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[findingpeaceinquotes]

[positivelypositivethoughts]

[positivelypositivethoughts]

[thespilledquotes]

The world gives you so much pain and here you are making gold out of it — there is nothing purer than that.

— Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey

[siickangel]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

10 Traits of Mentally Strong People

1. They are able to stay calm, and maintain self-control.

2. They have clear boundaries between themselves and other people.

3. They respect their own and others’ boundaries.

4. They don’t become defensive, or feel completely crushed, when someone is critical of them or their work.

5. Where appropriate … they are able to take their fair share of the blame, and are quick to apologize when they are in the wrong.

6. They are flexible, and willing to adapt or change.

7. They know their limitations, and are happy to be helped.

8. They forgive themselves willingly – and then move on with life.

9. They don’t bear grudges, or play games with people’s feelings.

10. They are responsible, persistent, and are people of their word.

[music-and-quotes]

“Fuck you, fuck you very, very much" - Lily Allen

[thebootydiaries]

Me: *tries to go to bed at a reasonable time*

Me: ah yes

Me: 4am

Me: perfect

[findingpeaceinquotes]

[thehopefulquotes]

I like people who have a sense of individuality. I love expression and anything awkward and imperfect, because that's natural and that's real.

— Marc Jacobs

[battling-my-demons]

I’m not black, but I see you.

I’m not black, but I hear you.

I’m not black, but I mourn with you.

I'm not black, but I'll stand with you.

I'm not black, but I see what happens if you are.

#blackvoicesheard #blacklivesmatter

[did-you-know]

Hot chocolate tastes better in an orange cup.

The color of the container you’re drinking from highly influences the way you think your drink tastes or how strong it is. Studies show people prefer hot chocolate when they drink it from cups that are orange or cream colored compared to drinking out of red or white cups, and the color of your cup can also influence how strong you think your coffee is.

(Source, Source 2)

[emptynesswilleatus]

Truth is you find the best music when you’re heartbroken

[battling-my-demons]

So I'm so confused and conflicted. My friend who set my ex and I up just told me that their friend and my ex's beat friend is planning on moving in with them. This is difficult to explain. While my ex and I first started dating,I found out the girl (we will call her C) and my ex were extremely close. They were so close that even her fiance was always jealous and worried they'd get together. They ended up breaking up because of it. They constantly made slight comments saying "we're just best friends and we'd never date" even when it was really random. I even joked that I felt like a third wheel with them even though I was dating him. When we broke up, and said we'd be friends, he made sure to mention that he wouldn't start dating C. I thought it was strange and a little suspicious that he'd say that out of no where. I let it go. A month later, he stopped talking to me and deleted me for no reason. I find out she and her ex are no longer talking and she is asking to move in with my ex, my friend, and my friends girlfriend. The other suspicious thing is, there are only 2 rooms and a living room. The 2 rooms are taken. One is taken by my friend and his girlfriend and the other, you guessed it is taken by my ex. The only room left is the living room on the couch. I don't imagine she'd want to sleep on the couch for too long soooo.... Where would she sleep?! I'm just .... I don't know. I guess if they do end up together, me and her ex will look at each other and confirm that we had the right to wonder. Just wow.

[yuyuuyuyuu-deactivated20230726]

i pray you heal from things no one ever apologized for

[theblackoutofficial]

#Blackout for Minneapolis. For Louisville. For Toronto. For Brooklyn. #Blackout for Us All.

To the #Blackout Community and Tumblr at large, 

We know you must have a lot of questions or are feeling distressed about the news. The world has been dealing with a lot this year, and it is an especially harrowing time for Black Americans and Black folks abroad. We know your biggest question right now could be summed up by a quote from Toni Morrison:

“What can I do where I am?”

Here at #TheBlackout, we have decided to help you start finding an answer to that question - we feel that we need each other. We need unity, organization, a clear sense of direction, but more importantly, a space where you can be yourself without judgement or fear.

So, in addition to boosting your art and businesses, our highest priority right now is to provide you all with resources to help you start from where you are.

This is a masterpost of places you can donate, find mental health + spaces for radical self-care, and just do something fun. We will be adding on as things change. 

Donate/Boost/Sign:

Minneapolis Freedom Bail Fund  & Louisville Community Bail Fund 

Reclaim the Block

Black Visions Collective

The Official GoFundMe of George Floyd’s Family

Official Petition for Breonna Taylor 

Justice for Regis Official Fund

Tony McDade’s Memorial Fund

Black Lives Matter Network

Mental Health Resources:

Ethel’s Club - Black-owned and operated social club offering access to Black therapists and a multitude of creative events for People of Color. 

