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[dominantlife]

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

[the-sensitive-sadist]

If a Dom thinks you don't need aftercare or a safeword don't waste time on them.

If a Dom thinks they can just do kinky shit to you without getting prior consent don't waste your time on them.

If a Dom thinks they are entitled to or deserve your submission without earning it first don't waste your time on them.

If a Dom doesn't apologize when you ask them to don't waste your time on them.

If a Dom makes you uncomfortable don't waste your time on them.

If a Dom invalidates your feelings don't waste your time on them.

Do not waste your time on shitty, abusive, entitled people. You don't owe them anything. You deserve better.

[the-sensitive-sadist]

This all goes both ways btw.

Doms also need aftercare. Doms also need safewords. Doms also need to have their comfort and boundaries respected.

If a sub thinks they're entitled to or deserve your domainace don't waste your time on them.

Just as subs should guard and gatekeep their submission, make sure you always gatekeep your dominace hard. Don't settle for people who make you uncomfortable or ignore your boundaries or feelings.

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Stay safe out there, y'all.

[whimpering-weathers]

I won’t say that I’m a good sub. Not really. I get into my fair share of trouble. I get lazy at times. Defiant too - it’s like I want to give up control, but a part of me still wants to rebel that. Sometimes I feel the need to push the boundaries. Or there’s also times when I simply fail to execute instructions to the expected standards.

Because of that, I have earned my fair share of punishments. All deserved.

And recently, I don’t know why, but my mind keeps going back to those times. It keeps going back to the punishments that I have earned.

Perhaps it’s because those times bring out their dominance and heightened my submission. Perhaps it’s because those times always put me firmly back in my place. Or perhaps it’s for some other reasons.

But those memories? They seem to be engraved in my mind. I still remember exactly how I felt through each of them. How I felt when I got myself into trouble.

Thinking back, it’s still so clear in my head - their anger or disappointment at my actions, that guilt in me, that desperation to be punished and to make things right again, that thankfulness when they do correct me, the way I welcomed the pain of the clamps.

Ah, who knows, perhaps I am a slut for punishment after all.

[cassadism]

One of the things that I find annoying is maintaining dominance over a distance. There are so many times you can ask for titty pictures before it becomes trite, and let's be honest, it's also extremely basic. I do My best work in person, where someone can feel My presence and I can work them through their resistance to mould them into obedient pets...

But in the weeks between meetings, submissives still want to feel as though I am there with them, and ask for tasks and services they can provide despite not actually being able to teleport to massage and kiss My feet.

Here is a question for you all then: what tasks have you been set online that have felt like satisfying expressions of your submission to complete? Please share your stories.

[darkdaemon]

Doing research (best X to buy, I'm curious about Y topic write me a summary)

Make/organize this spreadsheet for me

Organize a group date/activity

Beg for me to get you something nice (if you have the money, invert if they do)

Cum/edge X times for me

Praise me, tell me wonderful things about me, tell me why I'm the best and so much better than you

Play Co-op game and order them around. Sometimes to their death. Make them sacrifice for you.

Watch them stream a game. Periodically give them absurd challenges (stop moving during a boss fight until I tell you. No ranged weapons. Destroy those resources you need. Gather 50 useless twigs. Rearrange your entire base to spell my name.)

[cassadism]

I like these. Some of them make Me laugh.

[dummy-dot-exe]

by Lineni 리넨@Lineni

[teaboot]

I tap the mic. “Most people don’t want to crawl down your chimney and steal your dog.”

the crowd murmurs uncertainly.

“If someone wants to steal your dog,” I continue, “there are easier ways to do that. They don’t have to crawl into a chimney.”

Murmuring intensifies. People stand in their seats and begin to boo.

“People disguising themselves as chimney sweepers and stealing dogs is not a rational fear,” I shout. “Literally anyone could steal your dog. Why make sweeping chimneys illegal?”

“I have a list of chimney sweeps who stole dogs from parks!” Someone yells, throwing a shoe.

“You seriously think no chimney sweepers could possibly ever steal from a home?” Another cries.

“Only a dog thief would even want to crawl into a chimney to begin with!” Says a third.

A single tear rolls down my cheek. They are all so fucking stupid

This is a metaphor

[twilightronin]

발레리나 2023

[dummy-dot-exe]

Ishtar by niko.@kamuify

[cqfc2008]

http://cqfc2008.tumblr.com/

[tu-amor-bdsm]

Tal cuál… Ni más ni menos!. Tal vez más, nunca menos!

[spanking-liebhaber]

[hannatausen]

If you wish to relax outside, you must first pay your devotions

[tommyredbottom]

That lovely cracking sound!

[screamspan]

good

[dutch-d-dom]

[anicklebittome]

Always this

[tu-amor-bdsm]

Los masajes que necesitas… Lo sé!. Voy por el aceite!!!

[tu-amor-bdsm]

No hay nada mejor que tomar un buen aperitivo antes de comer… Verdad?

[steadilycasualleyline]

(via tu-amor-bdsm)

[soulfuxker]

Every sissy needs to be locked

You need to be kept h•rny

To remind you who you are

To remind you who you belong to

[lemonandleather]

[lemonandleather]

Bruises for Valentine’s Day

[sweet-sugar-plum-blog]