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Hi! Great question! Two reasons: 1) I'm moving at the end of the month and haven't been doing ANYTHING as often 2) I've been waiting for more PHOTO SUBMISSIONS. I always try to balance text-only submissions with ones that include a photo (since really, the project is about the photo (but I understand why ppl don't always have it). Right now I have about 5 photos in the que... And 400 text only submissions. SOO; help me out by sending in a photo with your submission, and we'll keep the project going! (After I get my shit together with moving :) Peace and love!!

“This is what I was wearing when I was harassed by someone in Vegas.”

Originally from jaebabydoll22

"But What Was She Wearing?" is a project documenting what street and sexual harassment actually looks like. Submit your own!

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“I was out jogging on a cold day inside military housing, wearing pretty much my baggiest sweatpants and sweatshirt, and these two guys who were maybe 4 or 5 years older than me (I was almost 15) started shouting things like "WOO WORK IT!" and "Can I get a piece of that?" even though only my hands and most of my face was uncovered, so since then I've only run inside on a treadmill.”

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“Today I was sitting in my car making a phone call. I noticed a man walking in front of my car, so I glanced up. As soon as we made eye contact, he turned to me and started thrusting his pelvis in my direction and circling around his groin with his pointer finger. I immediately looked away as soon as I realized what he was doing. He continued for a little while longer, and upon seeing that I wasn’t responding, he yelled, “Fine! Keep your dirty pussy away from me!” and walked away. I felt so gross and embarrassed. I was wearing a long sleeved shirt and a scarf, which are the only things he could see from where I sat in my car. Unbelievable.”

Submission from swanrachelle

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“When I was 11 I was walking home from school with my friend (about a 5 minute walk) when a car pulled up on the street right next to us. We immediately sped up but the car began following us. After about a minute of us circling around the neighborhood because we didn’t want to show him where we lived he rolled down his window and started shooting at us that he would “give us a good time” and that he could “show us what real pleasure felt like”. Being 11 we weren’t exactly sure what he meant but we just ran up these hills to the back of my house. 2 days later a man in the area was arrested for kidnapping a girl aged 12 and sexual assaulting her.”

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“Because I am heavily tattooed, sometimes people ask invasive and inappropriate questions. I usually dress in baggy jeans, sneakers, a loose t-shirt, hair in a ponytail and absolutely no makeup ever. On the way to the subway this summer, some guy yelled, “is your ass tattooed?” as I was trying to push through summer tourist congestion on Canal Street. A few months ago, I was walking a friend’s dog around my neighborhood. I was wearing basketball shorts and a long-sleeved shirt (let’s just say I don’t dress feminine and am more like a tomboy). At the nasty homeless guys corner, as I call it, one really scary and big guy purposefully stood in front of me so I couldn’t walk past him on the sidewalk and insisted on me taking off my clothing to show him my tattoos. Another time, maybe 10 years ago, I went for a 6 am run with my pitbull. I was dressed in normal running shorts and a tshirt. 10 minutes into my jog, a teen driving his dad’s green Mercedes, stopped, called me over, only for me to see he had his dick in his hand. I was probably 28 and this little shit was maybe 16? Wtf, way too early for that shit and I wish my dog had actually been aggressive to that asshole.”

Submission from yamadonkeycorn

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“I was 19 years old and at a Halloween party in Chicago. I didn’t think my outfit was revealing at all - I threw together a quick “rock star” outfit with a tank top and some ripped jeans.

When I was standing in line to get a drink, I felt something touching my leg, around where there was a rip in my jeans below my butt. I turned around and some man, who I did not know, was trying to stick his hands into the rip and up to my butt. I don’t really remember what I said to him, but I do remember staring at him and telling him to fuck off before storming off. I left the party shortly afterward.

I’m 27 now and this still shakes me to this day.”

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“So, I’ve got two stories and neither one really qualify as catcalling, but they are harassment that made me feel totally violated.

The first story happened a couple years ago during my second year of college. I was with my boyfriend at his friend’s house for a party. I was wearing a dress and some tights with a jacket because it was chilly out. My boyfriend and I had been standing in the kitchen talking when he left me to go to the bathroom or talk to his friend or something. This other boy then proceeded to corner me where I was standing against the counter and stuck his hands up my dress to try and remove my tights. All he said to me was, “hey, baby.” I did not know this boy. I asked him several times to stop and tried to shove his hands away. He only finally stopped when my boyfriend came back.

The next story happened a year after the first. This time I was at my boyfriend’s house for a Halloween party. My costume was one of my everyday dresses with bunny ears. I was having a good time until these three guys came up and circled me. At first they were being nice, just asking about my major and where I work and stuff, but then all the sudden one of them grabbed my boob. Like, reached down my dress and grabbed it. I pushed him away and immediately went to find my boyfriend to tell him what had happened.

The part that really gets me, the really messed up bit is that in both cases when I told my boyfriend what had happened, he got mad at me for it and called me a slut and never said anything to the guys. It was especially hurtful because I had always been extremely loyal to him and had gone to him feeling violated and seeking help, not a fight. He is of course my ex now.”

