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Cão | Brazilian | Autistic | Side blog about autism, ableism, stimming, advocacy and more! | Please check my /about for more information

[stimmy-puppy]

Happy New Year!

Here are some reminders for you in 2019:

Please take care of yourself. This includes your physical health and your mental health. Put yourself as a priority, you're valuable and your well-being is important.

Be kind to people that deserve it. Don't be afraid of feeling anger, or hate. You're not horrible for telling that racist person to fuck off or for calling someone's bullshit. You're not entitled to treat people with kindness when they disrespect you. But when someone is deserving of it, or just haven't done anything bad, just a simple smile can lift their moods up!

Do things you enjoy, not only things that you need. Yes, you need to go to school and all that boring stuff. But what do you want to do? If doing things you have to do but don't want to is making you sad, bored or anything bad, you know it's time to think about what you really need... Fun! Being happy! Go watch that movie, go eat your favorite food, spend that money on that beautiful thing you saw. Life is about good memories, life is about here and now. Life is about you.

Your body is yours and yours only. Nobody can tell you what to do or not to do with it. Yes, you should treat it with care and respect, but you're free to decorate it how you'd like. Taking care of your body will make it happy, it is your home and it cares deeply about you (even when it doesn't feel like it).

The future is different. When you're in a bad place it's extremely hard to believe that the future holds a lot of good things. But it's true. Please don't lose hope. Yes, it can take a while, but you will live your life like you wish to. You will have your freedom, you will have your happiness. Just wait, it'll come. And when it does, you'll look back and it'll be the best feeling ever.

And, the most important one:

I love you. You're important. You're valuable, valid and amazing. You're strong and capable of many different things. Don't compare yourself to other people, everyone is different and they're nothing like you. You're unique, there's only one of you in the whole world! Be kind to yourself. You deserve many good things in life. Please stay safe, friend. Life can be tricky and rough sometimes but I trust you to be strong and overcome all the bad things you face. You can do it. I believe in you.

Surround yourself with positivity. 2019 will be a year of hope, freedom and happiness. Much love.

[stimmy-puppy]

12/03

So, apparently, Tumblr will do some changes that can be very bad. I don't understand much of it but by what I saw from my mutuals and people that I follow there's a high risk of it going full chaos mode. The staff's goal was to stop illegal stuff to happen (like child pornography) but it can easily target account that have nothing to do with that, like trans people and age regressors. It also makes it really hard for sex workers and artists to use this platform for their work.

So, there's a small chance of me being targeted as well. I don't post or reblog content that would be targeted but we all know that Tumblr has a very wonky engine that can flag posts just because. Tumblr is shit when it comes to automatically flagging stuff.

I don't know if there's anyone at all that would like to have an alternative way to contact me but if there is, you can definitely message me for my Discord and I also have a Instagram (it's a diary account but yeah, I use it daily).

Please keep in mind that I'm an extremely awkward person so if you're going to message me prepare for lots of awkwardness (lol).

If Tumblr doesn't fuck up my blog, I'll surely keep using it. I love my blog and have so many good memories attached to it.

Please stay safe and take care of yourselves, friends.

- Cão

[autistickeely]

I've seen a lost of posts about "don't talk about autistic people like they are smol innocent babies" and I get it but it makes me feel kind of bad because I DO come across that way? It's something I've embraced about myself that I give off a childlike vibe and am the innocent happy one, and I like that about myself. But a lot of autistic people see it as a negative stereotype and I'm not sure what to think.

One thing I always tell people is to be themselves and if that’s who you are then of course embrace it! Every autistic person is different and we all have our own opinions on the way we would like to be treated. If you like to be treated this way then that’s absolutely fine. I think the problem is when when the autistic person who doesn’t wish to be treated this way is seen as childish anyway. People should respect the way each individual wants to be treated but sadly that doesn’t always happen. We’re a community but we’re not all identical, we’re all unique and different in our own ways.

[stimmy-puppy]

Honestly, anon, I feel the same way. One huge step for me to accept myself was to embrace my childish traits. I really like it, actually!

While by looking at me you definitely won't see it, I'm a very bubbly and happy person, specially online where I can express myself better. In real life I'm usually the quiet one, what is fine by me, but I do act "childish" sometimes.

On the internet, I'm always told that I'm such a "sweet and pure person" or that "I'm the cutest". I even had an internet friend telling me, and I quote: "I know this is very gay, but I think you're absolutely adorable". I'm frequently very positive, and happy, and hyper. People are constantly saying how I have a "pure soul" or a "kind heart".

In real life, my childish traits show through my interests. I love a lot of things seem as "for children", like toys and plushies and sippy cups and pacifiers. Be it for stimming or just as a special interest, I love everything made for kids. It's comforting, it makes me happy! My stimming is also seem as child-like, I jump and squeak and all that fun stuff. When I'm having trouble talking I often talk in a very slow way and some people already told me it sounds like baby talk.

