Reviving old convos on dating apps
Let me preface this by saying I seldom use Happn. I rarely get messages from guys with whom I match, and there are more users on other platforms, so I don’t put much effort/attention into this one.
I matched with a guy last year. I figured he’s not bad looking, and hey, a match on Happn who did say hello, cool. But he didn’t seem to proffer much of a personality, nor did he really try to learn about mine, so I figured it would just sorta fade out.
I typically don’t comment on anything involving a shower (esp right off the bat?!) because it never ends well. That’s why I said nothing after that comment.
Now see, at first, I didn’t catch it. I knew I hadn’t used the app in a while, but I thought that it’s cuffing season, we probably matched in the summer and he’s back looking at my pics, whatever. I quickly glanced up at the earlier convo and was like ehh, tame, whatever, it’s fine.
I’m ignoring the “your” because typos happen, but here were my main takeaways:
#1 - Whoa whoa, wait, “some time last YEAR?”Â
#2 - The last time we spoke, you “had to take a cold shower?” I gave you a quick review of Scandal and said I’d been working.
(That gif applies to both of the above, frankly.)
I thought OK, it’s late, he’s awkward and maybe he’s a little drunk, I’m gonna just let that go and not respond. But things didn’t change.
OK, you like my pictures, what do you want me to say beyond “thank you?” It’s an awkward thing to say when there isn’t any flirting occurring, so I just let that flap in the wind, but for some reason, I kept on keeping on, hoping he’d find SOME topic to bring to the table besides him looking at my pictures.
“Wanting you?” Flattering, sure, but we have barely spoken.
Revisiting people from your past is typically a bad idea (not always, but generally), but I thought that revisiting a convo that didn’t go anywhere might be fine? Then again, sometimes things don’t anywhere the first time for a reason, and it’s a good practice to just...
