that girl you can always talk to

Just a girl with stories to tell. I'm always here to help if you ever need. I grew up not having older sisters to help me out, so I want to be the older sister I never had to help you guys out. Feel free to ask anything and everything, I will answer as openly and honestly as possible! Much love to you all always!! Please watch the link added below. Post by Malik Tajamul Hayat Khan.

[kushandwisdom]

“ As long as you be yourself, there’s nothing wrong with having some people who don’t like you. It happens to everyone. ”

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Be the light that helps others see through the darkness.

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How to not overthink when it comes to guys

girl, I have no idea. I used to overthink, a lot, then my friends kept me in check and told me to not overthink whatever happened. I’ve gone through this pattern too many times to learn to take things as they are and not to try to find some “hidden meaning” behind each and every action. the fact of the matter is, guys will do whatever it is they do, and there (for the most part) won’t be anything to over think, it either is or it isn’t. I still do my fair share of over thinking, but I try to stop myself before I get too far, haha. 

just ask yourself if whatever you’re thinking is THAT likely that it’s worth thinking about. chances are, it’s not. I hope this helps, let me know if you need anything else! 

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Basically this!

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how do you keep a conversation going when you feel you might be annoying that person? Tht person is responsive, but conversation feels dry?

first and foremost, don’t feel like you’re annoying that person. they choose to reply because they want to talk to you too. and if they did feel as if talking to you was annoying to them, they will probably say so, so please don’t feel like you’re annoying that person. 

secondly, if the conversation feels dry, try talking about something you have in common with that person, or something they’re interested in that you want to learn more about, but don’t force yourself to get into something that isn’t your thing. 

it also has to do with vibes. if you vibe well with that person, you won’t have to worry about making them feel annoyed or the conversation being dry. this is just something to keep in mind! 

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done with my second year, hell yes.

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can i ask how that happen? how did you deal with it? Not even certain if i even know much about the friendzone thing.

I’m not exactly sure how it happened either. he just stopped talking to me, and I was hurt by it, but I didn’t let it get to me. he wasn’t that great of a person anyway, he was an f-boy, hahaha. I was hurt, I was mad, and I cried, but in the end, I knew if he was going to do that, he wasn’t worth my time.

as for the friendzone situation, I know it hurts, but in a way, it’s a good thing. the person isn’t leading you on, and they’re being straightforward with you. it’ll take time for the hurt to heal, but you’ll be okie <3 let me know if you need anything hon :) 

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have you been friendzoned before?

Yes? I have a question mark bc he never really explicitly put me in the friendzone, he just ghosted me, but about a year afterwards, he talked to me like we were buddy-buddy, so I guess I’ve been friendzoned :/

[kushandwisdom]

Tearing others down won’t get you any higher.

- Unknown (via thelovenotebook)

[kushandwisdom]

Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.

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Personality first or appearance?

I don’t wanna seem shallow, but appearance, only because I’ll only first get to meet someone by seeing them. it’s only after I’ve gotten to talk to them for longer that I’ll get to see their personality. 

trust though, if I could read people’s personalities upon meeting them, life would be so much simpler, haha

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yay glad you're still alive on here! and him? ooh. Will you introduce your followers to him soon?

yes still alive, i’m so sorry, i always check back, so don’t ever hesitate it ask if y’all ever need anything!! i just haven’t had the time to write new material, but this school year has been very much life changing, and once it’s over, i’m definitely going to have lots to say

 & possibly, one day, most likely, HAHA. 

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updates updates (:

long time no chat y’all, been swamped with classes, but I’ve decided to put that aside today to just take care of me, so that involves reflection. 

how have I been?

I’ve been good and bad, more good than bad. like some of you know, last quarter was a really big struggle for me. still struggling but I’ve learned how to deal with it a lot better, and it gives me a lot of relief. it took me this whole time to realize what great people I have in my life. I’ve found my circle of people here and it’s great; I can be my weird, goofy self, and yes, they will give me weird looks, but they’re just as weird and I love it. I’ve also made a deeper connection with a friend I made many many years ago. (we literally talk on a daily basis, we clingy as hell, bahaha) there’s also another special somebody but this person deserves a whole post for himself, saving for another day :P but in total, all of these people have made me re-realize why I’m here, they motivate me to keep going even when all I want to do is give up. 

still get super homesick every now and then, but who wouldn’t? school sucks and all I want is the comfort of being home. 

HOME. oi this subject. I think I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, I don’t know where home is. I feel like home could be in SF, Irvine, or just no where at all. I feel like i’m just passing by everything but certain places do stand out more than others: SF and Irvine. I want to be able to say home is where my heart is, but idk where that is either. hah. life. it’s great. I’ve lost some of my heart to pain and hate (?), most of it lies with my family, and the rest of it lies with my friends. because it’s so scattered, because everything is so misplaced, I don’t exactly know where home is. home is where I should feel at ease, protected, and loved. I don’t know if there is one place that can provide me with all of that at the moment. but if there is a place that can provide me all of that, I would be suuuper grateful. 

school sucks. heh. taking three sciences again, but because this is the second quarter I’m doing this, it isn’t as bad. I’ve got a better handle on my grades, so hopefully i bring my GPA back up. prayingggg. 

that is all i have for now! more to come when more happens :P 

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