Solace

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[solacebean]

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HI IM AN ARTIST BUT I LIKE TO REBLOG SO MUCH STUFF BECAUSE IM MENTALLY UNWELL YOU CAN READ MY DESCRIPTION TO SEE WHAT IM CURRENTLY INTO!!

Art Blog: @solacespadesart

[solacespadesart]

PREORDERS NOW OPEN!

IT IS HERE. IT IS TIME.

From now until July 31st, preorders for my Tom Ryder bathtub scene liquid shaker charms will be open! Shipping will begin some time in August!

BUY HERE

Thank you to everyone who showed interest while the design was still being worked on, and to those who inspired and encouraged me to make this in the first place <3

[solacebean]

I know we all agree that Grace is aroace as fuck no matter his relationship status but y’all I cannot describe the visceral NEED I have to read about top Grace. Gentle Dom Grace. Grace who has done so so so much research about safe sex because if he’s ever gonna do he’s gonna do it right. Grace who may not want it to be reciprocated but would fucking LOVE to help his partner out. Please I am so feral about this concept I—

[randomrandomalright]

I’ve been picturing recently genderbent! Starstruck (featuring. An Aromantic Tom Ryder x AroAce Ryland Grace) and it’s interesting to say the less. I would love to write a small fic of it, I would just need a plot idea!

[solacebean]

OUUUGGGH I love seeing all the posts about other people wanting to write about aro Tom too it is so important to me AGGGHH especially having Grace also being on one or both aspecs I am LOVING all the representation going on with it

As for plot bunnies… Tommy needs a tutor, run into each other and spilled coffee everywhere, meeting at a party, etc etc… Tom secretly visits a petting zoo while Grace is taking his class on a field trip there, the tried and true they get together to mess with Colt or publicity and then actually get together for real. I don’t know what exactly you’re searching for but I so desperately want to see it come to fruition

[witchysoda]

Aromantic!Ryder wanting to have a sexual partnership with Grace but worried this nerdy scientist is going to catch feelings and that’s what he hates the most is when people think the Tom Ryder is in love with them because he likes being exclusively sexual (no diseases thankyouverymuch and there’s a higher chance of a good time) but not romantic in any way (why do you think he’s only in action films he just doesn’t get romance).

Then there’s Aromantic!Ryland “hated when Linda moved in with him because he likes his space and he keeps walls up in his personal life” who doesn’t like when feelings get deeper and finally learned it could be nice to have a friend/acquaintance with benefits because it’s like an experiment and the trials go better when the control (partner) is the same but the few he had he left behind when he ghosted academia (yes he got fired but that doesn’t mean he would loose contact with everyone this man just got embarrassed and, like Colt, ran off and cut out everyone in his life)

Anyways I love Aro x Aro relationships uwu

[solacebean]

Starstruck AU where they were sweethearts in grad school before either of their careers took off but it’s to the tune of Royalty by Conor Maynard and City of Angels by Em Beihold can anybody hear me

[solacebean]

Gods my Starstruck fic WIP is gonna make me sick

“It’s not a date” they’re both thinking to themselves but it’s because one of them desperately doesn’t want it to be and the other one desperately does and it’s not who you think

[solacebean]

Writing Starstruck fanfiction and I get slapped in the face with the realization that I have absolutely NO idea how to write romance oh my gods it’s so bad I’m so bad at this HOW DO PEOPLE FLIRT??

[solacebean]

Guys help it’s slowly turning into a coming of age queer realization fic with GROWN ASS MEN. I wanted to write demiromantic Ryder and now I’ve got a fake dating AU where one of them doesn’t realize it’s fake and the other doesn’t actually wanna date but he’s in too deep now and THEN he realizes oh fuck it’s kinda real now actually what the HELL does he do now??

[solacebean]

Writing Starstruck fanfiction and I get slapped in the face with the realization that I have absolutely NO idea how to write romance oh my gods it’s so bad I’m so bad at this HOW DO PEOPLE FLIRT??

[septemberminus1]

look i’m all for aroace ryland grace. we need more aroace rep, even if it’s just in the form of headcanons. aroace ryland grace means so much to me. i love aroace ryland grace and want no different.

but you will have to pry bloodymary out of my cold dead hands. the parasites…they crave bloodymary…..they need it…..

[solacebean]

So here’s the fun thing about that!

You can have both. As an aroace person I am telling you you can have both.

