - Spill-proof sippy-cups are a must because they WILL spill and they WILL get on that coloring page that hours were spent on. 4 - Daddy’s clothes smell good because they were worn by Daddy, even if Daddy stinks like a gorilla. 5 - There is no scientifically proven way to keep a little from becoming distracted on the streets and running to pet every puppy he sees. 6 - Little boys might not know anything about something but either way we know everything about it. 7 - NEW CRAYONS YAY 8 - Snacktime is always good, but NO NAPTIME EW NO EUGH BLEH 9 - Jammies time is best time! 10 - YOUR LITTLE BOY LOVES YOU TO DEATH

Apologies for the decline in posting. Had some personal matters to situate within my life as well as shift priorities around. Here’s an update of my leather harness that I’ll be wearing at Charlotte Pride this year with my tribe.

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Daddies with Their littles.

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oaluz

long term effects of emotional abuse:

a distrust in your perceptions

a tendency to be fearful or on guard

self-consciousness or fear of how you are coming across

an inability to be spontaneous

a distrust of people and in future relationships

anger that bursts out unexpectedly

sensitivity to anyone trying to control you

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polythought

“It’s not about romance. It’s not about physicality. It’s not, in the end, about polyamory at all. It’s about human connection in whatever shape it may take.”

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Jasna - The bigger picture of polyamory

Yes!!! So much this! That’s polyamory for me, that’s how I am.

(via amaranthianightingale)

I wouldn’t go so far (for myself) to say that it’s not about polyamory at all – I definitely have an interest in being in multiple relationships. That being said, I identify with a huge amount of what this author says in the linked article. The salient fact of polyamory, for me, is the ABILITY to let new connections develop organically, without restrctions on what they’re allowed to become. That in itself is wonderous. There have been times I’ve only been in one relationship, and that’s fine. What’s most important to me is that I at least have the OPTION for more. As an extrovert, I’m a people person to the core, and at some point it clicked for me that to be true to myself, I needed to live a life where the connections I had with people could find their own best-fitting format, rather than be restricted by the fact that I was already in a relationship. I’ve been poly for over three years now (starting when I was single), and of course, there are still plenty of monogamous people I meet (and who are dear to me), but even if those particular doors are closed, that’s fine. It’s good when everyone can set their own boundaries, and other people choosing monogamy is a-okay. But for myself, I am glad to know that I now live a life where I’m open to so many more relationship possibilities than I was before.

polyamandhellaglam

Polyamory is safe for work. Polyamory is safe for kids. Polyamory is safe for day time tv. Polyamory isn’t more sexual than any other relationship and it can be just as romantic, sweet, and healthy.

As one should do…

Gentlemen take note.

Aftercare is not optional, it is essential.

polyamorysuggestions

Hot tip! In monogamous relationships, jealousy is often seen as a hallmark of true love.

Of COURSE that isn’t true. Jealousy can happen all the time for any reason, and it shouldn’t be read into, vilified, or seen as denoting some deeper meaning– jealousy only means that you’re insecure about something, and you should look into how to address that.

DON’T vilify jealousy! Face it head-on, have conversations.

polyamorysuggestions

@belladonnamoon Jealousy isn’t an inherently bad emotion. Emotions themselves aren’t bad. Being insecure isn’t bad. This is pretty much the exact opposite of what I was trying to say; Not dealing with jealousy or vilifying yourself/your partner for having the feeling will only worsen the problem.

If someone is insecure, there’s a reason for it. Even if that reason is related to something external or is otherwise unrelated to the relationship itself, even if it is irrational, it is always beneficial to talk openly about it and discuss what can be done. Relationships are places to understand and care for each other. If your partner is jealous and your reaction is to be angry rather than to try to address the issue, it is creating an environment that doesn’t discuss problems.

-August

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Here’s a reminder that you don’t have to do things… just because other people, partners, or groups do them. If you don’t like date nights that involve eating out– don’t do them! I personally don’t like kissing. It’s kind-of gross at length, so we just don’t kiss that much. It’s okay to live your life in a way that suits you, and have relationships that are your own.

purplebuddhaproject

“When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”

— Elizabeth Gilbert (via purplebuddhaquotes)