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nonbinary lesbian, xe/he/it, tme, black adult, talking about gender, terfs will be blocked

[songofsonnets]

i do not like the term transandrophobia, i would like to briefly summarise why.

to me, the term transandrophobia implies that androphobia exists and it does not. men are not systemically oppressed by any means and it is strange, to me, to have that term there to validate that. even if you think of black men, disabled men, queer men, etc, it is not on strictly terms of their maleness that they are oppressed. taking an intersectional approach, we can indeed acknowledge how gender modifies how one may experience racism, ableism, queerphobia etc but i think implying men face significant institutional barriers is foolhardy at best.

i dislike how the term is used as opposition to transmisogyny. the oppression of trans men and transmascs works in tandem and as an symbiotic amplifier to the oppression of trans women and transfems, not as opposition. trans women and transfems do not benefit from ‘transandrophobia’ the way it is implied. they can not tangibly oppress us. the theorist Nsambu Za Suekama very particularly pointed this out with anti-transmasculinity.

that does lead to my next point which is that i believe anti transmasculinity is a better term altogether. it points out the link with transmisogynoir and how colonised people are policed by it in particular, removing gender expanses to justify a singular white cishet patriarchy nexus. please read her work for an introduction:

Racial-Class Paternalism and the Trojan Horse of Anti-transmasculinity

Nsambu Za Suekama Racial-Class Paternalism and the Trojan Horse of Anti-transmasculinity Introduction March 4, 2023

i think it is fine for transmascs and men to have language to describe the particular nuances of how transphobia affects us but we can do so much better than something like transandrophobia.

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[songofsonnets]

white people will speak to you any which way and resist you to try appropriate a theory that has nothing to do with them because they dont want to handle a racial aspect but alright

[songofsonnets]

reminding everyone that anti-transmasculinity and transandrophobia do not mean the same thing

[songofsonnets]

i would like it to be understood that anti-transmasculinity as a theory is seperate from transandrophobia. it specifically positions anti-transmasculinity as a trojan horse for transmisogynoir and racism is inextricable from it.

[songofsonnets]

it’s very possible to figure out your gender identity as you medically transition - it may even be exactly what you need to do so. you don’t need to wait until you know every single facet of your identity to do so, you can just start and figure things out on the way. your transition is yours, you can stop or start anytime.

[transmonstera]

metamorphasis

[IMAGE ID] "oftentimes to transition is to lose everything in order to gain so much more" in black wavy text. behind it is a pink version of the text acting as a shadow. next to the text is an image of an insect going through metamorphasis, this too is black with a pink shadow. the background is decorated with pink and black stars, and there is a black border [END]

[songofsonnets]

this is as much a reminder for myself as others who are on testosterone - although the rhetoric around it is that it’s a hard hitting hormone that works quickly, please remember that your changes will take time! it’s normal to not look like clark kent one month in and keep in mind that different ways of taking t, like t gel, are generally a bit slower in causing effects.

i promise you the hormones are working for you, just give it time to shine!

[sweatermuppet]

"irreversible side effects of HRT" all of life is irreversible. i cannot go back a single second in time

[sweatermuppet]

also i know what i want. i know the risks. everything has risk. i am already living! why am i living half a life because of what YOU fear? stop talking down to transsexuals

[songofsonnets]

i think it’s in every trans person’s own interest to get a vague understanding of how to diy hrt. i’m not saying you need to know how to make it from scratch but even just knowing how to order online is good for safety and health purposes. trans legal protections are consistently in flux as we’ve seen in the usa and we can not trust that progress will always move forward. learn how to transition outside of official pathways if you can and disseminate the information. look out for each other.

[songofsonnets]

antitransmasculinity is not interchangeable with the term ‘transandrophobia’ or ‘transmisandry’. it is a term with tangible theory behind it that intertwines it with transmisogynoir in its function. it can’t be divorced from racism. please do not forget this.

Racial-Class Paternalism and the Trojan Horse of Anti-transmasculinity

Nsambu Za Suekama Racial-Class Paternalism and the Trojan Horse of Anti-transmasculinity Introduction March 4, 2023

"Non-Men", maGes, and Black Masculinities | g(ender) fugitive

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[songofsonnets]

antitransmasculinity can not be divorced from transmisogynoir and racism.

[songofsonnets]

Transmasc Book Rec: Outside the XY: Queer, Black and Brown Masculinity

‘Outside the XY: Queer, Black and Brown Masculinity is an anthology of more than 50 stories, memories, poems, ideas, essays and letters--all examining what it looks like, feels like, and is like to inhabit masculinity outside of cisgendered manhood as people of color in the world.’

it was an excellent book that put a lot of words to the transmasculine and/or stud experience! i was ecstatic to see disabled people included and discussions from black transmascs in the developing world. i ended up laughing a lot and there were a lot of things that i solemnly thought about, including how we navigate things like toxic masculinity, misogyny and transphobia we inflict on each other.

tw for sa, abuse, transphobia

buy it here:

Outside the XY: Queer, Black and Brown Masculinity — bklyn boihood

Outside the XY: Queer, Black and Brown Masculinity is an anthology of more than 50 stories, memories, poems, ideas, essays and letters--all

[songofsonnets]

trans men and mascs ended up seceding too much when we allowed ourselves to be convinced that ‘female socialisation’ was the only way to speak about the gendered traumas we faced as children.

‘female socialisation’ is already a term i have beef with, namely that if it had really succeeded we would be females as well as not every woman having the same experience of girlhood due to other factors e.g. race, disability etc. it’s often seen as an absolute determiner for our behaviour now and is easily and frequently weaponised by terfs to engage in transmisogyny, accusing transfems and women of using their male socialisation to oppress women. it also works to present a false idea that trans men and mascs should be sympathetic to the transmisogynistc terf cause because of shared ‘female socialisation’ or ‘afab socialisation’ that will ultimately doom ALL trans people by the end.

i think it’s just reductive to say that we can not have experienced misogyny because we absolutely did and it crushes the chance for many of us to discuss traumas we faced specifically for gender deviance also that cis women would not have.

[songofsonnets]

the idea that testosterone is a dangerous hormone that inherently makes someone domineering and difficult to be around is transphobic all round, leaning on bioessentialism.

for trans men and transmascs, we are warned against medical transition for fear that we may lose our agreeableness and perceived passivity. we are seen as potential aggressors after going on it.

trans woman and transfems have any testosterone in their system, whether on hrt or not, held over them like an original sin that can not be escaped that positions them as more aggressive and dangerous. it is seen as something that threatens their womanhood and can be brought up against them at any time to revoke it.

testosterone is not an evil hormone. it does not change your moral character. it does good for some and bad for others, like any other hormone.

[songofsonnets]

it’s important to understand that TMA and TME do not actually tell you anything about someone’s genitals nor AGAB.

cis people are all generally understood to be TME. AGAB doesn’t actually tell you about someone’s genitals - please keep in mind intersex people and differing gender developments among them.

it is just a helpful distinction to understand who is most vulnerable to a form of oppression.