Allow me to explain a bit better… aromanticism and asexuality both, as many sexualities and gender identities do, exist on a spectrum! Plenty of aro folks can still engage in romantic relationships for any variety of reasons, they are not all completely romance repulsed— same with ace folks and sex repulsion

Demi is still on the aroace scale, grayro and graysexual are still aspec, even if it’s not labeled anything specific you can still be aspec so long as what you personally experience is any kind of lack of romantic or sexual feelings

Some aspec people engage in activities because it makes their partners happy, and while they themselves don’t get anything out of it, they do enjoy making the people they care about happy. Aro people can kiss because they enjoy the physical feeling of it even if they don’t feel any sort of romance from it. They can cuddle and go on dates and make “romantic” gestures because it would make their partners happy. They could call their relationships “dating” or use more traditional romantic labels and still not see the relationship or their own feeling as inherently romantic. The key, as always, is communication between partners. The partner acknowledges that the other does not feel romantic feelings here, and they’re alright with that, maybe they even like that, but they can both still also acknowledge that their relationship is something all their own

Everything I’ve said about romance and aro people also applies to sex and ace people btw, the only difference is which feeling is not being experienced

So, in that same vein, an aroace person can still care for another person enough to want to be in a “relationship” with them. They can still participate in romantic gestures, can still participate in sexual encounters, can still do any number of things a typical allo relationship would. The difference is just that they don’t get quite the same pleasure from all of that as their partner might, and that that is acknowledged by their partner.

All this to say, BloodyMary can kiss and/or fuck and still be aroace I promise. It’s all a spectrum. Try doing some research into QPRs (queer platonic relationships) or more specific labels on the spectrums if it will help you understand that, but I promise we can still have that rep and keep our silly little ships

[septemberminus1]

hehe reblog because truth was spoken - it is a spectrum !! QPRs are so cool and also awareness because acespec & arospec people deserve the world! also good to know that aroace is a label for those on both spectrums, and not just someone who's both aromantic + asexual.

for context this was based off of a post I saw (on a diff platform, I forgot OP) who headcanoned grace as aromantic + asexual, but I absolutely agree with everything you said!

[solacebean]

To the like four other Starstruck fans out there may I present my silly headcanons…

Arospec Tom Ryder and Acespec Grace. Please see the vision

Tom Ryder who has never given thought to or really understood the appeal of actual romantic relationships because he’s never actual felt anything like that or been into anyone like that before and he just thinks romantic relationships are an excuse for more sex and why bother with that when he can fuck whoever he wants whenever he wants without having to get attached to them.

Ryland Grace who yearns for connection to people but can never give them everything they want without hurting himself and being something he’s not and he’s so so tired of that bullshit.

Now imagine, the first time Tom sees Grace, he thinks oh fuck yeah, perfect opportunity to mess with Colt. And it works at first, Grace gets flustered which is fun and kinda cute which Tom can acknowledge objectively, and Colt gets pissed which Tom can get amusement from. And Tom, asshole that he is, is sort of accidentally not so accidentally stringing Grace along with all the flirting, even exchanging numbers (I dunno I’m focusing on Tom’s perspective here imagine Grace’s to your heart’s content). And then they start talking, and Tom realizes okay, maybe they can kinda consider each other friends— a somewhat new and foreign concept to Tom when he’s as high up on the totem pole as he is, nobody wants to be friends with Tom, they’re “friends” with Tom Ryder.

And eventually, shit starts to get a bit more serious. And they get to know each other more and more, and Tom realizes oh fuck, he’s head over heels for this nerdy ass double of his stunt double what the fuck he’s never felt like that about ANYONE before what does that mean??

Anyway long story short, demiromantic Tom Ryder truther. Ryland “I can make him better” (and he does) Grace truther.

[septemberminus1]

look i’m all for aroace ryland grace. we need more aroace rep, even if it’s just in the form of headcanons. aroace ryland grace means so much to me. i love aroace ryland grace and want no different.

but you will have to pry bloodymary out of my cold dead hands. the parasites…they crave bloodymary…..they need it…..

[solacebean]

So here’s the fun thing about that!

You can have both. As an aroace person I am telling you you can have both.

