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ZANDer i just MET her he/him

[sonwashed]

i love trans men and being a trans man. not just for the fact that i "got to experience being a woman", but because right now i'm experiencing being a man. that is a good thing. being a man is a good thing, no matter what tumblr echo chambers and the off terf lgbt group/space says.

i love boyhood. i love being my mother's son. i love being the random boy in a girl's friend group. i love the cracks, the cravings, the hair growing oddly, and the constant sexuality crisis. i love all the "rough and tumble" and the mess and being the "little guy". i love getting pissed when my friends scruff up my hair. i love punching my wall and silently cursing from the pain. i love eating ice cream with my teeth. i love how my hair is thick and my eyebrows are dark and my posture is hunched and aloof. while this isn't everyone's boyhood, it's mine. i love being exactly who i am.

no amount of rants, fear-mongering, slurs, dog whistling, or invisibility is going to stop me from being trans or a man. so i'm not going to try. i love being a whiny, offensive transandrobro. i love being me.

[sonwashed]

it's so transphobic how much taking off tape hurts. it is pride month why can't you just come off without taking 1.5 layers of my skin with you

[sonwashed]

i'm so pissed OFF bro why is my mum ranting to me about how "aggressive and violent" i'm gonna get on testosterone and then getting annoyed at me when i explain that that's terf rhetoric. "please don't become like those awful aggressive men i'm terrified!" I'M YOUR SON LOOK ME IN THE FUCKING EYE

[ardent-crow-art]

people around me keep forgetting i'm trans lmao. i was all excited about passing on my first day at work, and my best friend was all like: "passing? tf does that mean?" and then a few seconds later "oh. OH. congrats!"

and a few weeks ago, an enby friend of mine was venting about some gynecological stuff they had going on, and i offered them some info and advice based on my experiences with trans-vaginal ultrasounds, pelvic exams, and the like. they went, "how do you know any of this??? you're a man!" i actually had to remind them i'm trans lol

[sonwashed]

"trans men never even try to pass, they all just want to keep being perceived as women!"

HOW is this a statement i have genuinely seen with multiple variations.

i have purposefully induced allergic reactions on my face because i wanted my skin to be blotchy and rough. i have binded for so long that i lost time in an exam clutching my ribs from the pain. i've been unable to attend things i love because the way my hair dried after showering made it look slightly more feminine. i have had violent meltdowns lasting for hours because my walls are pink.

what part of this screams "i want to keep my (supposed) AFAB privilege"? even if a trans man doesn't want to pass/feel dysphoric i can guarantee you that you haven't done anything by making us out to be some kind of conspiratorial group of women-lites. "trans men are men" is one of the first supportive phrases most people learn.

[taki-dust]

stop pushing toxic masculinity on transmascs after staying in trf spaces i ended up detransitioning because i felt like my problems would be treated more seriously. nothing was ever allowed to be about transmascs. any problems i had other people had worse. i had to pretend misogyny didnt effect me, i had to pretend transphobia didnt affect me and i had to pretend being a cis women was easier than being a trans man. all my interest were cringe now. my music taste, my sexuality, how i dressed, anything they saw too many trans men liking was cringe now. i became a shell of my former self because i felt i couldnt express myself without it being cringe and i knew it wasnt okay to not be okay because then i was just whining. im still trying to find the courage to retransition on main. i havent touched my old blog in a while but when i do i will soft block a lot of people that have made me feel unsafe. hopefully this blog will help me regain my confidence. all i want is to be a man who is both kind and confident.

[ryartchus]

yea

[injured-intern]

we need to collectively stop making forcemasc revolve around police and the military I’m not falling for that

[sahlofolina]

there's this specific grief that comes with being trans and hearing another trans person has died. because no matter how far away they were, it never feels distant, it feels communal. cellular. like someone reached into the wiring of your own body and cut a thread. trans people learn early on in their journey - often even before they begin transitioning - that survival is treated like a political statement. joy is political. transition is political. getting to exist long enough to become boring is political.

and now mourning is political, too.

i'm so sorry, murry foust. i keep thinking about how tired you must have been. how tired all of us are. how humiliating it is that even when we die alone, people still laugh and debate whether we deserved to live a happy, dignified life at all.

there are trans kids online right now learning your name – and the names of juniper blessing, lucas redbeard knapp, aleanna belcher, and davonta curtis – through grief. through fear. through that horrible, familiar ache of "that could've been me." and i hate that this is part of our inheritance from one another. not just chosen family and resilience and beauty – but memorials. vigils. apology letters to ghosts.

you deserved better. you deserved to grow old and live a happy, fulfilled life. all of us do. i promise we will keep fighting for our community to have a better future and we'll carry our lost siblings the whole way through.

