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Police brutality in Nigeria has completely maimed the social and economic potential of the youths. It's obvious that this gerontocracy (government by old people) we were cursed with does not care about the sufferings and killings done to the youths because these rogue police unit called SARS are actually carrying out the plans of many politicians to subdue our voice and weaken us from realising our potentials. Otherwise, why is it so hard to even for the IG to completely and honestly end SARS. Well, they messed with the wrong generation. If you don't already know, you will soon know. They think it will fizzle out as usual but e dey shock them now. The youths has risen up to say #SARSMUSTEND and are calling on Mr President Buhari to come out and #EndSARS #EndSARSNow and #EndPoliceBrutality In the photos is Aisha Yesufu on Saturday during an #EndSARSProtest in Abuja. 💪 🇳🇬 Check our stories for more powerful images from protesters across the country. https://www.instagram.com/p/CGPTbqZh_Ih/?igshid=ao16wimfs113

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Many students who unfortunately made sex their major hobby have not had sex in the last three months; hmm, I wonder what their new hobby is? https://www.instagram.com/p/CCLyZOHhzoa/?igshid=7oppw0izqaal

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Remove These Three Words From Your Mouth: You’ve said them a thousand times. You said them when you were a kid. You said them last year. You’ve caught yourself saying them recently as you watched the world tear apart your carefully made plans. It’s not fair. These three words are favored by kids and angry adults alike...when we want things to be otherwise, when we are caught by surprise, when we—the people who pay our struggles, who try to always do what’s right but get stuck with the consequences of something that wasn’t our fault. We advise that you strip those three words out of your vocabulary. Because they are impotent and meaningless. Because they don’t do anything but make you upset. No one promised you that the world will be fair. Certainly the Stoics never did. No, the Stoics told you that life was going to be hard. They warned you that fortune was capricious and cruel. They told you that bad things happened to good people. They told you to get ready—that preparation, acceptance and endurance were the only options on an unpredictable planet. Remember what Marcus Aurelius said: It’s choosing to feel harmed that adds pain on top of events. Trying to project standards of fairness or order onto a pandemic? Onto cancer? Onto something as random as the economy, the climate boyfriend behaviour? This is only going to make you miserable. This is only going to set you up for disappointment. You’re feeling that right now. Because you forgot that it’s not things that upset us, it’s our judgement about things. So stop thinking about what’s fair or unfair, awful or awesome and focus on what is. ___ (C) #DailyStoic #SocialFaculty #SocialAndSmart PS: These pictures of our fave @thacutegeminme are too beautiful, it's not fair 🤩 https://www.instagram.com/p/CBDIg4GhSaz/?igshid=pl9way8gmmhw

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Real men stay strong in hard situations. Real mean always seek consent. #EndRapeCulture https://www.instagram.com/p/CBBQQFHBPMr/?igshid=1cj1aq0yeu88q

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Boyfriend or not, no is no. Feeling it or not, stop is stop. Don't hide, speak up 🌺 #EndViolenceAgainstWomen #EndRapeCulture https://www.instagram.com/p/CA-u93hBstz/?igshid=6sc0qwdaa1gx

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So, The Craziest Thing Happened Yesterday. Ambulance Came To Pick Me. Turns out someone can not tell his brother something and his brother will keep it a secret. I mean, I'm asymptomatic and I know because I've been positive for 8 days. Yes, I did a test. Don't ask me how I got a test kit but I did it and it was positive. Since I've always been my own master of self medication; I treated the nonsense virus like I treat everything else, whether typhoid, waist pain, chicken pox or even depression; I treat them as malaria and they disappear. I'm NOT advising you to, it's a family secret. So, yea, they came to take me to quarantine. My brother called them and said "Hello, please o, somebody is positive in this house." Lol, imagine, that was exactly how he said it. Next thing, they were already chatting on Whatsapp and this boy is not telling me anything. It felt like there was a ransom on my head and my brother had suddenly turned against me. He sent them my test result and these guys attached to our local government must have been less busy or looking for something, otherwise; I don't see why they arrived at our house only forty minutes later. They did their own test in their van and many hours later, my brother was negative and I'm still positive. Abeg, Just Let Me Take My Laptop And Phones, Please. I've always been a lockdown person anyways; been in my room for six days straight without coming downstairs. Isolation no dey fear me. I'll continue my programming lessons in peace and quarantine could be a new frontier for some social experiment. We left and the thing is now turning to another thing. First, these people took me somewhere and someone interrogated me about test kits and possible affiliations with China. How did my brother remained uninfected? Then they got worried about which Isolation Center for me because they found out I'm a bit popular and outspoken against the government on the Internet; so, they must have decided to take me to one of the special Isolation Centers. It's now two days here and things are getting pretty interesting in a tragi-romanti-comedy kinda way. I'll share Part Two tomorrow. ___ (C) #QuarantineQuagmireDay1 #SocialFaculty https://www.instagram.com/p/CAQnIURh8-L/?igshid=1gqhbqwhs153e

