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past self

I’m learning to look back at who I used to be with more compassion than judgment. There were times in my life when I didn’t know what I know now, when I made choices based on fear, survival, or simply the limited tools I had at the time. And today, I choose to forgive that version of me. Not because everything was perfect, but because I understand now that I was doing the best I could with what I understood then.

Growth doesn’t happen all at once. It happens through mistakes, through pain, through moments where we realize we could have done better if we had known better. I can’t change the past, but I can honor the effort I made to keep moving forward, even when I was lost, even when I was tired, even when I felt alone.

I release the need for everyone else to forgive me. That’s not something I can control. What I can control is how I choose to see myself now — with honesty, with accountability, but also with grace. I accept that I am human, that I am imperfect, and that I am still worthy of respect, healing, and peace.

Whether others understand my journey or not, I know this: I am enough. Not because I am flawless, not because I never failed, but because I am still here, still learning, still trying to be better than I was yesterday. And today, that is enough for me.

[mariasalvatori]

«Nunca vas a tener que perseguir lo que en realidad tiene ganas de quedarse contigo.»

[filmtvtoday]

Hocus Pocus (1993) dir. Kenny Ortega

[soytufanboy]

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[sorse]

When she finds me

Sometimes I wonder what it will be like when death finally comes for me. I don’t picture it as something violent or cold, but rather as a quiet arrival, the way an old friend might appear after years apart. I hope that when it finds me, it doesn’t come with fear or shadows, but with a soft voice, whispering gently: “Come now, the fight is over.” I imagine it reaching for my hand, not to pull me away, but to guide me, the way someone who understands your weariness will take your arm and steady you. I want it to know why I am tired, why my spirit aches, why I have carried so much for so long. I want it to say: “You’ve carried enough. Let me hold this weight for you now.” More than anything, I hope it makes a promise — that where it is leading me, there will finally be quiet. That the noise, the struggle, the constant strain of being will fall away. I hope it tells me: “Here, you can rest.” And in that moment, I would finally be able to let go, not with fear, but with gratitude for the peace I had been searching for all along.

[sorse]

Disposable

August 20, 2025

I don’t really expect anyone to read this. Honestly, that’s kind of the point. This isn’t a cry for pity, and I’m not writing it for sympathy or attention. If anything, this is just me trying to clear space in my own head. These thoughts have been crowding everything lately, and writing them down here—on a blog that’s basically invisible to the world—feels like the only way to breathe a little.

Lately, I’ve been sitting with this heavy, sinking feeling. I keep asking myself: why is it so easy for people to walk away? To leave and not look back? To treat me like I’m disposable, like I never really mattered at all? It’s like... I’m a gum wrapper—something small and forgettable, crumpled up and tossed aside the moment I'm no longer useful or interesting. That’s how it feels.

I’m not saying I’ve been perfect, or that I’ve never made mistakes. But the way some people just disappear—as if all the shared moments, the laughs, the support, the trust—meant nothing? It stings in a way that’s hard to explain. It makes me question if any of it was ever real to begin with. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn’t. But I was there. I felt it. And now I’m left with this echo where connection used to be.

I’m not asking for anyone to come back. I’m not even sure I’d want them to, if I’m honest. I just wish I understood what it is about me that makes it so easy for people to forget. I guess I write this not because I want answers, but because I need to let it out somewhere. And this—this little corner of the internet where no one’s watching—feels like the only safe place to do it.

[thememedaddy]

[sorse]

IM POISON

Journal Entry — July 26, 2025

I don’t know how to be. I wish I did. I wish I could wake up tomorrow and just know how to live like everyone else seems to—with purpose, with direction, with a sense of peace. But I don't. And maybe you do. Maybe it's easier for you. Maybe your mind isn’t a battlefield every morning.

For me, it’s different. I’ve spent so long lying to myself—telling myself I’ll change, that I’ll be better, that I’ll somehow outrun the darkness that’s always been with me. But I’m tired of pretending. The truth is uglier: I don’t think I can change. I’m not sure I ever really tried in the way that counts. I’ve just worn different masks, hoping one of them would feel real enough to save me.

But none of them do.

There’s something rotten in me. Something broken. I’ve always felt it. I come from poison. It’s in my blood, in my bones, in the way I speak, in the silence I carry. I was raised in it, shaped by it, and now it lives inside me like a second skin. And no matter how hard I try to outrun it, it catches up—because it’s not chasing me. It is me.

I destroy everything I touch. People. Moments. Love. Trust. I don’t mean to, but I do. And the worst part? I see it happening in real time. I see the damage. I feel the regret building while the words are still coming out of my mouth. But it doesn’t stop me. It never does.

