Start small in everything youâre involved in from what you wear to who you decide to say hello to.
Put effort into what youâre wearing. I donât mean that you need to be wearing false lashes, makeup, heels and showing cleavage. I mean shower, wash your face, put on clean clothes and wear what you like, whether thatâs the girly aesthetic or the comfortable aesthetic. You know your style, chances are, your style makes you feel good.
Take care of yourself. Itâs hard to feel confident when you donât do simple things like showering, shaving(if thatâs your thing), brushing your hair and wearing clean clothes.Â
Take time to pamper yourself and to clean your area.
Assert yourself. This is no lie. Say no when you want to, fight back occasionally. Confidence can be affected when people constantly use you as a doormat.
Ask why. Ask teachers why you didnât get the mark, donât let things slip by. Itâs amazing what a win, even if itâs simply a percentage raise on your paper is, does for you. Let the drive from the win fuel you.
Work harder. Put more effort into whatever youâre doing, whether itâs exercising, school or work.
Donât tell yourself that you canât. Thatâs in the past. Donât limit your possibilities with doubt.
Stay quiet about your goals. Watch yourself grow and then let people tell you that theyâve noticed. (Studies have also shown that talking about your goals makes you feel the satisfaction that youâd generally receive from actually completing something. So, you tend to actually do less because you already feel satisfied .So, instead, donât talk about it. Just do it)
Get organised. Like I said before, wins help and striking things off a list feels like a win. Let the satisfaction of doing things boost your ego a bit.
If you ever feel awkward tell yourself: I deserve to be here, the same as everyone else. (My introvert people will understand this huge fear of strangers and being watched.)
Also, tell yourself: They arenât watching me. Everyone is paying attention to their own lives. (This applies for anything you want to do in public that feels embarrassing)
Make friends with confident people and ask them what makes them confident.Â
Confidence comes from within, so you need to come to terms with who you are before you can feel confident. So, instead of simply expecting it to come to you. Work towards it. Fall in love with yourself. Realize that itâs ok to make mistakes, donât dwell on the past, learn to laugh at yourself and take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Also, learn to love other people too. Once you see beauty in everyone and in being human you will feel less judged by strangers.
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