7B4T adds: No unnecessary talking to men. This includes arguing with men since it's a drain of energy and also degrading to debate your human rights, as well as no unnecessary platonic relationships with men as they will seek to soften your feminism or make you compromise your values.
8B4T adds: No compromise with men (regarding feminist goals). For example when fighting for abortion rights we shouldn't accept anything that doesn't give us total control over our own bodies. We shouldn't stop fighting for / building the ability to live and work separately is another. So always keep fighting.
9B4T adds: No activities in which women are the product. The obvious one to this is the sex industry, but also surrogacy and eggsploitation (egg selling, bc unfortunately female gamete procurement is a brutal process unlike male gametes). Another angle of this is clubs where "women come free" or such things. It's only free because women are the product for men who will then spend more money on the business.
You don't have to answer this ask of course but I was wondering if you can help me out.
If I don't like the idea of dating, fucking and marrying men but find some men's looks attractive and get shy around them, would I be concidered bisexual or lesbian?
I have never known if I had actual crushes on people (of both sexes) or if I just like the idea of having a crush like my peers and romance media I watched growing up.
hello dear anon! ultimately, sexuality is something that you won't figure out overnight, and it isn't a decision i can make, but i can offer up some questions for you to consider on your self-exploration journey (because it IS a journey). i encourage you to ask many of your own, as well.
growing up, did you ever face pressure to date boys? have you ever given reasons for not dating boys, without understanding why? was dating a girl ever an option for you?
were you exposed to homophobia over a long-term period? is/was your family homophobic? were you encouraged to be homophobic?
is it shyness you've been feeling, or anxiety? what does your body experience when you get shy around men?
when you see an attractive man, do you feel any sexual arousal? do these attractive men align with the beauty standard? is it shallow acknowledgement of their attractiveness, or do your thoughts explore this attraction beyond aesthetics?
is your aversion to relationships and sex with men more of a mental block or physical? have you suffered from trauma or misogyny at the hands of men? do you have a male "type"? is that type far more appealing when you envision him as a woman?
when you think of a lesbian, what do you envision? what would being a lesbian mean for you going forward? how does that possible future make you feel?
when you think of a bisexual woman, what do you envision? what would being bisexual mean for you going forward? how does that possible future make you feel?
does the thought of a lesbian align with lesbophobic stereotypes? what about a bisexual woman? do you view lesbianism as a more "pure" sexuality? do you view bisexuality as a more "moral" sexuality? does lesbianism make you uncomfortable? what about bisexuality?
what goal do you want to accomplish by choosing either label?
all of these questions are open-ended and do not have a "wrong" answer. if you feel persuaded to answer a certain way, ask yourself why. analyze every response you give, every feeling, every knee-jerk reaction.
the reason why i stress all this critical introspection is to encourage you to actually learn about yourself, and in order to do that, you must work through a mountain of shit that is: female socialization, subconscious bias, conditioned beliefs, and internalized bigotry. which is why my recommended questions appear almost accusatory—introspection is not supposed to be comfortable.
if it takes a while for you to answer these questions, that's okay. sit with yourself and be patient. sexuality is not something you should rush to figure out, and i encourage you—before anything else—to unlearn the harmful idea that you must label yourself. trust me, i know firsthand how frustrating it is to live in confusion, but self-discovery is so much more than choosing a definitive term.
i wish you the best of luck, and if you have any more questions, my inbox is always open <3
Summer needs to end right now, I’m tired of this shit. The same company was out here twice to fix my air conditioner and they haven’t done shit, on top of that the nasty man left my toilet seat up.
I ran across "white women naming their pets after asian foods" discourse and I do not want to jump in and argue with a bunch of room temperature IQs but I need to get the thoughts out or I'm gonna burst.
In english, pet names tend to be 1-2 syllables, typically with the stress on the first syllable. They tend to fall into a handful of thematic categories, and "food item" is one of the major categories (alongside "adjectives" and "pop culture reference"). Which is why you'll also see a lot of pets named tater, dumpling, gouda, taco, biscuit, poutine, muffin, butters, cupcake, pepper, peanut, nacho, noodle, pumpkin, etc.
A lot of asian foods that are popular in the west (miso/tofu/kimchi/sushi/sake/boba) therefore sound good as pet names. Yeah it's a little bit trendy. Asian food in general is trendy in the US right now (can't speak to other countries). During the 2010s bacon craze, there were a lot of pets named Bacon.
It's literally not that deep. Check out this list of dog names from 1460. This is barely recognizable as english, and the names trend a little longer, but I gently draw your attention to "Garlik," "Salmon," and "Lamprey."
That was my thought as well. A pet named mochi is no weirder than one named marshmallow.
Any time people make a big fuss about something as harmless as naming pets after food and single out women, it becomes fairly clear that they're less concerned about racism and more looking for an excuse to shame women.
So should we refer to all winners of the Model of the Year award as biological males/females from here on out? Since apparently referring to people by their biological sex is just a normal thing that happens all the time and definitely isn't used derogatorily and exclusively to one specific group of people.
