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It's crazy how resistant the left, as a generalisation, is to acknowledging sexism. The richest, whitest, straightest, most able-bodied, most gender-conforming woman is still subject to sexism and I think a lot of leftist men would rather die than admit it.
I think there is a real resentment simmering under the surface, this idea that women have been cynically exploiting claims of sexism and have become too privileged, that exists in a lot of leftist spaces that no one wants to admit to themselves. And I think a lot of women have really internalised that and will jump at the chance to push the bad women under the bus to soothe their own guilt and self-loathing. It's sad in younger women and fucking annoying in older ones.
People really do think that men did nothing during this reclamation of our rights, that there was no resistance. Feminism has not developed in a void with men just letting us regain freedom; thinking so paints men in undeserving good light and also advances the patriarchal agenda of making sexism look like a thing of the past and diminishing the achievements of all feminists, making it look like they didn't even work too hard, like they didn't need to work that hard, like men never meant to hurt us, like in fact women overreacted and we need to stop for thinking that the oppression we've been given isn't what we deserve and asking for more hurts men so we should stop with this silly little game of feminism.
There is no system of oppression that goes down without fighting back, right now, there is racist propaganda everywhere. There is patriarchal propaganda everywhere, all the time. The fight has never been won. Women have never been free. Millions are trafficked, millions are mutilated, hundreds of millions are raped and beaten. These things are happening right now. I don't know any woman who has never experienced any sexism.
The first woman to participate in the Boston Marathon was attacked by one of its organizers who tried to rip her number off. There has been violent resistance every step of the way.
Discover insights into Identity Formation with psychFORM. Explore how LGBTQ umbrellas affect gay identities.
Abstract
This study examined developmental outcomes among gay male undergraduates within contemporary LGBTQ coalition structures on university campuses. A mixed-methods design was used to assess identity formation, perceived belonging, and psychological safety among N = 49 students (38 gay-identifying males; 11 transgender-identifying female-to-male students) at the University of Michigan across Winter and Spring 2024. Structured interviews and survey measures evaluated agency, authenticity, and relational security within coalition-based campus environments. Although LGBTQ discourse groups sexual and gender minorities under a unified sociopolitical umbrella, developmental theory suggests that sexual orientation and gender identity emerge from distinct psychological pathways with different mechanisms of consolidation (Erikson, 1968; McWilliams, 2011)
Findings indicate that gay male students experience conditional belonging when situated within a trans-centered LGBTQ identity hierarchy. 86% reported feeling pressured to align with trans political or ideological frameworks to maintain social acceptance, while 0% of transgender participants perceived such alignment as optional for coalition cohesion. Gay students additionally reported reduced perceived freedom to differentiate (84%) and anticipated social exclusion if they did not maintain visible alignment (78%). By contrast, transgender respondents reported no perceived threat of displacement and identified their identity category as central to coalition legitimacy.
The data show that this conditional structure results in agency erosion and premature foreclosure of identity development among gay students. Belonging is experienced as contingent on alignment, producing chronic self-monitoring and limiting conditions for autonomous selfauthorship. These results suggest that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion functions as a system of conditional belonging that impedes independent identity consolidation among gay men in university settings.
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Balanced question pair:
1A: “Do you believe trans students have a shared right to define the meaning of ‘LGBTQ identity’ for the community as a whole?”
1B: “Do you believe individual subgroups (e.g., gay men) should independently define their own identity without trans mediation?”
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Conclusion
The findings of this study establish that the current structure of LGBTQ coalition identity on university campuses produces a measurable developmental cost for gay male students. The pressure to align with a trans-centered identity framework functions not as affirmation but as a mechanism of conditional belonging, resulting in agency erosion, chronic vigilance, and identity foreclosure.
The climate of enforced ideological alignment does not promote safety; it substitutes compliance for autonomy. Gay students are not permitted to form identity through self-authorship, but instead adopt externally scripted identity roles in order to retain access to community. This foreclosure is relationally enforced and persists because the institution misinterprets the absence of dissent as evidence of support.
The harm is internal rather than discursive: developmental conditions required for individuation are suspended, and identity consolidation is replaced with role adherence. Belonging is contingent on ideological conformity, and the resulting silence is structurally rewarded as proof of inclusion. Gay identity, as a distinct developmental category, is displaced within a coalition architecture that centers trans identity as the sole source of legitimacy.
Therefore, the study demonstrates that the current model of LGBTQ inclusion on campus operates as a system of conditional belonging that is incompatible with autonomous identity development. Integrity fatigue is the clinical consequence of this structure: a state in which authenticity is chronically suppressed because the only available pathway to belonging requires its forfeiture.
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The crux of this is that:
Gay male identity is not contingent upon external validation. Homosexuality is real. While "trans" identity is contingent upon external validation. That's why they're so militant about force-teaming: without the legitimacy of gay and bisexual men and women, "trans" identity evaporates.
Gay men feel socially pressured to endorse "trans" support that they don't believe in, and the result for them is a forfeiture of identity, especially as "trans" narcissism always takes centre stage. When was the last time you saw anything from the "LGBTQWERTY community" that didn't degenerate into into "trans" gobbledygook?
