building a life i can be proud of @softerendings - Tumblr Blog

was previously @/sailing-forth. that blog will still remain up, i just got tired of how messy the tagging/organization on there was

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loonamoonland

florida river

#ph

wifegideonnav

“bits to use in everyday conversations”

findlight

Sydney Smith, double page spread from Small in the City, 2019.

#oh

fursasaida

adult life is truly just thinking “I NEED TO CLEAN” while dealing with the 17 other things that have a hard deadline

willowrosenberg1997

indigosfindings

how do you pronounce the honourific "Ms." in english

"miss"

"miz"

other

unsure/see results

Voting ended onMay 21

mortalityplays

really good "shocking number of people are confidently objectively demonstrably completely wrong" poll

3liza

i am losing my fucking mind

avocado-moon

#we dont use honorifics in my first language so whenever i have to select options (usually for flights) im always so confused#like what is actually the difference between miss and ms#i like miss bc it sounds more historical and im a historian so

"Miss" means an unmarried woman. "Mrs." means a married woman. (both of these have origins in the word "mistress" as in "mistress of the house".)

"Ms." - prounounced MIZ, btw - is a third option popularized by gloria steinem in the 70s - mainly through her feminist magazine Ms. - which is meant to be a neutral term, usable for any and all women regardless of marital status (hence the soul destroying irony of the tags above). it gained wider general acceptance when geraldine ferraro, the first woman to be nominated as VP on a national major party ticket, started using it widely to avoid confusion, since she was married but used her maiden name professionally. eventually over the years it came into common use though i do think the brits are a little more critical of it than americans (as far as i'm aware lol)

avocado-moon

"obscure facts only a tumblr user would know" and it's one of the most influential institutions of second wave american feminism. PLEASE open the schools

onbearfeet

Hi. I'm an unmarried woman in her forties. I use Ms. and pronounce it "miz", though I don't correct people who accidentally use a soft S. I use Ms. because it's no one's business but my own whether I'm married, to a man or anyone else, and that's what Ms. means. It means fuck off, my marital status is irrelevant, just as it is for every man who uses Mr.

I've had people (usually children) ask me at work if I'm a missus or a miss. I have replied that I am a miz, full stop. And when they pressed for which one I was REALLY, I have replied, "Why? Are you going to treat me differently depending on whether there's a ring somewhere?"

That's what Ms. is for. That is its linguistic function. It says, "This is an adult woman," and nothing else. Nothing else is necessary, and in my case, nothing else is desired.

I also use miz for other women unless and until they express a preference for something else because I don't magically know everyone else's marital status when I meet them. That's a courtesy—I'm declining to assume marital status and allowing them to decide whether they wish to declare it.

Also, I've taught English and worked as an editor for twenty years. I am quite literally the grammar police. This use of Ms. is a standard construction. If you didn't learn it in school, someone failed you.

squeeful

“Obscure facts” Boo boo I was taught it in elementary school. One with a state standardized curriculum.

Ms. is marriage-neutral and it’s pronounced Miz. It is deliberately different from Miss.

derinthescarletpescatarian

"Obscure facts" it is NORMAL AND COMMON FUCKING LANGUAGE. Don't blame Tumblr because you're embarrassed at how ignorant you are.

joybates

Also has nobody ever heard of Ms Frizzle?

#oh i just learned this and english is my second language… huh #the more you know

georgiaokeeffe

Does everything work out

everything works out

utopians

I have a crazy amount of downtime at my new job so I've gotten really into drawing these squiggles

agrimanath

redstonedust

its probably a normal sign for the economy that all of my adulthood fantasies are like "imagine having your own kitchen living room and bathroom to decorate" "what if i could get on a train" "maybe one day i could purchase a sturdy pair of shoes" "i should save and invest in a single bicycle"

the-dauphine

“The most precious thing is vitality – not in any sinister Lawrentian sense, but just the will + energy + appetite to do what one wants to do + not to be ‘sunk’ by disappointments. Aristotle is right: happiness is not to be aimed at; it is a by-product of activity aimed at.”

— Susan Sontag, Reborn: Journals and Notebooks 1947—1963 (via sartreuse)

imjunebitch

i actually don't think you should have to be able to work and do good in college and pay for a car and utilities and rent and a mortgage to live a good worthwhile life I don't think the worth of a human should be measured in their "usefulness"