What are some placements in synastry that make you feel a magnetic pull towards someone/canโt seem to let them go? A connection with someone ended recently and canโt help but feel this pull to him/or stop thinking of him as if we still have more to experience between us. We had somewhat of a push and pull dynamic. We have vertex conjunct ascendent both ways and also have a lot of mars aspects and pluto aspects in synastry but donโt know if that explains anything. Thank youuu! ๐ฆ๐ love your content!
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Those that canโt let the other go so easily
๐ซI think many of us know as a general rule that overlays in the 8th house are usually quite powerful positions when it comes to relationships, since there is a very strong attraction between both people. But as I like to emphasize, who most feels this fascination or fixation is the house person, who most of the time is very attracted to the other person, as it evokes in them emotions and sensations never before explored. However, is it just this house? In general, I would attribute it more to the concept that it happens thanks to being water houses, that is, houses that help us explore the emotional world of the native, that deep side that even they themselves often do not understand.
๐ซOverlays on 4th house often have a similar effect. What is this about? In addition to what was previously explained, when another person's planets fall in your 4th house it means that they fall in your core. You can easily become attached to them, as they give you feelings of comfort, security, and many other emotions and sensations that make other relationships feel shallow. These overlays have a reputation for being home again, and while that's true to a degree, they can also make you feel the need to at least keep knowing about the person, especially, the house person.
๐ซWith the overlays of the 12th house something very curious happens, and that is that in many cases the classic "I don't know why they attract me so much" occurs. You can unconsciously see yourself drawn to them and this is for a particular reason. They can show you sides of you that you hide or don't show so deliberately, hence the attraction. You seem to think about that person much of your time, even without knowing why they came to mind in the first place. Something profound happens between the two, and it is that they feel the need to be a little closer to each other. In case the relationship has ended, it is very likely that you spend a lot of time thinking about the what ifs of the relationship.
๐ซIf the stellium or any of the luminaries [sun or moon] of the other person falls in your 3rd house, it can give us many indications of this effect, because being a house that represents the mind, that points so personal and representative of the other fall in this house will have you thinking on them constantly and more frequently the more time you spend with them.
๐ซIf the other person's Jupiter falls in your 1st or 9th house you will feel that they naturally give you a positivity and happiness that you have never felt before, you can see yourself fascinated by the seasoning that they put into your life and they without a doubt could have left a lesson and very memorable experiences in you.ย
๐ซAs you mentioned in your own ask based on your experience, this is something that is commonly related to Pluto energy, and it is that a synastry or composite chart that has a very pronounced or aspected Pluto can cause this I want you out of my head feeling, but your presence in it has become very comfortable and usual.
๐ซMoon-Pluto tense aspects can have this effect as well. This is because the Moon, in addition to showing our emotional world and comfort, also shows our memory and subconscious side, so aspecting a planet with such a long-lasting and intense nature as Pluto, this kind of effect is normal in both parties. On the part of the Pluto person, the fixation can be more intense, because their emotional world can be more complex than that of the other person, while in the case of the Moon person, the fixation is usually due to attachment or strong emotions. and caring that developed by Pluto person.
๐ซLikewise, Venus-Pluto contacts [especially conjunction, square or opposition] can have these qualities. The attraction was something very powerful for both of them and it is very likely that they developed an enormous interest not only in the personality of the other, but also in the physical and way of loving that they showed when being with the other. Pluto person will feel that they need to feel again the love and warmth of the Venus person, to have them once again by their side to enjoy every part of their beloved both internally and externally. While the Venus person will feel that they need to feel the unbridled devotion and passion of their beloved Pluto person, who made them explore places and complex forms of love that they were never able to imagine.
๐ซAnd although it is not something very talked about, to a certain extent this can be very likely in those with a Mercury-Pluto tense aspect, since Mercury talks about the mind. Both can talk a lot about each other or, if they are more reserved, spend most of their time thinking about the other, what they will be doing and how they will feel about them.
๐ซPluto making hard aspects [conjunction, square or opposition] with Rising or the ruler of the 1st house of the other person is a fairly obvious significator. Although here both feel an enormous fascination for the other and an attraction that is very difficult to hide, who can feel this effect a little more is the Pluto person, who will be very attached, intrigued and delighted with the Rising person.
