#tme

[coremilk]

This is a point that has already been raised years ago, but it bears repeating: Accusing transfeminized people who use "TMA"/"TME" terminology of "wanting to know what's in people's pants" is (on top of very obviously not being true) an attempt to portray them as sexual predators intent on violating others' boundaries - It is actively, maliciously using transmisogynistic biases against transfeminized people in service of denying that those biases affect transfeminized people qualitatively differently from non-transfeminized people.

It's one of the most sickening rhetorical strategies that those segments of the trans community who wish to preserve and extend their own ability to benefit from transmisogyny have devised.

"Transfeminized people wanting others to acknowledge the power they hold over them makes them sexual deviants" is a near perfect crystallization of anti-transfeminist politics in the trans community.

[eldritchpunkpuppy]

You have to love your disabled trans girlfriend.

You have to love her when she can't pay rent.

You have to love her when she can't do the dishes in the sink.

You have to love her when her disability isn't pretty.

You have to love her when she can't get out of bed.

You *have* to love your disabled trans girlfriend.

[villapaitahinttari]

that "wait so RUPAUL would be TME??!?!?!" post is so hilarious to me and really exposes how people will try to engage with this terminology without actually understanding it at all, because RuPaul is maybe one of the best examples of transmisogyny exemptedness I could think of 'cause he plays the part of a queen publically but crucially, at the end of the day, he gets to stop playing that part. transfems don't! we're just transfeminized for realsies 24/7! that's the difference!

[nattitopher]

Friendly reminder to all the people using TMA/TME or any other false binary.

[id: batman in gloves breaking apart a gun, with edited text over top of the gun saying "Binaries/boxes", and the gloved person saying "This is the weapon of the enemy. We do not need it. We will not use it." With emphasis on this, enemy, need and use.]

[hideyourautumn-milkteeth]

people in the queer community will full chested say shit like "THESE HYSTERICAL UTERUS VAGINA HAVING TRANS PPL ARE SOOOO FUCKING PRIVILEGED AND SELFISH AND DID I MENTION HYSTERICAL??? THESE USELESS EMOTIONAL FEMALES-I MEAN MEN- REEAALLY WANT EVERYTHING TO BE ABOUT THEM ALL THE TIME!! WE NEED TO SILENCE THEM!!!" and be completely blind to all the layers of just how fucked that is. Awwesoooomee.

[healsypally]

“Just because trans men can be lesbians doesn’t mean trans women can’t be lesbians”

Every single trans man lesbian has entered into a queer space, saw rampant “afab-only” policies, and shrugged at the literal discriminatory segregation. He thought it was perfectly understandable, every single last time.

Or, at least understandable enough not to rock the boat. He wouldn’t want to be treated like trans women are, would he?

If trans men lesbians want to profess their existence, they can start by apologizing.

You should apologize to the lesbian women that you and your forefathers banned from lesbian spaces for exactly as long as you were welcomed.

[el-las-in]

Felassans, long hair

Up next: Felassans, short hair

[status-quo-hater]

Hello transgender person who wants to help their community.

Stop making tumblr essays about how much you hate the word transandrophobia or TME/TMA. It's not doing anything.

You are accomplishing absolutely nothing and this does not matter.

It's distracting you from doing something that actually materially helps people.

Talk to other queer people in your area. Create support networks. Educate the public about trans people. Make informational zines. Spread awareness of common transphobic dogwhistling so your allies can keep an eye out for it. Organize and attend protests (download Signal while you're at it). Show up to city hall. Show up to school board meetings. Pay attention to anti-trans legislation on a local level. Speak about transness at college queer events. DO something.

Make an effort to help create the world you want to live in instead of bitching on tumblr and sitting on your ass. We would be so much more productive if you all actually did fucking anything.