Submission from poysenberri

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“I work at six flags fright fest. And weekend after weekend, I had guys of all ages come up to me making nasty comments. one even stopped in his tracks, looked me up and down, whilst I was still in this costume and said “I’d still let you suck my d*ck” I was appalled, and the comments simmilar to that were endless. Calling me cutie, telling me how hot I am, ask me for my number, it seemed to never stop.”

Originally from rozina-md

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“Several years ago, my friend and I were waiting for the bus when a group of young men walked by and started catcalling us. My friend, much braver than I, told them to piss off. So these wankers began calling us stuck-up bitches, saying that we'll "never be fucked by nobody." We were 15.”

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“I have bright red hair, and people seem to think it's an invitation for sex. i can't go out without being catcalled at least 3 times. it's a hassle to even walk to the supermarket minding my own business and hearing all kinds of dirty things, from young boys to old men. some of my "friends" say if i didn't want the attention i would have normal hair, that i bring harassment on myself because i look a bit different. it sucks, and makes me feel like an object."

Submission from Sunie

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“I'm an American living in Germany, and the other day I had some young boys pass me on the sidewalk and say in German "Hey, how's your day going?" while they both looked me up and down. I lied and said in English I don't speak German, to which they said to each other in German "Oh, a girl I can fuck but don't have to talk to," before laughing loudly, thinking I didn't understand. I cussed them out in German, and walked away with their mouths gaping open.”

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Regarding the anon asking about school dress code:

“In my senior year of high school, we were able to have the dress code (regarding fingertip-length shorts and any length tights) amended to knuckle-length shorts and tights being allowed with knuckle-length tops.

(General disclaimer: your situation may be different, depending on both the climate and culture of your school/community. I’m from a lax beach town in Hawaii)

The problem began when administrators, who normally pay little attention to dress code, were pushed to enforce it at the start of the school year in July. Here were some key responses that helped change the dress code:

'Thirsty Thursdays' - intentionally disobeying dress code and backing up the office with violations, (mostly drew student awareness / support)

Requests for meetings - persistent requests after AND DURING class time

Discussions with principal - compelling, logical arguments with small group of well-known and reliable students (your reasoning will vary but our key point was the year-round 60-90 F temp.)

Factual arguments - we researched climate, women’s clothing, and past changes to school code

A few tips:

approach classmates and admin differently (thirsty thursdays v private meetings); bad publicity can have bad effects

don’t affiliate the cause with anyone incapable of handling personal choice - that’s what you’re fighting for

play by their rules as much as possible; they’re waiting for you to fall into ‘slutty immature teen girl’ archetype

similarly, treat admin as listening ears, not roadblocks

do not invoke an ‘us v them’ attitude; it won’t help anyone reach change OR compromise

we did not invoke feminist reasoning because 1) it may revoke student support in this macho environment 2) it may transform the issue into a symbolic struggle of adults v entitled ‘slutty immature teenage girls’ 3) the goal of female freedom of dress speaks for itself (as subtly and effectively as the school’s prior denial of that choice)

Sorry this ask is so long. I’m just putting everything out there because you never know what might be useful.”

Submission from vitamin-sea-breeze

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“Today I was literally wearing adult footie pajamas and went into my driveway to grab the newspaper. A car drove by and a man leaned out his window and said he wants to taste my pussy. I had just woken up and looked disgusting. It can happen to anyone.”

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“One day at school, I went walking with my guy friends to go get food because we had a big performance for my school that night. I was wearing my under clothes for my band uniform, semi-tight black pants and a black uniform shirt that was loose and gross. When we were walking, everything was fine until two idiots who went to our school rolled down their window and screamed, “Those boys are lucky! Look at that girl; I wish I could have a piece of that!” I was embarrassed and I wanted to yell and scream at them, but I felt like that would have made things ten times worse.”

Submission from yungcabeza.tumblr.com

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“Sunglasses and all! You can’t even see my face. Oh and this happened about 45 mins ago. I’m still livid.

Walking up to the Redbox at Kroger, two guys are shouting at each other from 50 feet away about the tournament games. I walk between them, return my movie and walk away. The younger one yells, “That’d be a good tournament right there.” The older one responds, “Yes, it would. One on one!” I flipped them the finger and called them assholes. I’m not a goddamn basketball game. I wish I had actually confronted them but I get emotional when I get angry and that would’ve caused a big scene that I didn’t want.”

Originally from daniebananie7

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“Last night me and my two friends (14/15 years old) were hanging out in our local park when this guy noticed us and started waving to us. We thought it was really weird so we decided to leave and go to Starbucks, but as we were walking out of the park he kept staring at us and smiling. Once he made a heart with his hands and called out “I love you”. He followed us and we lost him in the end but we were all really freaked out. This isn’t the first time that this has happened to any of us.

We were wearing leggings, shirts and jackets (Me and my friend were wearing hoodies) and Converse sneakers.”

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