This is what I leave behind—wreckage. Pain. A silence that gets heavier every time someone walks away. That’s my legacy. Not growth. Not healing. Just... damage. Just memories people try to forget.

I look at the life I’ve lived, and there’s nothing to show for it. No accomplishments that feel real. No connections that lasted. No one who could honestly say they’re better for having known me. That’s what hurts the most—not being hated, but being forgettable. Or worse: regretted.

And maybe that’s the only truth I have left. Maybe this journal is the only place I can be honest, where I can say the things I never let myself say out loud.

I don’t know how to be. I come from poison. And I’m sorry I couldn't be anything else.

[sorse]

What Peace Means to Me

Journal Entry — July 26, 2025

I don't know when it started exactly—this need for peace. Maybe it's always been there. Maybe I just got tired.

People say men are simple. That we don’t feel as much. That all we want is silence, space, a quiet room to breathe in. And I won’t lie—some days, I crave that like oxygen. But it’s not because there’s nothing going on inside. It’s the opposite. There’s too much.

I think about how we’re raised. How early we learn to shut up and keep moving. You scrape your knee? Don’t cry. Someone breaks your heart? Get over it. You feel lost? You drink, you joke, you distract, you bury. You get really good at pretending nothing bothers you, and the world rewards you for it. They call you strong.

But the truth is—I’m not peaceful. I’m tired. I’m carrying things I never learned how to let go of. I have regrets I’ll never say out loud, and fears that keep me up when the world is quiet. I’ve hurt people because I didn’t know how to speak. I’ve lost people because I couldn’t let myself be seen.

And then I look at women—and I envy them. Not in a bitter way, but in a way that aches. They cry without apology. They talk about their pain like it’s real, not something to be hidden. They feel things out loud, and maybe that’s why the world calls them "complex." But maybe it’s not complexity—it’s honesty.

Me? I smile when I’m breaking. I say “I’m good” when I’m drowning. I push it down so deep that sometimes even I forget what’s under there.

So yeah, I want peace. But not the kind where everything’s fine on the outside and numb on the inside. I want the kind of peace where I can finally let go. Where I don’t have to be strong just to survive. Where I can sit with someone and tell the truth and not be afraid they’ll flinch.

I don’t think men are peaceful by nature. I think we’re just taught to pretend. And I think a lot of us are quietly dying behind that mask.

I don’t want to die like that.

[sorse]

Detachment and Freedom

Journal Entry

Today I find myself sitting quietly, reflecting on something that has surfaced in my heart again and again — detachment. A word that at first glance might sound cold or indifferent, yet holds a deep, painful, and profoundly beautiful truth.

They say detachment is the most painful, and at the same time, the most elevated act of unconditional love — and I’m beginning to understand why. Letting go of someone or something you love is not easy. It’s one of the hardest things we’re ever called to do. It feels like tearing away a piece of yourself. It feels like losing something essential to your identity, your sense of safety, your very reason for joy.

But the pain of detachment, I’ve realized, is not pain in the physical sense. It’s suffering — suffering created in the mind. It’s the ego, whispering that we are losing something we own. That something we possess is slipping away. And in that belief — that false sense of ownership — lies the root of our suffering.

Because the truth is, we don’t own anything. Not truly. Not our parents. Not our partners. Not our children. Not even our closest friends. These people, whom we love with our whole hearts, are not ours. They never were. They are not extensions of us, nor are they ours to mold or keep. They are free beings — on their own journeys, with their own souls, dreams, wounds, and purposes. Just as I am on mine.

And so, I come back to the hard truth: If my happiness is dependent on others — on their presence, their behavior, their love — then it’s not really happiness. It’s attachment. It’s need. It’s fear masked as affection. And the cost of that kind of attachment is immense: it binds not only the other person, but also me. It creates invisible chains that keep both of us from growing, from breathing freely, from being whole.

Detachment, on the other hand, is radical trust. It’s the conscious act of saying, “I love you, and because I love you, I allow you to be. I release you from my expectations. I release myself from needing you to complete me.”

That doesn’t mean I stop caring. It doesn’t mean I become emotionally numb or indifferent. Quite the opposite — it means I begin to love from a place of truth, from a place that doesn't control or cling. It means I recognize that true love can only exist in freedom.

But getting there is hard. Because most of us have been conditioned from childhood to believe we are someone only if we have something — whether it’s a relationship, a job title, material wealth, or approval from others. We’ve been taught that security comes from possession, not presence.

