I’ve had a lot of awful stuff happen to me this year and one of the ways I found peace and comfort was getting into this idol group. I loved their music and the members and their connection. More than that they’ve become my special interest, and hyperfixation. They’re all I think about most days, and I dream about them too. But recently one of them did something he shouldn’t have and it’s different now. I know they’re human and they make mistakes but I’m still so fucked up about it because I let myself forget that and I idolized them. if it was anyone else who did this I wouldn’t be able to support them as full heartedly as I have them. I’m experiencing cognitive dissonance and an ethical dilemma that feels disappointing to me as a person bc how could I continue to support this person when I would not feel that way if another celebrity did the same. I made the mistake of letting them be so important to me but now I’ve been disappointed and I don’t think it can be the same. The level of obsession I had was too intense but I still want to love them, they’ve been my life for 6 months, like part of what has given my strength and kept me going. Now what am I supposed to do



















