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JJ Maybank Character Analysis
Why a pairing of Kiara and JJ would hardly work under real-life circumstances
Screenwriters love messy romantic storylines because drama sells and keeps us all on the edge of our seats. Complicated relationships filled with "OMG, did that just happen?" moments push characters to grow and show off their deeper sides, making them more relatable. Plus, they mirror our own love life dramas (or lack thereof) and give us an escape from reality. The whole "will they or won’t they" vibe keeps us binge-watching season after season, completely invested in their rollercoaster romance.
But let's get real for a sec—these chaotic love stories shouldn't be your blueprint for a real-life relationship.
That being said, it might not be the popular opinion, but Kiara would be the worst match for JJ. In real life, their relationship would quickly go downhill, and here's why:
JJ's been crushing on Kiara since Season 1. His feelings have been solid, even while she was off exploring things with John B. and Pope even though she often treated him badly, commenting on almost all of his actions with sarcasm and disregard.
There are a lot of examples, especially in the first two seasons, where Kiara is being disrespectful and sarcastic towards JJ. It actually seems like she doesn't care for him at all
That's why Kiara’s sudden interest in JJ, after her flings with the other guys, raises some eyebrows. Is she really into JJ, or is this about rebelling against her parents or wanting a “fixer-upper” project?
JJ and Kiara would make a perfect example for a toxic relationship
Kiara's and JJ's core personalities and backgrounds clash in fundamental ways. JJ, with his ADHD-like tendencies, impulsive nature, and carefree, rebellious attitude, often acts without thinking, seeking thrills and living in the moment. This behavior is in stark contrast to Kiara’s strong morals, rule-following disposition, and the disciplined upbringing she received from her wealthy household and good education. While JJ's spontaneity might seem exciting, it conflicts with Kiara’s structured approach to life.
Kiara is feeding into JJ's insecurities
She tends to be judgmental, especially towards behaviors that deviate from her values, which can make it hard for her to fully understand or accept JJ’s way of coping with his challenges.
JJ grew up in an abusive household with a neglectful and violent father. This messed up his self-esteem, emotional health, and understanding of relationships. He’s conditioned to accept unhealthy dynamics and put others first, often at his own expense.
Kiara, on the other hand, had a cushy, stable upbringing with overprotective parents. This gave her strong convictions and a clear sense of right and wrong but also left her with high expectations and a need to maintain a certain image.
Kiara’s strong will and idealism can sometimes make her judgmental and inflexible, especially toward those who don't see things her way.
Opposites attract: the more differences, the better the story
She might struggle to fully get the depth of JJ's trauma and how it shapes his behavior. His impulsiveness and reckless behavior, driven by a need to survive his trauma, often clash with Kiara's moral convictions. His actions aren't about seeking admiration but about finding safety and acceptance.
JJ's and Kiara's values are constantly clashing
JJ’s low self-esteem, need for validation, and history of emotional neglect make him vulnerable to falling into the same victim role he’s known all his life. Kiara’s strong personality and occasional self-righteous streak could unintentionally exploit JJ’s compulsive selflessness and lack of boundaries.
Is there really more to the chemistry between JJ and Kiara other than just physical attraction?
So, unless JJ takes some serious time for personal growth, gets to know himself and his boundaries, and learns what healthy relationships actually look like, jumping into a romance with Kiara too soon is basically setting himself up to fall right back into the emotional traps he’s trying to escape.
So, what do you think about all this? Would you disagree or do you have another constellation in mind that would suit a character like JJ better (Sarah?). Let me know your thoughts!
JJ Maybank Has ADHD
First off, I would like to point out that I am not a psychologist, but I have been diagnosed with ADHD some time ago and headcanoning fictional characters as neurodivergent/having ADHD has helped me deal and come to terms with it. JJ Maybank, in particular, got me through a rough time, thus he will always have a special place in my heart.
Secondly, I apologise to all the ADHD/ND people for those upcoming blocks of text (I have considered a list of bullet points but then I got so excited, I ended up writing an entire essay, and I am sorry). I also apologise to any neurotypicals: it might seem a little messy and all over the place, my ADHD brain jumped from one thing to the next and it might not always make sense, sorryyy.