Allow me to explain a bit better… aromanticism and asexuality both, as many sexualities and gender identities do, exist on a spectrum! Plenty of aro folks can still engage in romantic relationships for any variety of reasons, they are not all completely romance repulsed— same with ace folks and sex repulsion

Demi is still on the aroace scale, grayro and graysexual are still aspec, even if it’s not labeled anything specific you can still be aspec so long as what you personally experience is any kind of lack of romantic or sexual feelings

Some aspec people engage in activities because it makes their partners happy, and while they themselves don’t get anything out of it, they do enjoy making the people they care about happy. Aro people can kiss because they enjoy the physical feeling of it even if they don’t feel any sort of romance from it. They can cuddle and go on dates and make “romantic” gestures because it would make their partners happy. They could call their relationships “dating” or use more traditional romantic labels and still not see the relationship or their own feeling as inherently romantic. The key, as always, is communication between partners. The partner acknowledges that the other does not feel romantic feelings here, and they’re alright with that, maybe they even like that, but they can both still also acknowledge that their relationship is something all their own

Everything I’ve said about romance and aro people also applies to sex and ace people btw, the only difference is which feeling is not being experienced

So, in that same vein, an aroace person can still care for another person enough to want to be in a “relationship” with them. They can still participate in romantic gestures, can still participate in sexual encounters, can still do any number of things a typical allo relationship would. The difference is just that they don’t get quite the same pleasure from all of that as their partner might, and that that is acknowledged by their partner.

All this to say, BloodyMary can kiss and/or fuck and still be aroace I promise. It’s all a spectrum. Try doing some research into QPRs (queer platonic relationships) or more specific labels on the spectrums if it will help you understand that, but I promise we can still have that rep and keep our silly little ships

[drdunceskull]

Work Shadow

Grace is just curios and wants to see what he's doing! Simon is just tryna take care of his plants...

[kokica1]

Tags - We Three Amongst the Stars

Because y'all asked to be tagged for my bloodymary update (this fic will have the trauma that I've talked about in previous posts)...

@patrissbunny @toomanysharkshelp1 @solacebean @annicishana @aaaaasw33tyaaaaaa @sand-in-the-timepiece @grueinthedark

Sorry if I missed anyone. Stick around for continued angst!

[solacebean]

RAAAAA YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[kokica1]

Give me Grace panicking when Simon stands behind him because he's scared of being tackled and pinned down against his will again.

Give me Grace only being comfortable when he's facing Simon head on so he can't sneak up on him.

Give me Grace only being able to cuddle Simon when he's laying flat on his back and can see his hands.

Give me Grace having a full-blown meltdown when Simon has to tackle Grace to the ground for his safety (explosion, Mary gets hit by debris, etc.) because he thinks it's happening again.

He knows it's irrational. He knows Simon would never hurt him. But Simon is the first human he's seen since everything that happened on Earth and his body can't forget the betrayal of his only friends drugging him and sending him to die.

[solacebean]

YES ALL THE REBLOGS ARE NECESSARY I NEEEEED THISSSSSS GIVE ME MORE OF GRACE HAVING TRAUMA RESPONSES TO THE MOMENT IN HIS LIFE HE WAS BASICALLY LITERALLY GETTING MURDERED WHY IS THERE NOT MORE FICS ABOUT THAT???

[kokica1]

Give me Grace panicking when Simon stands behind him because he's scared of being tackled and pinned down against his will again.

Give me Grace only being comfortable when he's facing Simon head on so he can't sneak up on him.

Give me Grace only being able to cuddle Simon when he's laying flat on his back and can see his hands.

Give me Grace having a full-blown meltdown when Simon has to tackle Grace to the ground for his safety (explosion, Mary gets hit by debris, etc.) because he thinks it's happening again.

He knows it's irrational. He knows Simon would never hurt him. But Simon is the first human he's seen since everything that happened on Earth and his body can't forget the betrayal of his only friends drugging him and sending him to die.

[kokica1]

Give me Grace panicking when Simon stands behind him because he's scared of being tackled and pinned down against his will again.

Give me Grace only being comfortable when he's facing Simon head on so he can't sneak up on him.

Give me Grace only being able to cuddle Simon when he's laying flat on his back and can see his hands.

Give me Grace having a full-blown meltdown when Simon has to tackle Grace to the ground for his safety (explosion, Mary gets hit by debris, etc.) because he thinks it's happening again.

He knows it's irrational. He knows Simon would never hurt him. But Simon is the first human he's seen since everything that happened on Earth and his body can't forget the betrayal of his only friends drugging him and sending him to die.