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The truth is — almost relationships can hurt as much as real relationships because connection isn’t measured in time. When your heart connects with someone, it connects with someone. Sometimes, that depth is fostered over years. And sometimes you crash into another human being, and despite only knowing them for a short collection of moments, you know that they are going to mean something to you. You know that you are going to care. There are no rules. But, the hardest lesson you will ever learn is that — you won’t always end up with those you feel something deep and meaningful with. Some chapters of the book of our lives are full and dizzying in the best way — with concrete endings and concrete closure. But some chapters end quickly, sometimes in the middle of the page, sometimes even before we are ready. What we don’t often realize is that that is closure, too. Because it’s still an ending. So when you are holding all of this hurt within you, when you are gripping at all of the ways you could have loved someone beautifully and fully and with every inch of your human heart if you had just been given the chance — remember that you want to be loved and chosen. Not almost loved or almost chosen. If someone can't do that, you deserve to discover someone who can. Because the right person will be consistent. The right person will put forth the appropriate amount of effort. The right person will make everything feel easy, natural. Almosts aren’t natural. You have all of this hope, and all of this feeling, and you’re trying to give it to someone who doesn’t want to hold it. You’re trying to convince someone that you’re worthy of being chosen. But the right person will choose you. The right person will stay. Remind yourself that you deserve to feel like someone is excited to be with you, that someone is excited to commit to you, and dive into something concrete and foundational with you. You deserve someone who wants the same things, someone who wants to meet all of your hope with action. Someone who sees you. Someone who isn’t afraid of being responsible for your heart. Someone who embraces it. ___ (C) ✍: @rainbowsalt #ThoughtCatalog #SocialFaculty https://www.instagram.com/p/B_2ju0bhLT7/?igshid=sh2dlb5bvtw4

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Wait. How did I get here? How did I get so comfortable in this place? What has turned me into this perfect side chick? Is it because I don't believe in relationships but love to enjoy goodtimes? Trying to remember how it started. I used to be a misty eyed 19 year old, fortified by years of reading many romance novels, believing that guys my age were much too young for my inner old self. You had to be at least 7 years older before I could look at you, but I had limits, I wasn't into 'old' men. More than fifteen years older and I'd file you into the grandpa category. As a distracted 19 year old, I was a perfect prey for the hungry men in their late twenties and thirties, men who were already in serious relationships but didn't mind having a tight little thingy on the side for the purpose of variety. At first I didn't realize I was being pawned and played but as I got older, I realized what I was and I didn't mind. You have a girlfriend, fiancee or wife? I didn't mind. You have a wife and a girlfriend? I still didn't mind as long as I got my piece. Now I'm older and hopelessly cynical and love is a luxury I can't afford. Twice I tried to stay in a relationship but I was always looking out for the cheating signs because when you have been the partner in cheating for so long, you'll just know all the signs. At this point, it seems I have just two choices. I could try to be in a relationship, one that might lead to marriage, but always knowing that there could be one or two thingies on the side just for the sake of karma. Or I could walk the path of a kept woman, always knowing that I will never be the one that matters. Nothing much to teach young girls about cheating. I think they already know most men will cheat and it's better to be the one cheated on than to be the one cheated with. If a man chooses to keep hiding and cheating with you, it means that you are very below his girlfriend or wife and there is no way in hell he can ever break his relationship or family for you. As a good sidechick, you must know your place and make no dramas; otherwise, go get your own boyfriend or husband. ___ (C) #SocialAndSmart #SocialFaculty https://www.instagram.com/p/B_rk81TBRpx/?igshid=5aoj4t6n8w54

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@pettitesize is coming to SocialFaculty with a big Bang 💣 As the SocialTV Host on IGTV, the scintillating talkative and friends will be dishing out highly engaging social reality videos based on our popular posts from the page 📺 We know many of you don't like reading; worry no more, whenever you see Vi's face, she is bringing you a catchy video of our writeups to keep you #SocialAndSmart. Excited! #SocialFaculty #SocialTV #SocialAndSmartWithVi https://www.instagram.com/p/B_mgoTmBIHK/?igshid=1q0l8uppsn68m

