Sugar, Spice, and Everything Nice

"Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?"

[slidingonwoodfloors]

Can we talk about perception for a minute?? The first photo is how I’ve come to picture myself in my head. I usually look for filters to smooth over my makeup and get rid of my dark circles…but every filter makes my eyes bigger and my nose smaller. Now, when I take pictures without a filter I legit get frustrated that I don’t look like an irl Disney princess. There’s nothing wrong with how I look naturally. I’m actually lucky enough to like the face I was born with. But it still doesn’t look “right” to me when I take pictures like the other two I’ve posted. The second picture still has a filter on it. That’s usually the effect I’m going for. This just happened to be an option on Snapchat after I already took the picture. If I could, this is what I would regularly use….but it’s still not reality. The last picture doesn’t have a filter. I did touch up the lighting, but that’s my face as is today and every other day. I think I need to be spending more time with her. #reflection #perception #IShouldBeWorking https://www.instagram.com/p/COdarR9LDRWAOrDKg6QguUeIYZmFNQ3922Wjqg0/?igshid=12s2ef1e5rzpf

[blooooom]

there’s a misconception that grief only happens when we lose people. this is not true. we can grieve circumstances, relationships, missed opportunities. in fact, sometimes when you find yourself plagued with waves of emotion from sadness to melancholy you may be grieving yourself. the version of yourself that you might have been if things had been different, or if only you had said something, or if someone had stood up for you.

[yorksilk]

this week in I Am Very Smart: having enough money to go to the opera, museums and concerts correlates with having enough money for food, shelter and basic health needs

[cyborgfirelord]

They controlled for socioeconomic factors though! The people who conducted this study knew that people with lots of money to attend the opera were also more likely to be able to afford basic necessities, so they controlled for it in their analysis. The fun thing about statistics is that you can control for different confounding factors so you can look at the effects of one independent variable (opera or whatever) on the dependent variable (mortality). Part of being critical of potential biases is actually reading the article and knowing what to look for.

[starstuffandalotofcoffee]

In addition to that very good point about controlling for socioeconomic factors, the article says a single museum or concert per year makes a difference. Most cities have free community concerts (some even have free opera performances!) and museums that are either free, pay-what-you-want, or at least have specific days/times during which they are free or at a significantly reduced cost. Many libraries (which are free) provide free museum passes to card holders. In fact, the article quotes a museum worker who works at a free art museum in Baltimore.

If you actually read the article you would also read that educators are excited about this study because it provides evidence that the arts should be made more accessible financially - by restoring arts programs in the public schools, for example.

[precociousreader]

what she says: i’m fine

what she means: the tv show iCarly always portrayed Spencer as some bumbling idiot after dropping out of law school after three days, but they disregard the fact that this means Spencer did in fact finish college with a degree and knew enough about the law to pass his entrance exams and had good enough grades in his classes to be accepted into a law school therefore the image that they portrayed of him being stupid is false, he was simply a man who realized his passion lied elsewhere and he wasn’t going to pay a tuition for a law school studying that when his heart wasn’t in it. he was a smart man with the knowledge and capability to do anything, and he chose his art

[memeconsumer69]

shit hes right.

[windsroad]

why do people in dnd each occupy a 5ft by 5ft square, how far apart do you think people need to be? why are dnd minis afraid of touching

[windsroad]

dnd minis standing five feet apart in a dungeon cuz they’re not gay

[brunhiddensmusings]

look, if the guy to my left has to do the turbo-macarena while charging a bolt of flesh melting while the guy on my right is doing every bruce lee move at the same time and the guy in front of me is flourishing a broadaxe like hes doing yo-yo tricks im going to give each of them enough floorspace to not liquefy myself

[pileofknives]

[pulling-aggro]

fuck a “personal bubble”, stay out of my

BLOOD CIRCLE

[autijacen]

So glad that non-scouts can appreciate the term blood circle properly.

[great-tweets]

👀

[monkeysaysficus]

They have nine beverages between the two of them

[polychromehana]

i have that painting ai app on my phone so i went ahead and took the liberty…

[jessthecheesewitch]

What they have are five beverages and four waters. Water, by definition, cannot be a beverage.

[queen-rot]

The fuck do you mean water cant be a beverage?

[jessthecheesewitch]

[okwait-deactivated20201120]

[swiftlybeingsteph]

The way this post progressed is the reason I come on Tumblr

[crap-userrname16]

[dark-waves]

[blackwoolncrown]

[meladoodle]

The first line in this news story is so dramatic

[piss-bong]

[badnovels]

[strawberryprim]

i am LOSING IT

[strawberryprim]

the sequel

[spectregoesboo]

When you realize this man is the voice of Carlos from Welcome to Night Vale

[worldeaterouroboros]

Wait he is? That’s what he looks like? What is this video called

[sweetsweetemo]

It’s a Ted talk by Dylan Marron “Empathy Is Not Endorsement” which is one that all of us may need to listen to, tbh

[pyrlspite]

I’m the kind of person who wastes inventory space in games carrying around useless items that mean something to me or my character

[brendanthesalty-deactivated2018]

ROLEPLAYING 👏 EVEN 👏 WHEN 👏 IT 👏 NEGATIVELY 👏 IMPACTS 👏 YOUR 👏 GAMEPLAY 👏 IS 👏 VALID 👏

[nyofrance-moved]

NIKOLA TESLA IS SUPER ADORABLE HE’S JUST WANDERING AROUND AND HIDING UNDER THINGS I’M GONNA SQUEAL

[nyofrance-moved]

I should probably specify that Nikola Tesla is a cat and Serbian-American inventor Nikola Tesla is not wandering around my house hiding under things because he is dead

[scottstilesliam-deactivated2016]

I like the implication that if he were not dead he probably would be wandering around your house hiding under things

[salamandertoast]

[basic-banshee]

I keep using my girlfriend with unusual work hours to get out of coworker interactions and happy hours and hanging out.

But now the company holiday party is upon us.

And I’ve been lying about the girlfriend.

I suddenly really empathise with the characters in Hallmark Christmas movies.

[basic-banshee]

I like that people have two reactions to this post.

Reasonable: “just say she couldn’t make it!”

Chaotic: FAKE DATING AU

Well, which one is it going to be?

[basic-banshee]

And so it begins

having the DMV area Craigslist bookmarked has never come in handy before but now

[basic-banshee]

Update, Craigslist has flagged my post as inappropriate.

[basic-banshee]

Apparently you can’t solicit a date as a “gig”

I now see my mistake

[basic-banshee]

Update: a date has been acquired. This is true lesbian solidarity in action.

[justluckyiguess]

My wife has now read this and wonders how baby gays are even meeting and mating

[basic-banshee]

Can confirm I am meeting and mating just fine 😂

[basic-banshee]

By the way I’m in a relationship with this woman now

[cooliopumpkin]

[basic-banshee]

This is the feedback I’ve been looking for

[naksatram-remade]

@wonnwoo

[michellepsychologist]

Signs of repressed emotions

Difficulty expressing your emotions

Acting like you don’t care when you truly do

Feeling fatigued

Blowing up over small things

Lack of motivation

Pretending like nothing is wrong

Lack of self-acceptance

Feeling angry days after something happened

Poor interpersonal relationships

Difficulties talking about yourself