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♡ Original posts daily at 10pm EST! ♡ They/Them, BPD/EUPD, OCPD, INFJ. Queer, my LGBT blog is: confusedenby

[tastemyvalidation]

Breaking up with someone you love is one of the weirdest feelings, and I don’t know how to cope.

[tookyou2weeks-deactivated202107]

I don’t miss you precisely. I miss having something to do on Friday nights, and someone’s arms to crawl into. I miss being a part of an us. And that’s an awful reason to hold on - being so afraid of being with yourself that you’ll give yourself to anyone else. We always hurt more than we healed and yet, I still find myself missing you. Loneliness takes us places that love doesn’t.

L.A.L. || Loneliness takes us places that love doesn’t (via writing-in-the-wings)

[depressedbarbie]

[tastemyvalidation]

I’m not dead.

(Yes that’s a reference) Hey so I don’t know how long it’s been, but since an episode I had a while ago I stopped posting here, and even before that I was posting less and less. When I had my episode I created a new Tumblr account, so that’s where I ‘live’ now. Following me would be super cool but not necessary, I know it’s nothing like what I post here.  I don’t think I intend to use this account anymore, which I feel bad for because there is 1.200 people following me on this blog jesus christ!! But I just don’t focus on mental health as much anymore. While I’m still trying to recover, I’m focusing more on hobbies and self care, one of which involves a blog I’ll link you to below. So it was getting progressively more difficult to post good shit every single day on a topic that isn’t as big in my life anymore. Heck I haven’t even seen the word BPD lately. Anywho I might be posting one more thing on here, so you might not want to unfollow until you see that, but after that you can totally unfollow. 

My new blogs!

@diligent-enby - This is a side-blog but the main one I use and post on twice daily! Basically, it’s an LGBTQ+ blog and while I do post text ocassionally, it’s mainly moodboards such as the one below. I take requests and do anything from LGBTQ+ topics to mental health topics to pure aesthetics or fandoms. I love doing this and it’s making me so happy. Below you can find it’s social media where I post even more of this stuff! Click here to see my top Moodboard! Diligent Enby’s other social media: Follow me on Instagram | Donate | Patreon | Pinterest | Facebook Page | Other Blogs: @envy-77 - Health and Fitness @wrath-7 - Mental Health and Vents @sloth-7777 - My main blog for reblogging and cute stuff/.

[tastemyvalidation]

Bullying is never more or less hurtful depending on the type.

Being cyberbullied hurts.

Being physically bullied hurts.

Being verbally bullied hurts.

I was rarely physically bullied, except the occasional choking (And that was the LEAST traumatising), and because it was only verbal and cyber the teachers never took me seriously. It's still bullying and it traumatised me for fucking life. Take it seriously.

[tastemyvalidation]

I was just wondering why I felt so tired and my stomach was hurting and then I was like oh I've literally only eaten one meal and some instant noodles today oops.

How the flip do people remember to eat??

[lostfeelings-lostdreams]

“I feel nothing and everything at the same time.”

—

[lifewithmoodswings]

[tastemyvalidation]

And even when you do try to they laugh in your face about getting a diagnosis :)

[linasrain]

*cracks my knuckles* time to starve

[tatatatath]

[notexactlycoping]

Other people: You’re so polite and sweet and empathetic! You compose and articulate yourself so well! You’re such a wonderful likeable person!

Me: As in, I’m socially inept garbage? I’m extremely annoying and difficult to talk to? I make everyone uncomfortable because I’m weird and gross? Wow, you’re right!

[dykespeare-deactivated20181228]

tropes that need to die: redemption arcs for abusive fathers

[tastemyvalidation]

Okay MAYBE this isn't talking about My Hero Academia but it looks a lot like it is.

And if that's the case: People CAN improve. That doesn't mean their abusing anyone was valid or that they're a good person, but they are A person, they can change just like anyone else. Endeavour was a shit but that doesn't mean he can't see and change his ways. He is a hero after all.

[lesbiskammerat]

“To look at people in capitalist society and conclude that human nature is egoism, is like looking at people in a factory where pollution is destroying their lungs and saying that it is human nature to cough.”

— Andrew Collier, Marx: A Beginner’s Guide

[fairycosmos]

person: hey are you okay?

me: *actually decomposing* yeah why

[tastemyvalidation]

Being traumatized by your own parents is the fucking worst because of how likely it is that you're like them and do the exact same things as them.

I keep noticing things I do or say to my girlfriend that upset her and I'm just beating myself up for it because it's exactly what my mother does to me and I don't even know why I do this shit but even while I'm doing it it's so difficult to stop. All I can do is go silent and hug her and hope she knows that means she didn't do anything wrong. And no, I can't just stop. If I could I would. But it's a lot harder than that. Not to mention a core part of my fucking being. That doesn't mean I won't try, though I'm a lot more likely to take the easy route straight to death than that. Great.

[queerpd]

Does anyone else have silent internalised breakdowns so as not to bother anyone or is it just me.

[kiss-my-piss]

Resources for Male Victims of Abuse

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone] (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: [phone]

National Sexual Assault Hotline: [phone]

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: [phone]

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: [phone]

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: [phone] (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: [phone]

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: [phone] (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

**Help for Guys: Help for Victims (some resources for men, many general resources)

[mogai-watch]

This is so important. 

[everywitchway-deactivated201905]

SLAMS that reblog