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I don’t want a fifty-fifty relationship. Life doesn’t work that way. I want to be your strength when you simply cannot cope, when you come to me with the world on your shoulders, when your spine cannot carry the weight you hold. I want to be your hope. I want to be the one who doesn’t walk away when things get tough. I want to be the one who proves to you that people can still win this war of love. I want to be the one who shows you that some people still stay during the dark times, that some people still fight. I want to be your light. I want to be your best when you are not your best. I will not judge you for your sadness, I will not resent your for your flaws. When life gets rough, know that I will always be there to hold your hand, I will always be there to turn off the world for you. I don’t want you to think that you ever have to do this by yourself. I am with you because I want to be a part of your life — your whole life; through the good and the bad. I am with you because my heart feels compelled to beat for yours, and I will continue to choose you through the hurdles and through the highs. I know that life kicks your teeth in sometimes, and I may not know how to fix every shard of hurt and harm, but I do know how to love you — and I will love you deeply whenever things come to be too much. I don’t want a fifty-fifty relationship. Life doesn’t work that way; it is real, not perfect. There are going to be moments where we will have to be more for one another, where we will have to build the other up, and I cannot wait to grow with you in those ways. I cannot wait to show you just how much I can love you when you need it the most. ___ (C) #ThoughtCatalog ✍  @rainbowsalt 📷 @adri_luchetti https://www.instagram.com/p/B_cWXUfho6P/?igshid=uq1ri1s8g8ud

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Things are rough out there, no one, not even billionaires can argue with that. Business is down. Quarantine here, isolation there. The streets are filled with hungry people. All plans are cut short. Families cut off from loved ones. What in the hell's butt is happening?! you might find yourself asking. Actually, you wouldn't ask that - most people just say "What the fuck is happening?" . This is terrifying, are things breaking down? Maybe. But it’s helpful to recall in times like these that, as the broadcaster Paul Harvey once explained, there have always been times like these. Keep calm and carry on. Marcus Aurelius lived through a pandemic. If you’re old enough to read this, then you have already experienced at least one financial crisis. You are the last link in an unbroken chain of ancestors who managed to make it to child bearing age. Which is to say, you come from a long line of survivors: People who lived through civil wars as well as civil unrest. People who survived man-made cataclysms and natural disasters. People who outlasted quarantines and long separations. People who had their plans disrupted. People who woke up for days and days in a row not knowing what the morning would bring, or the kind of future that lay ahead. They survived the Biafran War. They survive the Black Plague. They survived the Mongols and cold nights on the frontier. They survived without governments. They survived without electricity. They endured grief and fear and pain and change. They kept calm, they carried on. They learned, as Marcus did, that things can only ruin your life if they ruin your character. That we might not control world events, but we control how we respond. We control whether we hold our heads high. We control whether we help our neighbors. We control whether we contribute to the panic or not. We control whether we take care of ourselves and take precautions. We control whether we live up to that eternal standard of Courage, Moderation, Justice and Wisdom. Yeah, it’s tough out there. It’s scary. But we’re going to be okay. We’re going to keep going. We’re going to get through this. Keep calm and carry on. ___ (C) #SocialFaculty #DailyStoic https://www.instagram.com/p/B_UWErLBVM4/?igshid=sez2s7xyshee

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Something bad just happened. You got pissed. Now, two bad things have happened. That’s just a fact. Because getting angry rarely makes things better—even if it helps you get what you thought you wanted. It taxes your heart. It causes you to be mean to other people. To “win” you had to lose your self-control. Imagine. This is not to say you should merely accept everything in life. The Stoics are not passive weaklings. It’s that we preferred persuasion, patience, and persistence to yelling. We focused on addressing root causes, not catharsis, hormones or emotions. Wanna know how much worse getting mad is than the things that caused it? “Anger always outlasts hurt,” Seneca adviced that it's always best to take the opposite course. Would anyone think it normal to return a kick to a horse or a bite to a dog? So if you want to win—at life, at philosophy, at accomplishing what you have set out to accomplish—you’ll need to rein in your temper. You’ll need to figure out the opposite course, develop more than one kind of response to things you don’t like. It’s easy to get angry, but it’s more effective to remain calm and come up with solutions. Tame your temper. Don’t make problems worse by getting angry. We always lose when we lose our temper. ___ (C) #SocialFaculty #DailyStoic https://www.instagram.com/p/B_LAbRkh7fQ/?igshid=up5aygxyljcz

