Claire Keane
Sade Olutola
JVL
Andulka
@theartofmadeline
we're not kids anymore.
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Stranger Things
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styofa doing anything
i don't do bad sauce passes
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wallacepolsom
"I'm Dorothy Gale from Kansas"
let's talk about Bridgerton tea, my ask is open
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Love Begins
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@spiritualdelay
ID: a photo of four televisions, with two smaller TVs stacked on top of larger ones. The TVs on the top right and bottom left are switched on and showing static. The words “Do not count on corporate media to tell you the truth about trans life” are written on the four screens. ED.
“1. Your first heartbreak is going to be the worst. You’ll be fine within the year. 2. She doesn’t care if you cut your wrists or your legs or your hands or feet for her. Don’t do it. 3. Enveloping yourself in a book or movie on a Friday night is okay. There will be parties next weekend, too. 4. Don’t play hard to get. Don’t play any games at all. If you have to play a game with someone to get them to fall for you, they aren’t worth it. 5. When you find out she cheated and you run out of the restaurant and punch a light pole til your knuckles are bleeding and bruised, remember that people can see you. Don’t show them how weak you are. 6. When you find the next girl who makes you feel something for the first time after your last break up, do not trust her. She knows you are vulnerable and she will use it against you. 7. Run from anyone you feel a magnetic pull towards. If you are drawn to someone you barely know, run. That will never end well. 8. Thank your parents. They really do love you. 9. Your priorities should be yourself, then school, then partying. In that order. 10. You’re gonna wanna say, “I love you” much sooner than you should. Make sure you’re both ready for it. 11. You don’t NEED anyone but yourself and a good group of people that loves you. A girl will not fill the void in your heart. 12. You can like whatever music or movies you want. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re bad or stupid for the things you enjoy. 13. When your animal dies it’s gonna break your fucking heart. It’s okay. 14. Never open your mouth when you’re angry. 15. It’s okay to cry. Whether it’s because you failed a test, the book/movie was really good, or your chest is ripped wide open because she left without a warning, you can cry. 16. People are gonna leave. That’s not a reflection of you, don’t blame yourself. 17. Smoking cigarettes will not benefit you in any way. Stop while you’re ahead. 18. If you are not a whole person, do not try to date someone. Two halves don’t make a whole. They make a broken and toxic relationship. 19. If she calls you on your birthday and tell you she’s seeing someone else, do not stay on the phone with her and cry. Do not tell her you miss her. Say, “I’ve gotta go, it’s my birthday.” And never speak to her again. 20. You are always good enough. If people don’t want you, it’s a reflection of their shortcomings, not your own.”
— 20 things they forgot to tell me before I turned 20 (via forever-may-you-run)
looking at ur parents knowing you never want to be like them and they looked at their parents thinking the same and their parents looked at their parents thinking the same its sickening to think about actually
heather havrilesky
“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.
It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.
It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.
A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.
True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.
And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.
It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.
It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.
If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.
It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.
It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.
It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”
-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog
Ever since I read this I’ve been telling myself “this is an act of self care” about healthy yet unenjoyable things and it’s really motivating 😂
When your disorder makes you crave a romantic relationship but also makes it incredibly difficult to maintain those relationships once you’re in them.
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me @ myself: maybe u should try not to depend so much on validation and attention from others because u really let it dictate your mood and it’s so unhealthy
me: huh. interesting. anyway whom here loves me
