Do you have any advice for women sort of "reading" male doms to tell which ones are trouble? Or just reading guys in general now that I think about it. Like any advice about early warning signs that a guy is dangerous? An older woman I know always said any guy that tries to give you stuff really early on he's looking for you to "owe" him and should be kept an eye on. I just ask because you seem like you're a really good judge of character and when a guy isn't on the up and up.
uhhh off the top of my head
Phallic centered, 100+ photos of his dick, mentions his dick, his dominance comes from his dick, he thinks he can ‘fix’ you with his dick, keeps sending photos of his dick, mentions his dick more then he mentions anything else
Thinks your submissiveness is because you’re a woman, and therefore ‘natural’ so any forced sex or abuse is simply him putting you in your ‘natural’ place
Has no hobbies or other interests, and doesn’t care about yours
Demanding and impatient
He’s simple, he just want to fuck you, he just want to feel important, he reeks of insecurity and is desperate, he needs you to act like he’s a king and a god, he needs his cock worshipped, he doesn’t care about your needs, he is stuck in this frantic, desperate need to stop the thoughts of worthlessness and rejection and he will force this on you because he is like a scared rabid animal stuck the corner, scared of more rejection, so he won’t hear it.
Can’t just be a normal, interesting, person
Back tracks and passive aggressive, he mentions something you don’t like and says something like ‘well I’m the dom and you’re just a sub-’ ‘haha, don’t take it so seriously-’ ‘you’ll like it ;), you’ll let me do what I want,’ ‘Well my last sub was a real sub, I guess you’re just a fake-‘
Expects things you’re not comfortable with, demands them, calls you ‘crazy’ and ‘typical’
Believes you owe him anything, no, you owe him nothing
Doesn’t fulfill his promises, but keeps promising, and the promises become more and more extravagant.
Brings up old subs a lot and compares you
Lots of compliments but very little action
He expects you to fit him completely, his opinions are your opinions, you have to believe what he believes, you have to like what he likes
Automatically assumes you are of lesser intellect and doesn’t listen to any of your opinions, ideals, and laughs off anything you say that doesn’t go with what he believes
Isn’t upfront with what he likes, expects, and who he is. Charming at first, but then demanding, insecure, and needs a constant ego boost from you.
Calls all his past subs ‘crazy’
Isn’t sympathetic or empathic
Doesn’t treat you like you’re an individual, surprised when you like things aren’t typical to your type, and ignores specific things that you like and goes with ‘well, all women like this-‘
Arguments become personal, debating turns into insulting, he refuses to respect your personal views
His ambition is to one day, actually have ambition
Believes that regardless, he’s better than you because you are a woman and he is a man
Around friends he takes the side of his friends regardless of the situation and seems to be ‘beta’ around the ‘alpha’ male in the group
Treats you like a trophy, always mentions appearance, or sexual prowess, but never mentions anything else you’ve accomplished
rolls his eyes at anything ‘feminine’ and instantly sees it as vapid and a waste of time
expects you to baby him, even as a dom, acts like your his mother in terms of care and coddling
Catch him lying and he isn’t upfront about it but dances around the topic in hopes you’ll shut up about it
Speaks badly of past ex’s, consistently
threatens you in anyway, even if he laughs it off later
thinks all men naturally have a highly sexual appetite and therefore are entitled to sex constantly, also thinks that view forgives his cheating because ‘he’s just a man,’
Any physical change that happens to you (loss of weight, hair cut) he feels entitled too and gets upset when you change you’re own body without his approval first
Wants you to fit his ‘ideal’ woman even if it’s nothing like who you really are
has too many fantasies about women that are all sexual with the women as props
has no real female friends
doesn’t trust your male friends with no reason other than they are male
uhh… this is really long now, so yeah, these are some ways to tell if a dom or a man is shit
IMPORTANT THINGS TO KNOW
That ‘Lots of compliments but little action’ thing is everything! The biggest thing that tricked my naive self.