If he had won in the males category where he belongs, they wouldn't need to mention his biological sex. It would just be assumed. He entered the female category and so his sex is noteworthy, because a woman (female) did not win the women's (female) model of the year award, a male did. He made it a thing when he entered.
people who defend makeup with "makeup good because makeup form of self expression/art", never actually wear the avant-garde, artistic, strange & experimental makeup they talk about. even the "man repellent" makeup is a smokey eye and bold lip. far from being actually beauty standard challenging.
don't get me started on male gaze vs female gaze being basically the same things in different colour palettes...
it's cope, it's total cope. and you're hiding from the fact that society brainwashed you into looking in the mirror and seeing faults you ought to correct instead of seeing yourself.
📢"they're blackpilled! " "that's blackpilled." "extra extra! this person is blackpilled!"
I'm not blackpilled. but when I can get call "blackpilled" just for being a misandrist, a lesbian and pro 6b9t, i start to think this blackpill scare is on some radblr McCarthyism.
there's like 20 of them in existence. and yet half of radblr flips their shit for them. Yet i dont see ya'll give a damn to the actually sexist men who make up half the population.
it's a waste of fucking time for y'all to fear monger women into quitting separatism or accepting your patriarchal marriage rituals. you want to be crabs in a bucket and drag other women down with you that badly?
I hear the biggest hypocrites say, "feminism is for all women, even the ones that struggle" and then turn around and call someone blackpilled for being a separatist like this is the red scare of the 60's.
half of the women accused of being blackpilled are just separatists and lesbians.
so its clearly some tactic to silence separatism by pretending that female liberation is somehow sexist with mental gymnastics. and that's some tra bullshit.
For real, IDGAF what blackpilled women say or do. Radical feminists criticize them for being too mean, which they can come off as mean at times, but it’s for a reason and most of the time I would say they have good points. Plus there aren’t many blackpilled women on the internet, so even though a lot of radblr disagrees with them and heavily dislikes them, it can’t argued they’re doing anything extremely harmful, at worst they’re hurting other women’s feelings, so I refuse to participate in a hate campaign against them, it would be dumb and pointless, there’s larger fish to fry, such as the men killing millions of women per year.
there's actually no reason whatsoever for there to be zero gnc women in WWE. not even one trunchbull-esque strongwoman. not even for comic relief. every single one wears a full face of makeup and complete set of nails. it's actually crazy compared to the variety of handsomes to uglies on the male side. fucked up.
I always giggle when I notice a TIM holding the same exact angle in a video the whole time he’s recording himself, cause if he turns his head it’s gonna be 1000x worse
let me tell you why SpongeBob SquarePants is literally a detrans TERF and why we need to talk about it.
y'all remember the 2000s right? we were all out here thinking SpongeBob was peak gender nonconformity. the high voice? the flamboyant laughter? the fact that he literally wore a dress in multiple episodes and nobody questioned it??? we were like "yes! representation! this sponge is transing the gender!"
we were WRONG.
here's the thing. SpongeBob didn't transition to something. SpongeBob transitioned from something, realized it was a mistake, and has been spiraling ever since. think about it. he used to be a natural sea sponge—literally a hermaphroditic organism capable of both sexual reproduction methods—and then he decided to become... whatever he is now. a "male" fry cook? in a "pineapple" house? the symbolism isn't subtle bestie.
the evidence:
he's obsessed with "manliness" now — remember when he tried to join the Salty Spitoon? that's not aspirational masculinity, that's compensating. that's "i used to be genderless in the ocean and now i have something to prove" behavior.
his relationship with Sandy — literally only hangs out with her to assert his "manhood" around a girlboss scientist while secretly resenting that she transitioned (species) successfully and he didn't. the jealousy is PALPABLE.
the "imagination" box — this is clearly a dissociation coping mechanism for gender dysphoria. the rainbow coming out of it? that's the HRT he wishes he never started.
why this matters for the community:
because SpongeBob has become the face of the "detrans to TERF pipeline" that nobody wants to talk about. he's not just quietly living his life—he's SQUIDWARD. he's becoming bitter. he's writing Substack essays about "the dangers of medicalizing sponge children." he's testifying in front of the Texas legislature about how transition ruined his porous body.
and the WORST part? the cishets are EATING IT UP. they're using SpongeBob—their ONE gay-coded comfort character—to justify their entire worldview. "even the sponge regretted it!" they're saying. "even the sponge knows biology is real!"
the implications:
if SpongeBob SquarePants can go from "absorbent and yellow and porous" (gender euphoria) to "i'm a MAN, Patrick, a REAL MAN with SKELETAL STRUCTURE" (gender despair), what does that mean for the rest of us? is Patrick next? is he going to start reading Irreversible Damage and posting about "female socialization" despite being a literal starfish?
anyway in conclusion: SpongeBob is a cautionary tale about what happens when you build your entire identity around performing gender for the male gaze (the Krusty Krab is the male gaze) instead of just... being a sponge. free him from his square pants. let him return to the ocean. let him be hermaphroditic again.