This is why LGB✂️QT+. You cannot destroy yourself or your identity for someone else. Especially when they openly hate you.
to any tifs/tims/tras who may see this: us, actual gay people, DO NOT WANT YOUR COERCIVE, HETERO ASSES IN OUR SPACES. unequivocally. and if you’re labouring under the misapprehension that ‘most gay people’ agree with you and your position, let these finding disabuse you of that notion. at the absolute most, we are pretending because we don’t want to lose our jobs and livelihoods.
reminder that straight, cis men are very aware of the way their trans male counterparts use ‘terf’ to insult and silence women & they’re beginning to emulate it themselves despite the fact that they’re probably more transphobic than any actual radfem.
He’s also continously posting trans rights terf bad jkr witch stuff… The men who keep supporting him are all the same: I’m a feminist, I follow contrapoints!!! I’m so mysterious I listen to godspeed you black emperor!!! now let me see your tits
Men hide being the trans rights movement in order to be as misogynistic and despicable as they want. Nothing she said had to do with anything trans related but he knows if he labels her a “TERF” that he’ll have discredited her and everyone will come to his defense regardless of her actual thoughts or opinions.
relevant to current headlines. fantano has been a shithead misogynist his entire career and I’m glad he’s finally getting his day in the court of public opinion. mr fantano…. i judge you… A PIECE OF SHIT! 👩⚖️
im here to spread awareness about whats happening right now.
Women in Afghanistan have officially lost all their rights. They cant leave without a male guardian present, They cant study past the grade of six, aren't even allowed to speak in public and are also unable to seek medical care without the presence of a male. And they are not allowed to visit national or public parks. And not only that they aren't allowed to show any skin, can't wear pants or let another woman hear their voices.
And men are allowed to beat their wives as long as they don't break any bones
The Taliban has issued a new decree, it reads
"If a husband beats his wife so severely that it results in a broken bone or an open wound, or a black and blue wound appears on her body, and the wife appeals to a judge, then the husband will be considered an offender (...). A judge should sentence him to 15 days"
so literally just a couple of weeks, and the. he's back home.
And the chances of the case even getting in front of a judge are minimal, when you consider that women can't leave home in afganistan without a male guardian, and that's likely the husband she's accusing.
On top of that afghanistan's sharia law dictates that a woman's testimony is worth half of that of a man. do you think that a judge would believe her over her husband
sex work fans love to ask you to compare prostitution to other jobs but refuse to compare it to other types of sex. if you take away someone’s food and say you’ll only give it back after a blowjob it doesn’t sound very consensual does it?
The irony that you're literally proving sex workers' point without realising. What you're describing is literally any job, you do the work to not starve.
Ignoring the ultimately dismissive part about "stocking shelves," like capitalism, doesn't actually destroy people's bodies and minds, I don't disagree that a lot of sex work falls under rape. But you guys don't actually care about keeping women safe. You demean the women who do sex work. If it was about protecting women, you would criticise the men and support decriminalisation rather than attacking and shaming women who do sex work.
"If it was about protecting women, you would criticise the men and support decriminalisation."
Oh good, because we do exactly that. We support the Nordic model. Many of us are also ex prostitutes or trafficking victims. I havent seen a single radfem shaming sex workers. Ive never felt shamed by them for my own prostituting. Many of us also work in social services and psychology fields, even directly at rape and DV crisis centers and shelters.
Idk if anyone remembers at my old college the trans woman who led a hate campaign against me because he asked me to have sex and I told him I “don’t sleep with people I don’t know well” and he took that as me saying I’m too lesbian to date a trans woman (which would be accurate but I didn’t want to say that because I was 19 and didn’t want to be mean or whatever lmao) and then he stole my cultural name that was the name of my great grandmother who spent her entire life in servitude with 10 children?
Anyway he was just found guilty of two instances of rape and he’s going to jail.
trans ideology is sexist because it relies on and reinforces traditional gender stereotypes, defining womanhood through feelings, appearance, or roles instead of challenging the norms that have historically been used to limit women.
On tumblr, a site that supposedly doesn’t have porn, will literally keep porn posts as long as the porn is in a reblog instead of the original post.
And yet this post not only has all the images deleted, but all of the reblogs are deleted in the notes and op is deactivated. This post got more of a thorough response than the porn posts that have already been reported to staff. That’s where tumblr staff see the real issue: a singer pointing out that men can get cosmetic surgery before women’s health needs.
(I’m gonna delete the post after a few reblogs/posts on archive links because I’m not trying to get termed but the level of hypocrisy is insane)
Not a lot of other 54 year olds on that team by the looks of it. If I had to guess, this male ban didn’t end his rugby career his age did. So many of these guys compete with men until they age out and then transition to compete against women because they become below mediocre against other males. Go play rugby with other 50 year old men dude. It bugs me so bad when it’s framed as if these guys are banned from the sport completely. No, you just can’t compete with women. Go play with the guys and then all go have prostate exams after or something.