[naga-noia]

I’m sorry to all the transmascs/men who were discouraged from exploring or expressing their identities.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/men who were fearmongered into believing that testosterone would make you ugly, or that any form of masculinity was objectively dangerous and evil.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/men who were told that they were too stupid and naive to know what they wanted.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/trans men whose identities were mocked, shamed and belittled.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/trans men were slammed as fetishizers for expressing the desire to be gay men.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/trans men who’ve been called everything from daughter killers to predators-in-the-making.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/men who don’t feel like they have any community behind them.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/trans men who have been forced to detransition.

I’m sorry to the transmascs who have been forcibly impregnated, put into arranged marriages, or denied basic autonomy.

I’m sorry to the transmascs/men who died before ever getting to live.

I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry.

I love you.

[omensofatimelord]

Now that pornhub released statistics showing that a significant number of cis women seek out porn of trans men under pretty fetishistic and transphobic names, can we finally admit that the rise in the amount of explicit gay fanfic/fan art/head cannons where the bottom is depicted as a trans man is fetishistic?

[learn-how-to-love]

Genuinely extremely ghoulish to wield the horrific murder of a young trans woman for discourse points against trans men and mascs speaking up on our issues. Go fuck yourself, seriously. And stop misusing the term “social murder” especially when talking about a REAL ACTUAL FUCKING TRANSFEMICIDE. This is not transfeminism this is just disgusting behavior.

[lurkingtman]

feeling my voice deepen from t as i see hatred for men from the women around me and its rampant online and i feel a sinking feeling that ive made myself disposable with no way to go back. i feel like i get less loveable every day even as i gain more confidence in myself. its a strange feeling. im sad. im sick of my femininity being grieved by people

[rambling-crerchur]

Because testosterone is already a controlled substance and thus the posession of it as DIY HRT is already illegal. Trans men and transmascs have been talking about this for literal years. This is such a bizarre kneejerk, because instead of simply talking about how horrible the attempt to criminalize DIY estrogen is OP here immedeatly decides to make this about trans men and transmascs being less opressed.

[learn-how-to-love]

Oh they’re like, actual idiots with no clue what they’re talking about, huh. Seriously going “they’ll make DIY estrogen ILLEGAL TO POSSESS!!!” With seemingly 0 awareness that it’s already illegal to possess non-prescribed testosterone in the US. Our DIY HRT IS ALREADY ILLEGAL. No fucking duh anti-trans groups aren’t talking about banning it, it’s ALREADY BANNED! If there wasn’t enough evidence that people in this circle are just ignorant assholes this is a pretty good one, honestly.

[olenoidserratus]

Now, "Google is free" is a shitty reaction to someone being uneducated on a topic, I get that. Still, I don't believe going on Google or DuckDuckGo or whatever and typing in "Is testosterone legal in the US?" would've been particualrly difficult or time-consuming for anyone in this screencap. And yet, here we are.

Nobody feels any obligation to educate themselves on transmasc issues, but everyone feels entitled to commenting on them, and - like a certain cervid - to dismissing them when they're corrected on the subject...

And I'm supposed to believe this is all just gonna blow over soon?

[riv3rboychaos]

"trans men dont get discouraged from transitioning by transandphobia and/or 'kill all men' rhetoric"

yeahhh suree not like i spent the last two years trying desperately to find a gender that wasnt trans man because i didnt want to accept that im a trans man. noooo that definitely didnt happen i definitely didnt do that /sarc

[sonwashed]

"transandrophobia doesn't exist!!!" the crowd cries as i wake up to yet another one of my posts reblogged with transandrophobic tags

[sonwashed]

i fully had a dream last night that transmasc jax was canon in the finale and everyone was mad i NEED to get off of tumblr