Lastly, I am a Jiara shipper (I have absolutely nothing against any of the other pairings but I just wanted to point out that it did influence parts of my analysis, so please don’t come at me because you dislike the ship, thx <3)
hyperactivity/stimming/tics/fidgeting
I noticed the following stims/tics JJ tends to repeat a lot: putting on his cap and taking it off ALL THE DAMN time (especially in S2), running his hand through his hair, playing with his lighter, his keys, his cap, his joint, the gun, chewing on something, etc. Essentially, JJ’s always doing something with his hands or his lips or his legs, tapping or wiggling his fingers, keeping them busy. I’d argue that both the fidgeting and the overall nervousness were a bit more prominent in S2 (probably because the situation was way more intense and stressful).
Some of it might simply be Rudy (since a lot of those *stimming/hyperactivity* scenes were improvised, especially the ones where he trips over stuff, which, to me, is literally the most ADHD thing ever, or maybe I just do that because I’m a dumbass). But the way JJ moves and stumbles around (sometimes it’s him staggering awkwardly in the background for no apparent reason) is just so ADHD. I am sorry, I can’t describe it properly, but he’s incredibly jumpy and restless AF, seriously, half the time it stresses me out because I can’t look at him move, I feel so seen. He tends to pace and hop around a lot, too, notably when he’s under duress.
I also think the scene in 1x02 when JJ and John B. meet the others back at the Chateau is rather telling: JJ is pretty stressed out (about minor details like the paint in his hair, which might also fit into the “sensory issues”-category) and he’s struggling to calm down, so he walks back and forth, starts smoking nervously (while John B. is rather composed despite everything that has just happened), and obviously there’s his rather incoherent, loud and chaotic way of retelling the events… (“I waSn’T tAkINg mEntAL pOLaROidS tHe EnTIrE tIMe, I wAs unDEr duREsS!!!”) -> peak ADHD.
excessive talking/rambling/being unable to wait your turn and interrupting people
Maybe I’ve seen the show one too many times and maybe I’ve hyperfixated on JJ a little too intensely cause I love him so much it actually hurts, but JJ is always talking (even when he’s chilling in the background of a shot) or singing or humming (especially in situations where he’s supposed to be quiet, e.g. when they go look for the gold and this idiot is literally singing a lullaby at full volume)
Honestly, he can’t keep his mouth shut (to the point where others have to put their hands on his mouth so he won’t get them killed). JJ tends to go on and on about seemingly irrelevant stuff, as well, blurting out whatever comes to his mind, whether or not it has any connection to the ongoing discussion, doesn’t matter (like the CHUD-thing, randomly infodumping about alligators, the Crain house, babbling about his use of/love for plastic, giving a highly incoherent speech about friendship out of the blue, rambling about hidden traps in the church, etc.) His friends repeatedly scorn him for doing that, or sometimes ignore him completely.
Plus, there are plenty of scenes where JJ mumbles something, expecting a reaction, and nobody even remotely responds to it (they’re probably used to him doing that) and you clearly see the hurt on his face (or maybe that’s just me). I do believe, however, that some of these traits lessen - or disappear - as soon as the action is cranked up (for obvious reasons): JJ is uncharacteristically quiet and overall more calm in the last three episodes of S1, for example (which makes sense, there’s so much stuff happening).
extremely low self-esteem
This is a big one, of course. Probably one of the first potentially ADHD-related things I noticed about him because that’s exactly where I saw myself reflected in JJ. I spent approximately twenty years of my life being undiagnosed and struggling with low self-esteem, not knowing why. JJ - in my eyes - has most definitely never been diagnosed, either. I’m sure that his low self-esteem is first and foremost a result of the constant abuse (both physical and emotional) he has to endure at home, his mother leaving them (and, I guess, his father semi-blaming JJ for it, or rather taking it out on his son because he “reminds him of JJ’s mother”).
However, other people constantly tell him he’s not good enough, too (“you’re starting to look like your dad a lot more” and “you’ll be back [in jail] one day, it’s in your blood”), even his closest friends can be pretty insensitive at times (“if you keep going down this road, you’re gonna end up just like your dad” and “we’re sick of your shit, you’re pulling guns on people shit, you’re acting like a freaking maniac” etc.)