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Not one person on earth knows when COVID-19 spread will stop. Not a single scientist or preacher. Let's assume they eventually shut down the whole Nations of the World, such that no one can travel in or around or out of any country. And then, they tell you that the vaccine is now available, but must be administered by inserting a certain substance or even devise in your body... Which if you do not accept, you will be put into a house arrest/self-isolation and considered a public threat. I am sure that even your "man of God" will insist you do what the government says, stating categorically that "wisdom is profitable to direct" and we must "respect the law of the nation" Won't it look like a "story" you were told about one "mark of the beast? Don't forget, with a single memo, all educational institutions already shut down. With another one, churches couldn't meet in their 100,000 capacity auditorium anymore. And with another one, banks and market may follow suit. Hmmm. Our cars are just parked there, no where to go to, the private jets are lying in waste, business skyscrapers are empty. Every country is nursing her citizens and fighting a tiny strain of an unseen enemy. Rich people are confined to a room in their big mansions with their now useless designer wardrobe and makeups. No where to be, no paparazzi, no fans at entrance. No more urgent business meetings that deprive us of time with God and family. It is now each man with his God in truth and in spirit. All we need today is food, and air to breathe, we just want to be alive. Nothing else is important. Nobody alive today has ever seen anything like this! Have you taken a minute to think about these? The good news is, we all have a chance now to introspect: Why does God need to keep us alive through this? Is it to marry, or buy a new car, or perhaps finish that degree? Is it to remember to live everyday like there is a pandemic? What is my purpose in life now and after Covid-19? Of what value am I to humanity, that should make God spare me? Repent: (Verb) To change for good. Covid-19 is just a tip of what is to come if you miss living this life, if you miss knowing who you are or why you are here. https://www.instagram.com/p/B_GJyvohgis/?igshid=1scirx9q5cc6j

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It’s the strongest and the most helpful among us that often have the most trouble asking for help. The frontline responders know that their duty is to rush toward the bang, while others run away. A parent knows that they put their own interests and needs behind those of their children. The person who others rely on to be cheerful and fun can feel like they have no one to express their sorrow and pain to. Yes, a Stoic is strong. Yes, a Stoic is brave. Yes, a Stoic does their duty—without complaint, without hesitation. A Stoic carries the load, and willingly carries the load for others when necessary. But they also have to be able to ask for help. Because sometimes that’s the strongest and bravest thing to do. “Don’t be ashamed to need help,” Marcus Aurelius wrote. “Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish. And if you’ve been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up? So what?” Exactly. So what? You’re not looking for a handout. You’re looking for advice. You’re not looking to be exempted. You’re getting your wounds treated so you can get back into the fight. You’re not looking to get an unfair advantage over anyone else. You’re taking advantage of the opportunities that were designed for precisely the situation you’re in. If you need a minute, ask. If you need a helping hand, ask. If you need reassurance, ask. If you need a favor, ask. If you need therapy, go. If you need to start over, go for it. If you need to lean on someone or something, do it. We’re in this mission together. We’re comrades. It’s okay to ask for help. If it makes you better, it’s the right thing to do. ___ (C) #SocialFaculty #DailyStoic https://www.instagram.com/p/B-5LKGNh0_G/?igshid=x99e4pewvbz4

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Four Weird Ways To Become An Introvert This  Corona Lockdown Period. 1 Do you love yourself? Life will really suck right now for everyone who needed to be with boyfriend or girlfriend or friends to feel loved. How are you coping with the lockdown and social distancing? Love yourself, yes, just the way you physically are, love your head and heart for what's inside, do that now or leave this post. 2 Wake Up Your Imaginary Friends. We all have that voice in us that helps us during critical thinking and decision making. If you don't hear it, then lil wonder you needed other people's opinion and validation so much and hence the first paragraph is also you. Be conscious of yourself, that's what I mean. Start from the mirror, then step outside of yourself and discuss with yourselves. 3 Tell them about your hobbies, skills and passions. Tell them about things that make you happy. I'm talking about your imaginary friends, your other yous, your alter egos, I'm talking about you! Talk to yourself, anytime, and make sure you reply too. Not cool to keep yourself on read or "k". It's not like you have anyone else to talk to right now. 4 Put Everything To Work. Merge your hobbies, skills, personalities and passions and the result is your brand. If you are an introvert, you are probably doing these already. Writing, painting, singing, acting, photography, coding etc. An introvert is an introvert because of high focusing abilities. Most extroverts have attention deficit, hence you'll find them anywhere there is plenty distractions, ie outside. But since there is nothing happening outside anymore, extroverts are going crazy, literally striping off their clothes in boredom. An introvert is never bored, wanna know why? Refer to number 2. 5 Keep Quiet. Be calm, be patient and live through everything. How can you shower without singing? You saw the moon from your window last night and immediately looked away? This morning, you took food from the fridge without even talking to the fridge and then left your house without arranging your bed? Smh. Where are you rushing to? What's more important than paying attention to your self? ___ (C) #SocialAndSmart #StayHome #Introvert (at Indoors) https://www.instagram.com/p/B-kkZa6BDvb/?igshid=13ovatr5zei2v

