SO WHAT THOUGH

[everqueen12]

byron donalds gave his life to christ in a cracker barrel parking lot. now you too can learn what religion you can convert to in a fast food restaurant parking lot by spinning these handy links!

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what the goddamn hell are you talking about

Voting ended onAug 29, 2025

[sowhatmary]

sometimes i just jump in the groupchat and say stuff

[sowhatmary]

a nice weekend tbh

[sowhatmary]

my favorite bit of jock behavior i engage in is that whenever i feel self conscious in a group i start telling people how much i can bench.

[sowhatmary]

[sowhatmary]

fun day to have a dog named leo

[oliviacoy]

hello my loves

there is a clownfundme organized by his family

Donate to Supporting Hope and Treatment Access for Travis, organized by Lisa Vallero Butterfield

Dear kind-hearted loved ones, colleagues + supporters, I’… Lisa Vallero Butterfield needs your support for Supporting Hope and Treatment

[sowhatmary]

absolutely screeching at the “open to work” banner on the (real!) linkedin profile of the guy who just lost the mayoral election in a similar but even more embarrassing way than he lost the last one. men posting their Ls.

[sowhatmary]

sorry to be annoying but sometimes it is worthwhile to think about all the love you thought you’d die without and how wrong that was! i’m living, babey! taking photos of my favorite signage from the bus!

[sowhatmary]

call and response (sound on)

[sowhatmary]

i love sipping on NA drinks at bars and friends and new friends and friends from out of town and having a nice time and love and hearing how people met their partners! last night was so lovely! (cc @oliviacoy)

[sowhatmary]

man i have so little patience for the whole “don’t see me! i don’t want to be perceived! i’m a cave full of secrets!” bullshit. why are you here then. what’s the point of anything if you are not trying to be understood and understand in turn.

i think it activates my inherent new jersey “you think you’re better than me?” reflex because you do not know better than anyone else what the world can handle! it can handle you! you’re not that special!

just like everything else that makes me mad, i am mad with recognition. i made a conscious choice to stop hiding myself for what i assumed was everyone else’s benefit and so much of my life got easier after i got over myself in that particular way (i am very much underneath myself in many others).

[sashayed]

I haven't written anything about what's happening at USAID, i think because I feel so sickened and overwhelmed by it. the number of vulnerable people worldwide who have died and will die because of the psychological defects of earth's wealthiest, most pathetic men is astonishing.

If you live in a represented territory in the U.S., here is a script from a beloved friend and ex-USAID staffer that you can say to your Congressional reps. Find their numbers here.

"Hello Representative [XYZ], My name is [XYZ] and I live in [XYZ]. I’m calling to urge you to reclaim Congressional power and ensure USAID's continued operations. The agency has broad bipartisan support, positively impacts US businesses and domestic security, and is crucial to US influence abroad.  Protecting this agency and its mission from biased political interference during your tenure will impact my vote in the next election. Thank you.”

I understand that a phrase like "US influence abroad" might feel distasteful to those of us who think US influence abroad is, and has been, Bad Actually. I think of it like I am playing a part where I have to pretend that we all agree this country is good so that fewer people die. USAID is one of the few agencies that is redistributing this country's resources globally in a useful way; I believe that is worth making an effort to protect.

I also haven't urged people to call their reps in a while. I understand why you might feel it is pointless. However I also think often it is good to do something pointless for the sake of having done it. IDK try it and see.

[sowhatmary]

obviously this is a simplification but i really feel like, if you want to reduce it to this, the instructions for making friends as an adult are just:

find something you want to do with other people regularly (gotta be approximately the same group of people every time, in person, and on something closer to a weekly than a monthly basis)

talk to at least one person enough to make plans with them

keep those plans

then you are well on your way. this can apply to romantic relationships too but the stakes are higher/different for those i guess and also i haven’t dated in almost 9 years so my advice there is mostly useless. i do make a lot of friends though.

[sowhatmary]

my haters thought i could not bench press one hundred and forty pounds today. my haters were wrong.

[sowhatmary]

it’s funny to be depressed but to still cling onto enough momentum to do my little tasks. like, i am still going on a walk to the lake every day but then i just stand there and think, “okay. now i am depressed by the lake,” and then i go home. and that’s just how it goes. i feel like anyone who doesn’t know me well would think that means it’s not that bad, i’m still leaving the house but what’s funny is that it IS that bad. i just cannot stop moving no matter what.

the law of inertia isn’t just that an object at rest will stay at rest, it is also that an object in motion will stay in motion. and i am an object. and i walk around even when i am actively resentful. and i guess in theory i’m grateful that i can do that but mostly i’m just very tired.

[sowhatmary]

developing beef with our neighborhood self-avowed pet psychic because she keeps hitting on my husband via my dog. happy thanksgiving.