JJ’s rash actions speak for themselves, but on top of that, he himself believes that he’s not good enough, and mentions it again and again (“I’m gonna end up in jail anyway, so why does it matter?” and “I’ll end up in jail anyway, might as well be for a good cause” and “you know where I’m from” etc.) The fact that his plan for the future consist of the surf trip (*insert deafening fangirl noises*) might be connected to his self-doubting, as well (surfing seems to be something he’s exceptionally good at, so naturally he’d want to continue doing it.) In addition to that, the surf trip (and obviously the gold to make this dream possible) clearly offers a way for him to escape the OBX and his current situation.
I also think that JJ actually believes himself to be someone who will inevitably end up alone (whether it’s in a prison cell or on a surf trip). Perhaps he thinks he doesn’t deserve to be with anyone (in the long run), idk. In my opinion, the look on his face and the way he laughs at first, thinking it’s a joke, when Kiara said “got room for one more?” in 2x10 was also rather expressive. Sure, he may have been surprised because he didn’t expect Kiara to want to join him on his adventure, but his confusion may also be linked to this deep-seated belief that, in the end, he’ll always be alone.
good at lying/good at improvising
This is a personal one for me… I used to lie all the damn time, and I still do it occasionally, but never out of malice. I’m not saying everyone with ADHD automatically lies (but they - children in particular - tend to be more prone to it). As a kid, I usually lied because I was either bored with the truth (for example, I liked to pretend I was off on some adventure in Narnia instead of admitting that - in actuality - I had simply gotten lost on my way home or forgotten the time, which drove my parents and teachers crazy) or sometimes I did it because I was terrified of facing the consequences for making stupid minor mistakes like breaking a jar (nobody cared, but my brain was like *DANGER*).
So, JJ is extremely talented at making up excuses on the spot (the salvage yard thing in S1, the Knights of the Rhododendron story in S2) and thus getting himself out of trouble. Trouble, he often got himself into due to other potentially ADHD-related things. His friends actually applaud him for being a good liar, even use his skills to their advantage in certain situations (the gold pawning thing in S1).
strong sense of fairness/loyalty/devotion
At the same time, JJ also lies to protect his friends (taking the fall for Pope is probably the most obvious example, however, this bleeds into the “taking risks/impulsiveness” category, as well). Here, I merely want to point out that whenever people google for lists of ADHD-related symptoms, they usually find ones that mainly highlight the negative traits. Nevertheless, there are some positive things I want to emphasise. People with ADHD can have an unusually strong sense of fairness, since they have a low tolerance for things that don’t seem just and they themselves feel the need to do what’s right (I immediately thought of the hot tub scene and his line: “I just wanna do the right thing” and obviously his emotional outburst in 2x05: “Are we just gonna sit here and do nothing? No, we’re gonna get [John B. out of prison] and we’re gonna do something about it!”).
JJ (aside from Kiara) is definitely the most loyal out of all the Pogues (not trying to downplay the others’ sense of loyalty, but he takes it to the next level) and he is 1000% (maybe a little too) devoted to the P4L-thing. JJ (and Kiara, I’m sorry, I love my girl and I don’t want to dismiss her actions) gets incredibly frustrated whenever something happens that isn’t fair and he will immediately step in and take action (again, impulsiveness and often doing something without thinking). He tends to get physical because of that, too (e.g. when Barry ambushes them in 1x07 and they’re cowering at the side of the road, JJ slams his fist on the ground and later loses his temper, or in 1x10 when Shoupe tells them they lost sight of the Phantom in the storm and JJ responds with his fists and multiple “I’ll kill you”s, or in 2x01 when Kelce provokes him by spreading lies about John B., etc.)