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Lockdown: Day 1, 9am. This girl just called back saying she had given my proposal a thought and would like to lockdown with me. Fantabulous. Girl even said I shouldn't bother buying ready-made soup and stew as she will be cooking. but under one condition. I would go to the market myself and buy things as she has a lot to attend to. Ah! That one no be problem na. Abeg tell me what to buy make I go sharply. Boom! List land on Whatsapp. E no too cost and money no be problem. I left for the mini market and started shopping. I got beans, plantain, bread, yam, condoms, beverages, tomatoes, pepper, condoms etc. I buy things full taxi. This lockdown I must enjoy. Finally home, I positioned all food stuff in their signature kitchen spots. Everything don set; na this woman remain make e for complete. I downed some origin and left for the bathroom where I shaved as I anticipated the coming of this fine woman. Fresh and clean and ready quarantine with bae, I logged on to Twitter to pass time. Saw some of you tweeting how you are lonely and would be spending the lockdown alone lmao. I can't relate! Small sleep entered my eyes, next thing I'm waking around 6pm to this woman's call. Before she could say hello, I've already asked if she was near my gate. She said no, to my disappointment. Ah ah na. Oya, when will you be here? This girl said she couldn't come again 😳 Ah, when you are not Amaka? Jennifer, don't let your ancestors be unfortunate. You dey whyne me? This woman said her mumcy is paying her an impromptu visit tonight so she can't! Which kind wahala be this? Jennifer, what's spoiling your mind? I don't have coro o; I even have hand sanitizer and dettol. Jenny Baby, please come na 😔 She said she can't! Quickly I scrolled through my phone in search of substitutes but everybody was giving excuse. Some were "self-isolating" with their real boos while others were just too scared to come close to anybody. Nawa o. I didn't even know what to do again. And I don buy condom full house. What tf am I supposed to do with all these satchets of latex? No other choice but to self-isolate and self-service but chai, I no even stock up vaseline. ___ #StayHome #StaySafe (at Lagos, Nigeria) https://www.instagram.com/p/B-XwUO9BxnD/?igshid=1rv90lbzvbfe2

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Turning 17 Or Entering The University Doesn't Mean You Should Start A Relationship. The pressure to experience sex is pushing lots of young people into nonsense relationships. It's not as if they are looking for marriage or something long term... the main motive is the desire to have someone whom they can call their own, hang around and feel loved. Something for the present loneliness. The problem is that although this is achieved in relationships, it is not the primary purpose of relationships. We do not go into relationships to cure loneliness, we go into relationship to be able to achieve our greater purpose in life, easily and efficiently. Relationship is not an end to itself, it is a means to achieving something greater in life, which often serves as our life's calling or assignment. The union of the two persons under the caption of “two are better than one”, helps in achieving individual goals and happiness rather than working and walking alone. When the primary purpose of relationship is just about ourselves, we miss the ultimate goal, worse still, we kill the very thing we seek. Then, soon we find out that all the loves, and feelings, and romance …and eventually, all the sex, leaves us unfulfilled. That is why it's better that a person first matures through the understanding of her/his purpose before seeking a relationship partner. You have to have an assignment before asking for help from someone. Get a mission before seeking a companion. Get a destination before seeking for a co-traveller. Grab a firm relationship with your God, loaded with values before seeking a relationship with man. With this clear perspective, all other things– love, romance, sex, will be added onto you in biblical portions. To seek love and relationship without this perspective is like building the tower of Babel. It will end in nonsense. Dear Darlings 🌸 Pease, do not date someone simply because you feel love. Get matured, build values, and be clear on your life mission. That way, when someone comes your way, it is easier and faster for you and that person to know if he/she belongs with you or not. ___ (C) #SocialAndSmart #SocialFaculty https://www.instagram.com/p/B9r84hpheam/?igshid=1ovyzxsyhcu5i