And so when we begin to practice detachment, it hurts. A lot. It’s a grieving of the illusions we’ve held onto for so long. We grieve the idea that people can belong to us. We grieve the stories we’ve told ourselves — that we’ll only be okay if someone stays, if something lasts, if the situation unfolds just the way we imagined. But grief, in this case, is cleansing. It’s the breaking of a cage we didn’t know we were living in.

When I let go — with love, not bitterness — I return to myself. I return to the present moment, the only place where true peace can exist. Because attachment anchors us in a false present, one that’s constantly threatened by what might be lost. But detachment... it anchors us in the real present. It brings us back to now, where nothing is missing, where nothing needs to be grasped or held tightly.

It’s in this state of emotional independence that I feel something shift. A kind of spaciousness opens up inside me. I no longer need to control the narrative. I can love more deeply, because I’m no longer afraid of what happens if the other person walks away.

And that, I believe, is the most generous gift I can offer — to myself and to those I love. The gift of freedom. The gift of saying, “I choose you, but I don’t need to possess you to feel whole.”

So yes, detachment is painful. But it is also liberating. And once you begin down this path, there’s no going back — not because you can’t, but because you’ve seen what true freedom feels like.

And perhaps most beautifully of all, detachment is not about losing — it’s about making space. Letting go with gratitude. Trusting that what is meant for me will come, and what is not meant for me was never mine to begin with. That kind of surrender invites something better. It invites peace. It invites abundance.

I am learning to let go. To love without clinging. To open my hands — and my heart — to whatever life has in store. And in that, I feel more alive than ever.

[sorse]

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nobody has me

Journal Entry

That’s the thing about being alone — it’s not just that you don’t have anybody. It’s that nobody has you. There’s a difference. A big one.

People think loneliness is silence, empty rooms, no texts, no calls. But it's not always that loud. Sometimes it's quiet. Sometimes it's you sitting in a room full of people, laughing when you're supposed to, saying all the right things — and still feeling like you're disappearing. Like if you stopped showing up, nothing would collapse. The world would keep moving. People might notice, but would they feel it?

It's not that I don’t know people. I do. I talk to them, I show up, I ask how they are. I listen. But when it’s me — when it’s my turn to fall apart, or need something, or just say, “Hey, I’m not okay” — I freeze. Because who really has me like that? Who’s paying attention? Who would pull me out if I stopped pretending?

It’s this weird in-between place — not abandoned, but not held either. You’re not drowning, but no one’s exactly throwing you a life vest. You're just... floating. Quietly. Tired.

And that’s what gets me. Not the solitude, not the quiet. But the knowing — deep down — that if I let go, if I slipped, there might not be anyone there with arms open wide. Not because they don’t care, maybe, but because no one sees how close I am to breaking.

That's what being alone really feels like.

[sensemami]

[sorse]

validation

Journal Entry

It’s been hard to put everything into words, but I feel like I need to get this out of my system. She left me. The person I thought I was building a life with—she walked away. And the reason? She said she didn’t feel economically safe with me anymore. That was the line that stuck in my head like a broken record. Not loved, not seen, not appreciated… but not safe. Financially.

I can’t lie and say that didn’t hurt in a very particular way. It wasn’t just about money. It was about the implication—maybe the accusation—that I wasn’t enough. Not enough of a provider, not ambitious enough, not stable enough. Just… not enough.

But here’s the part that messes with me the most: it wasn’t all on me. She was spending more than we had. She wasn’t exactly managing things carefully either. It’s not like I was refusing to grow or build something better. I was trying—really trying. But the pressure kept mounting, and instead of facing it together, she chose to step away.

And even now, knowing all this, I keep circling back to the same haunting thought: Why do I still need someone else to tell me I’m enough?

I know I’m enough. Deep down, I know my worth isn’t tied to a paycheck or a lifestyle. I know I show up with heart, with effort, with love. But when someone you care about essentially says, “You’re not what I need,” it’s hard not to internalize that.

It’s like there's this ache in me that only gets louder in the silence she left behind. Maybe it’s the echo of all the times I doubted myself even before her. Maybe it’s that old fear—of not being worthy, of not measuring up.

What really intrigues me, though, is the contradiction: I believe in myself, and yet I crave validation. I want someone to say, “I see you. You’re doing okay. You are enough.” I want that voice outside of me to mirror what I’m trying to hold onto inside.

I guess healing isn’t just about letting go of the person. It’s about letting go of the need for their approval too. That’s the real work. And I’m still in the middle of it.

[micahulrichdraws]

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