Nothing of that bothers me. Somethings even make me very happy! But I do see why most autistic people hate it. It's very ableist, actually, because autistic people are treated like they're inferior. Like children, who can't comprehend stuff or do stuff. It's humiliating for some, because autistic people are treated like that even by complete strangers. Some people will instinctively treat autistic people that way even when they don't know about the person's autism.

Children are often viewed as inferior, not very smart, people that need help and that can't take care of themselves, and treating teenagers or adults like that is very disrespectful. It reinforces the idea that autistic people will be "forever children" who will never "have a normal life". That's bad, and ableist.

But you can and should have pride on your traits. All of them, even the ones that make people go "uwu soft bean". You're your own person. And it's also 100% okay to not enjoy being treated like a child even if you come across as "childlike".

The point is that people shouldn't treat you like a "pure thing" only because you're autistic, but because you're a very good person (and are comfortable with that). And autistic people are not always "100% pure beans that can't do any bad", autistic people are human and we're capable of doing all human things.

[autism-artism]

So often life with autism is frustrating. It’s frustrating trying to constantly meet other’s expectations that aren’t necessarily beneficial but are just there to make others more comfortable. It’s frustrating when sensory overload interrupts your plans and exhausts you. It’s frustrating when all you want to do is explain your experience to others but none of the words quite seem to fit. Its frustrating when you know things could be so much easier if there was even just a little more understanding and acceptance. 

This is why I love all the wonderfully amazing autistic people on here - together we can make autism acceptance a reality ♡♡♡

[owivizzle-deactivated20190829]

God I really wish carrying stuffed animals around with you was socially acceptable

[mitch-that-bitch]

I don’t mean to take over a post, but I actually did a project on this for my sociology of deviance class in college!

I carried a large stuffed rabbit whenever I went in public for about a week to observe the reaction of others. The point of the project was to do something harmless yet unusual to see if the action would be considered deviant, in which case someone had to try to correct or shame the behavior.

Long story short, nobody tried to correct my behavior. I was asked about it casually, had a few lingering stares thrown my way and when I was with my boyfriend, shop employees would direct questions to him instead of me. However, nobody refused to assist me when I was alone in a store, nobody said anything about the rabbit besides “oh, thats a cute bunny!” and I attended college classes without even a teacher questioning it.

In conclusion, it is socially acceptable to carry a stuffed animal, its just not a societal norm. ^^

[nerdgasrnz]

#for followers with a big anxiety or self hate problem #bring a friend with you (via @kingdom-for-muses)

[so1987-deactivated20230102]

DOING IT

[thebibliosphere]

My friend gave me a stuffed monkey plushy when I was struggling with uni, and I took him everywhere for like four years, usually velcrod to my backpack. No one said a damn thing, except my renaissance professor who saw it one day in the hallway and cracked the fuck up because I had a literal monkey on my back and he just looked at me like, “oh god, me too”. I used to leave him on desks during classes and exams (the monkey, not my prof). It was my reminder that someone cared if I was coping. But more than that it was soothing to have something to fidget with that wasn’t a pen. I used to ping those fucking things across the room I was so agitated. Harder to hurt people with a projectile stuffed monkey.

[kripke-is-my-king]

I got what I thought was a normal screen cleaning kit for my computer while I was in college. Much to my delight, instead of a little washcloth or whatever, the kit came with a tiny stuffed pig. 

So I carried this pig in my backpack all through college, periodically taking it out, spraying my screen, and using the pig to wipe it off. 

Now, I kept the pig in the side pocket of my bag where he was completely visible.

Then one day in screenwriting class I pulled him out to wipe my screen. 

One of the guys sitting next to me looked appalled. “You’re wiping it off with your little stuffed animal??” 

I explained what the pig was. 

Turns out, the guy had noticed it and just thought it was adorable I carried a stuffed animal with me every day. He’d never mentioned it before. 

Honestly, people do not care, and will not say anything. No matter the reason for your little stuffed animal friend. 

[marcys-underground]

And if you’re still really nervous about it keep a stuffed animal keychain on your bag. I have a cute little frog that stays on my backpack so when work gets stressful I can squeeze it.

[zola-stims-inactive]

Getting ready for uni stims… Today seemed to call for face rubbing, pacing, finger flapping, and chewing

[spongebob-autisticquestions]

To other autistic people, do y’all like or not like Christmas lights? I’ve loved them for as long as I can remember. Especially the led ones. And the colors

I usually like them, unless I’m feeling overloaded, then they can be hard to handle

[tadpoledancer]

Fellow aspies and peeps with sensory disorders put in the comments what y'all wanna eat but can’t

Chalk (my personal fave, used to have a bag of the stuff by my bed and I’d eat the sticks like chips)

Soap (especially translucent ones)

Rocks

Dry cat food (I used to eat this a lot as a kid)

[stimmy-puppy]

Dry dog food (used to eat it when I was a toddler)

Paper

Play-Doh

The thing inside coloring pencils (the colorful thing that colors)

[vvishkarxarchived]

❤️💛💚💙💜

[myautisticmoods]

Wearing all blacks and greys bc most clothes with other colours are too bright and you don’t have to spend time matching colours

[sheepishness]

Is it just me or are personality quizzes very neurotypical?