๐ซTo a certain extent, the Mars-Rising conjunction or square may be something that also shows us this in a couple dynamic. Many say that it is more "superficial", but the reality is that regardless of this, you can see both of them very drawn. Mars person will find the Rising person very attractive, who will bring out this motivated side, with more drive and passion of the Mars person. Whereas the Rising person will feel desired and somehow charmed by the dynamism and drive as well as the attractiveness of the Mars person. It can create a very passionate relationship and be very difficult to forget, especially if there has been something sexual between them, but it is not a placement that augurs much stability.
๐ซSince we brought Mars on the table, the tense aspects of Venus-Mars [conjunction, opposition or square] make the click that they both feel very powerful. They may even feel that they have never felt so drawn to another person in the past. The sexual relationship with this aspect can be very fiery, intense and passionate, it favors a lot to have memorable experiences in the room. Mars person in particular may feel like being over the Venus person in terms of sex, a desire to explore them and touch every part of their body without thinking about the outside world or the passing of time. Venus person will love the idea of โโteasing Mars person, having a light and fun dynamic next to this partner whom they see as irresistible.
๐ซContinuing with our amorous Venus, the conjunction of Venus-Rising or Venus-Midheaven is something that is not usually brought to mind when talking about this. Venus represents what we find beautiful, fascinating and on many occasions divine, so contact with the angles of the other person can tell us of an almost immediate charm and spell. Venus person in particular can be mesmerized by the beauty of Rising/MC person, whom she will see as the most attractive person on the face of the earth, or at least as someone who perfectly meets their beauty standards / ideal partner standards.
๐ซMoon-Rising conjunction is an aspect that is overshadowed by the concept of not letting someone go and its usual relationship with Pluto energy, and despite being of a more relaxed nature than Pluto, a conjunction between Moon-Rising can cause a person to remain impregnated in your heart, memory and your being. Moon person will feel that they want and need to be by the Rising person's side, to know how they are doing and to know if they are okay. While Rising person becomes attracted to the displays of affection and comfort they feel when being next to the Moon person.
๐ซMoon-Neptune tense aspects make them both idealize the other person in their own way, the relationship itself and how they felt being with the other. Moon person's displays of affection become Neptune person's sanctuary and addiction, while Neptune person's charm and care becomes Moon person's comfort and security. Both can feel that they have helped each other so much, that they have been the medicine and peace that they had been looking for so much.
๐ซNeptune-Venues aspects [especially conjunction, opposition, square] also contribute to not being able to stop thinking about the other person. The love that both had was something deep, and in fact they can feel that not with anyone they can have a connection of this kind. Fascination with the body and beauty of the other person, but even more so with things that would seem trivial, such as the cologne they use, how their touch feels on their skin, the warm kisses after a tired day and how they transported them to a reality where everything seemed to be better.
๐ซIf I had to name an aspect that in my opinion represents very well this attraction as magnets, difficult to forget, it would be squares. Many people tend to see synastry with many squares as hell or defeat for sure, the reality is that it represents much more than that. It can also tell us about a very powerful and strong attraction, which, although in many cases it seems to be inexplicable, makes both of them not easily forgotten. In short, a synastry with many squares may have this effect in both of them at times.
๐ซVertex conjunct or opposite the Rising of the other person usually makes both feel very curious about the other, they can feel very good, comfortable and happy with the other. Both will help each other a lot to grow and bring important lessons in the life of the other person. You can feel from the beginning that it is mean to be, that this person came into your life at the right time. I wanted to add the opposition, since this indicates the conjunction with the house of the company par excellence, the 7th house.
๐ซVesta conjunct Moon causes a very intense but above all devoted connection. Vesta person will feel like they should help and be there for Moon person, they will want to fight hard for the other personโs welfare. Moon person on the other hand will feel more supported than ever and may hardly feel that way with other people. The attachment of both comes from the way they make each other feel, the love they have for each other and the way they see the other behave when they are with them.
๐ซMany times Juno's conjunction with any of the other person's big 6 can show this. Especially for the Juno person, who will feel that the other person is the one, that they are the perfect person with whom to commit, in some extreme cases, they could even think about marriage from the early stages of the relationship.


