Crisis Text Line - A different approach to crisis intervention, Crisis Text Line offers you help when you text 741-741. You’ll be able to chat with someone who is willing to listen and provide you with additional resources.

Shine Text. – Black-owned! Sign up to receive cheerful texts and tips every day. 

Therapy For Black Girls - A Black-owned a directory to help you find Black therapists in your area. 

Tips for Organizing/Protesting:

Knowing your rights - ACLU

How To Prepare for a Protest. (Remember to wear a mask in or to protect yourself!)

A Twitter thread of suggested readings

Fun Online Communities and Things to Do:

Some of our favorite online communities. 

Nerd Culture: @blacknerdproblems, @superheroesincolor

Poetry and Literary Spaces: Cave Canem Literary Balms program for Black poets,  Nuyorician Online Open Mic Events, Well-Read Black Girl

Podcasts: Therapy For Black Girls, Strong Black Legends by Netflix’s Strong Black Lead, The Read with Crissle and Kid Fury.

Hobbies: #BlackBirdersWeek by BlackAFinSTEM (5/31 - 6/8), Wellness Week by Black Girl Gamers. 

Join us for the 5/31 Emergency #Blackout/#BlackoutDay here on Tumblr and Twitter. 

[staff]

Thank you to @theblackoutofficial for providing resources on knowing your rights, how to protect yourself, where to donate, and how to find mental health resources if you need them right now.

Tumblr has always been a fierce believer in free speech and the power it gives to the people who wield it. Throughout history, free speech has been the most important tool used to fight for racial and social justice. The protests being held in honor of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmaud Arbery are no different. They are important. They should not be ignored or derided. The disproportionate violence Black people face from those who have power in our country is not acceptable. It’s on all of us, regardless of race, to stand up for what is right, to demand justice, and to demand change. 

Say their names.

Black lives matter.

[ssf318]

I never thought that i would say this but i just ended a soul-tormenting hellish toxic relationship of 7 years only when i found out the person that i thought was my supposedly soul mate is a monster, pure evil narcissist. I can’t fathom how naive and gullible i was along the journey of heartbreaking and self-questioning. Only now that the voices in my head screamed as loud as they can to open up my eyes and help me to run away before my soul is completely dead. I have no words to describe how painful this shit is and don’t even know where to begin. I’ll write if i could but for now i am taking my time to heal spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Never have i ever done something like deleting this person completely from my life but hey, i somehow managed to gain my last strength to walk away after a painful break up. Blocked him from everything. He wouldn’t care less about anything either. In fact, he told me that he had a replacement, that is before we even said the final words to each other. But that is none of my business anymore. Day first is hard but i finally see that I shouldn’t even care about anything that relates to him. Days goes by, i finally accepted that him leaving me to cause another misery to other woman is actually a blessing and saving for me. I dodged the bullet, finally. This is the fourth time that i have ever tried to escape from him, but this time I’ll make sure to never turn back again, not anymore. It’s a mental draining relationship to date a true narcissist. 7 years gone to the drain. Poof. I will grow mentally and emotionally healthier from now on, a vow j made to myself right after a heart wrenching period of crying. I’ll embrace all the pain that he caused me and i am thankful that I’m finally saved from this misery. So to you Christian John Alex Chang, whenever or whoever saw this post, I’m telling you that i want other people to know what a monster you are disguised in an innocent face with an attitude of 4 years old brat, it’s pathetic that you could never grow up from there. Never will. Yes i wrote this post publicly and i wouldnt care if i wouldn’t be there someday to put this post down. And all you can do is draining the soul of other good person who were willing to love you unconditionally. Karma will bite you one sweet day, it’s just a matter of time when it comes to you, cold and unstoppable. I am pitiful for all your victims including me, and i pray that we’ll all heal completely without even a memory of you causing pain to me and all the women before me. I will heal and become happy again while you, keep doing the same cycle over and over again. Same story, but only with different person. So yeah, i am glad i feel nothing but only pure disgust whenever you come across my mind. It’s part of the healing and i am grateful for that. I am saved. And this will be the last time that I’ll write about how painful you have caused me from the fake emotions and affections that you thought you’ve given to me. You are forever a loser, even if you have to wear mask to hide all that. Even if you have to steal everything from me just because that’s your nature to cause pain, and only pain to other people. I won’t look at you as a human anymore. Rot in hell. I meant it.