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I'm recognizing I've changed. I know I have, because now everything feels like like it's happening for the first time.

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I could have a lot of things at the moment, But 'things' don't subside the headaches you acquire from the dysfunction attached to the 'things'

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Your choices bring about a result. If You want different results, You need to make different choices. It's just that simple.

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Don't be that person that has to be persuaded to obey. Be the person who obeys out of love, adoration, and respect. ... Transcendent Loyalty.

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“How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself and in no instance bypass the discriminations of reason? You have been given the principles that you ought to endorse, and you have endorsed them. What kind of teacher, then, are you still waiting for in order to refer your self-improvement to him? You are no longer a boy, but a full-grown man. If you are careless and lazy now and keep putting things off and always deferring the day after which you will attend to yourself, you will not notice that you are making no progress, but you will live and die as someone quite ordinary. From now on, then, resolve to live as a grown-up who is making progress, and make whatever you think best a law that you never set aside. And whenever you encounter anything that is difficult or pleasurable, or highly or lowly regarded, remember that the contest is now: you are at the Olympic Games, you cannot wait any longer, and that your progress is wrecked or preserved by a single day and a single event. That is how Socrates fulfilled himself by attending to nothing except reason in everything he encountered. And you, although you are not yet a Socrates, should live as someone who at least wants to be a Socrates.” ― Epictetus

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When you ache Deeply Find a new way of coping that is different from the original technique that caused you the pain in the first place, And heal.

Cori Marilyn

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Discretion

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When you've been there, you know the way out so that others can follow.

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Codependent behavior, in my own words ...

Codependent,

 When you neglect yourself to take care of a person or people,  to the point of depression, anxiety, and/or self harm. When your life becomes “fixing” other people and neglecting to fix yourself. Feeling responsible for others poor choices and negative behavior. Feeling guilty if they are not in a good mood or acting right. You think, I must have done something or I didn't do enough, to cause the other persons behavior. In turn, you suffocate your own needs, wants, or options, in order to give the other person what you think they want from you. You become mentally, emotionally, and/or physically, ill from the stress of appeasing others. Allowing yourself to be controlled by others actions or moods. Living a life of walking on egg shells. 

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Making excuses for your actions thwarts your ability to change

Cori Marilyn 

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when you party alone, its not partying, its medicating

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Maintaining

Finding the silver lining to an unwelcomed situation is vital to maintain a homeostasis of contentment.  The ‘it always could be worse’ approach has most defiantly rendered me out of a few sour moods myself. When all else fails I play the “glad game” in my head, I can thank Pollyanna for that one.  

It’s not always easy.  Take it from someone who has gone through a lot of troublesome situations. Some self-inflicted, some caused by others.  At the end of the day you are the only one who has to live with the choices made. So I implored you, not to let other control and manipulate you. The worst is living with consequences that were brought on by another’s imposed choices made for you.  As for myself, I find the negative choices I’ve made I can accept,  see the errors and grow from, whereas the negative outcomes I have suffered by another’s attempt to control me, had left me bitter for some time.

The realization of needing to take back the wheel of your own life comes with age. Taking responsibility for owns own action’s, is a state maturity.  It’s not an easy thing to admit failure nor is it easy to accept consequences and proceed forward in spite of them.  Although, to someone who is determined not to repeat past failures, the next choice at hand will be made with more consideration then the former... And that my friend is growth.

Be mindful to evolve not Devolve. You are in a constant state of moving forward or moving backward. Growing past old negative images of you is the best way groom yourself to be a better individual. It begins in your own state of mind. One must stop comparing themselves to other people or imposed ideas of what you think you need be. Be in competition with the ‘you’ from yesterday.  Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and months turn into years, and next thing you know you are an evolved version of yourself. Propel yourself forward by maintaining a state of contentment that will fuel your happiness.

Don’t be your worst critic any longer.  One day at a time, sometimes it’s taking one minute at a time.

It’s never as bad as it seems.

It won’t last forever.

It only has as much effect on you as you allow it to have.

So am I saying ignore things? No but approach it with reality. If you messed up, own it and grow from it. Do not continue to beat yourself up.  Beating one’s self up will only cause a person to repeat the same negative patterns.  The past is the past, only you have the ability to allow the past to affect your future.

If happiness is contentment, then gratitude is the attitude that we should approach every situation with. Being content where you are, while you are growing into a better version of yourself, is the best state to be in. There is no price tag on inner peace. Achieving inner peace is ultimate happiness, because only you can control it. As you maintain your serenity, it’s as if you are putting up an invisible shield, where no one can discourage you with their negativity due to your deflective state of tranquility. Do not allow yourself to be polluted by others. Maintain your own homeostasis by weeding out the stressors in your life or finding a positive coping mechanism. Accept things and learn. It’s the little things in life that make life worth living. Make memories. Live each moment.  Enjoy the people around you.  How you spent your time is all that counts in the end.

Spend it happy.

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one factor that is prevalent in any lasting relationship, is the ability to co- exist with each others dysfunction. If you cant, it wont ever last.

Cori Marilyn

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If you don't like something, change it. Sleepless nights lead to determined mornings. #thoughtout #thecove #herecomesthesun #silverlinings #itsallgood #embraceit

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Perception:

The vision in which we view reality. Although not all of our perceptions are accurate. Our perception can be skewed due to pain we have endured. Experiences can taints ones vision and ultimately causes us to perceive through the lenses of woundedness. When we see things though our skewed vision we can not interpret reality accurately. Unless we become self aware and recognize our own biases we will never grow. Until we take the time and energy to allow the wounds to healed, we view life through dirty windows. When we get the windex and clean off the dirt we had once been jaded by, then and only then, can one perceived things from a place of understanding rather then a place of a victimality.

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all i have for some people is pity and prayers

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Note to self: stop being a glutton for punishment. Be all you were created to be ☀️🌱❤️ #notetoself #embrace #embraceyourself #embracechange #embracethejourney #enbracethenewyou #live #laugh #love #enjoy