The downside, of course, is that you might get too frustrated with how the world works (”[the Kooks] always win”, his - justified - distrust in the cops, his frustration whenever they fail), you may feel discouraged or you “overreact” and do something impulsive to try and change it. I firmly believe that JJ encourages Pope to sabotage Topper’s boat because of that: for one, he makes impulsive decisions based on emotions, and for another, he simply can’t let the unfairness of Topper and Rafe jumping his best friend slide (plus, he might feel responsible because they beat up Pope after JJ put a gun to Topper’s head). All of this may play into the issue of emotional dysregulation neurodivergent people face on a daily basis, as well.
warm-hearted/compassionate/caring/observant
I want to quickly mention: I hate how some people assume that - when you have ADHD - you’re a terrible friend or you “don’t care enough to remember the little things or you do remember one specific stupid argument and now hold a grudge blah blah”. Personally, I’ve made the experience that others always told me that I was too much to handle, too clingy, or too obsessed with the idea of being friends with someone (I don’t do casual, I do “I would die for you without hesitation” or nothing at all). I lost a lot of friends over the years because I went from “exchanging two words with you” to “you’re my best friend I’ve decided” in a day and… I guess that was a little intense, but I couldn’t help it.
Since this show is usually about life or death and they’ve been through a lot together, it makes sense that the Pogues aren’t just casual buddies hanging out whenever they have nothing better to do. Plus, friendship/(found) family is a pretty important theme in OBX, so. And as I mentioned before, they’re all incredibly loyal and always there for each other. But I also feel like JJ would be the one having the most trouble moving on in case they’d ever separate or split up (adventure stuff aside, some of them do plan to go off to college at some point in their lives). I mean, the Pogues are everything to him.
When it comes to compassion, I feel like JJ has a lot to offer (because he cares so deeply for his friends, he “can’t bear the thought of losing them, they’re all he has”). I also find the scene in the van when Pope goes to meet his great-grandmother particularly interesting: JJ and John B. discuss Ward and it’s clear how much empathy JJ has for Sarah’s difficult situation (whereas John B. does not), and I love how he basically tells his best friend to maybe consider his girlfriend’s feelings instead of only thinking about himself (sorry, that sounded like a John B. rant). Moreover, JJ can be very observant (not always, of course, I guess, depending on the tone of the scene) and it’s obvious how highly he thinks of his friends (his speech about Pope in 2x03) and how he notices even small changes in their behaviour because they’re extremely important to him.
substance abuse
Okay, so JJ most definitely has an unhealthy relationship with both alcohol and weed (to the point where his brain reacts with “weed” whenever someone says “wheat” which might belong in the hyperfixation-section, too, but that’s just a minor detail I noticed during one of my many rewatches). It would make sense for him to smoke marijuana on a regular basis in an attempt to trigger the release of dopamine (even if JJ doesn’t actively realise what he’s doing, the weed would help him function, so naturally he would want to keep doing that).
Drinking also seems to become his go-to coping mechanism in S2 (he shows up to school drunk more than once, not caring in the slightest) and it doesn’t necessarily stop when he finds out John B. and Sarah are still alive. However, OBX is incredibly inconsistent at times and whenever some new danger pops up (every five minutes), other stuff just… vanishes from the story. I myself am also a little too sensitive when it comes to this topic, so I might be reading into it more than I should.
impulsiveness/little to no sense of danger/making careless mistakes
JJ obviously has a talent for getting into trouble (don’t they all? I guess that’s *the pogue life* for ya). But JJ takes it to the next level of recklessness. He gets into trouble for the most idiotic things (she says, affectionately). More often than not his “careless” actions are depicted as a result of his low self-esteem or his deep-seated fear of ending up like his father (again “I’ll end up in jail anyway, so why does it matter [if I get caught stealing an ambulance, etc.]) He also tends to brush more serious things off or he uses humor/sarcasm to deal with it (which makes everyone around him go “JJ, be serious!” or something like that).
The “nothing to lose” and “stupid things have good outcomes all the time” attitudes play into that as well. I feel like his behaviour in the Midsummers episode speaks volumes: the way he keeps provoking Rafe and his minions (“you Power Puff girls have fun!”) after getting beaten up by them (more than once) and how he refuses to walk away quietly (he literally cannot keep his mouth shut and I love him for that, but still) and instead he causes as much damage as possible…
Besides, JJ has a tendency to walk away from jobs (jobs, he definitely has to depend on to survive) and he does this in the most destructive and reckless way possible: starting a fight, destroying property, etc. Pulling a gun on Topper in the Pilot was also rather impulsive (and might be a result of RSD or sensory overload and his inability to deal with stressful situations in a civil/non-violent manner).