 I had to do one for class and it reminded me how much I always hated them because I never fit in any personality types and I’m wondering if it’s an autistic thing or just me? pls tell me your thoughts on this!!

[stimmy-puppy]

This is very relatable! Even if I get a result on those tests, it frequently feels very wrong. But I mostly get inconclusive results. Also, it's very hard to choose answers on these because they're very difficult to relate to. Or they're too specific and I can only partially relate, or they're not specific enough and I can't understand them.

I really do think that most of them are aimed towards neurotypicals. Autistic people are very (neuro)diverse, it's very hard for us to fit into boxes and labels. Specially when these boxes and labels were made by neurotypicals for neurotypicals.

[armoredzombie]

this might be just like…a weird ‘me’ thing but like, does anyone else find minecraft to be kind of a good way to stim?? Like whenever I’m listenin to music and I don’t have anything else to do I like to open up minecraft and just like…jump around and go in circles and not really play the game traditionally but just move around as a way to keep my hands occupied on the keyboard, if that makes sense.

[stimtastic]

December Stimapalooza

Stimtastic is doing a giveaway a day in December!

Just reblog this post once with answers to the entry questions below and you’re automatically entered in all of the daily random drawings.

Each daily winner will receive a surprise package of stim toys/jewelry based on their submission.

How does it work?

Reblog this post (once only per person) with answers to the questions below.

Each day we’ll randomly draw one winner from all of the existing reblogs. You can enter at any point during the month, right up until the Dec. 31st drawing is completed.

Each winner will receive a surprise package of stim toys and/or stim jewelry based on the information they shared in their entry.

If you win, you have to be okay with your package being a surprise (based on your stated likes/dislikes) and you have to provide a mailing name/address to receive your package.

Once you win, you will be ineligible to win for the remainder of December.

Open to everyone who stims, worldwide!

The Entry Questions

To enter, reblog this post and answer the following questions to help us customize your surprise pack if you win:

What are your favorite/most frequent stims or favorite stimmy items?

What are some things you really like? Favorite colors, textures, scents, animals, special interests or  …  ?

Do you have sensory sensitivities, allergies or strong dislikes? (i.e. no pink, can’t wear rings, latex allergy, metal allergy, no slime textures, nothing with strong smells, etc.)

That’s it! Answer, reblog, and then keep an eye on the Stimtastic Tumblr in December for the daily winner announcement!

The details:

One entry per person please.

Open to entrants worldwide.

Stimtastic pays shipping costs.

One winner will be chosen per day from Dec 1 through Dec. 31 2018.

Winners will be ineligible to win for the remainder of December.

Entries are open until the final drawing is made on December 31, 2018.

Winners will be chosen randomly from all eligible entries.

Winners will be announced and tagged on the Stimtastic Tumblr and contacted via private message or ask.

Winners who do not have a publicly open Tumblr contact method will be responsible for contacting Stimtastic on Tumblr within 72 hours.

Surprise packs may be one expensive item, a collection of small items or something in between. Each package will be different.

While we will do our best to tailor stim toy packs to your entry, we cannot promise to fill specific requests.

Winners must be willing provide a mailing name/address to receive their package.

[stimmy-puppy]

1. I'm a big chewer, always chewing on random things. I think I'm an light to medium chewer, I can't chew with my front teeth because one is broken so I mostly chew with my back teeth. I love tangles and heavy objects as well! Squishies are also something I'm interested on, but never had any.

2. My favorite color is cyan but I really adore grey and black, blue and green and yellow are also good! Favorite texture is soft things, like plushies. Favorite scent is lime and other citric stuff. Favorite animals are dogs and wolves. My special interests are dogs, witchcraft and plushies!

3. I hate slimes and sticky things! I dislike pink and purple, and I can't deal with most smells specially sweet ones.

[sabertoothwalrus]

your assigned pokemon kin

your age + the day you were born x the month you were born

the total is your pokedex number

mine is Marowak

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

[catgirl-kaiju]

[failure-to-adult]

[calictii]

[stimmy-puppy]

[dashing-hyphen]

Barnsie and Bucky are having coffee!

[Video description: two teddy bears sit on a fuzzy off-white carpet. One bear, the one in the green sweater, looks at a coffee menu; the other has a small wooden coffee mug with a wooden ice cube and a wooden spoon in it. My voice comes through: “Barnsie, old buddy, one sec.” I “fix” him a cup of coffee using a wooden Keurig coffeemaker, humming a little tune. End video description.]

@lauralot89 @feanorinleatherpants @stimmy-puppy

[feministism]

[saturncraft]

lush desert/lavender fields

the search for my new modded survival world seed, pt. 2