Some other minor things that might be a result of his little sense of danger: the way he starts singing when they look for the well (granted, they’re all pretty noisy, especially John B. and Kiara with their mosquito banter, but JJ basically just walks in there, belting and Pope is like “wILL yOu sHUt uP?”), then in 2x08 when he randomly starts throwing something in the water to check if there are indeed alligators (honey, what, whyyy???) or later (in 2x10) when he doesn’t even hesitate to save Kie (even if it means getting knocked unconscious, but then again, Kie does the same thing for him and I’m just calling attention to random details popping up in my brain at this point).
Also, can’t forget how he literally threw 25K out of the window and bought a hot tub… peak ADHD impulsiveness (as a strategy to cope with all the sh*t going on in his life, of course).
mood swings/irritability/acting without thinking/quick temper
Uhm episodes 1x07 and 2x05, anyone? Yes, obviously, for plot reasons, JJ has to go off on his own from time to time, but then again, most stuff happens for plot reasons, anyway, so Imma just roll with it. JJ is clearly the least predictable of the group (he was kinda written as the wild card, after all) and he tends to overreact (the RSD is strong here) whenever someone - usually Kie or John B. - tells him to stop whatever he’s doing or stay behind due to his unpredictability.
Usually, this leads to JJ protesting vigorously whenever he’s not allowed to be where the action takes place (like in 2x10 where he’s forced to stay back in the container with Kie and he’s being particularly bitchy about it). Furthermore, JJ repeatedly acts on instinct - most of them do, sure, they’re teenagers and they share a single braincell - and doesn’t necessarily think things through.
A minor thing I noticed is how he barks at the snake for some reason (which I always interpreted as: I guess he saw the snake and his mouth suddenly went: bark! before his brain could stop him, because I do that, too… again, projecting, sorry). Plus, the entirety of 2x05 was pure “acting without thinking” and I believe that motorcycle scene in particular was very ADHD (but also very sexy) of him.
sensory overload
this might be a little far-fetched (I’m always reaching for breadcrumbs in this show, anyway) but there is that one scene at the beginning of 1x05, when he’s locked in his room while Luke is yelling at him, loud music is playing, and JJ covers his ears, pacing up and down, kicking things.
Again, I might be projecting, but it reminded me a lot of myself and how I often fail to deal with sensory overload and how I tend to cover my ears or punch the wall to cope with it (sensory overload, of course, isn’t merely an ADHD thing and it can pretty much happen to anyone experiencing an overwhelming amount of stress). Sensory overload also leads to extreme discomfort and it can enhance anxiety or restlessness and you can definitely see JJ struggling with it in that scene, whether or not it’s ADHD-related is up for debate, I guess :))
inventive/imaginative/full of ideas/romantic/sense of humor
Okay, I feel like people don’t give JJ enough credit for his ideas, since they’re usually either too extreme (e.g. kidnapping and torturing someone) or it’s pretty obvious that it’s not going to work (like his 2x05 breaking John B. out of jail plan or his proposition in 2x10). However, he does come up with creative solutions, more so than anyone else in the show, even though most of them are a little too wild or impossible to realize (the key swapping thing was his idea, though, and he did find the angel tree).
JJ - at least to me - seems to be the most “thinking outside of the box” type of person in the group (aside from Kiara and maybe Sarah). He’s also the one who lets his imagination run wild (this falls in with the “good at lying/improvising”, and I mean, he does come up with some pretty ingenious stuff whenever he’s trying to talk his way out of something). And yes, people with ADHD can be incredibly creative or inventive, but unfortunately we often lack the ability to make our ideas work (or we get hit by executive dysfunction and just give up, arjhfgdhfjghkg) and sometimes we get so excited, we fail to see a fatal flaw and push through. When it doesn’t work, it’s extremely frustrating. I believe that’s what may have happened with JJ and his “breaking John B. out of jail plan”. He seemed genuinely convinced that it could actually work, so…
Last but not least, JJ obviously has a great sense of humor and tends to deliver some of the best and funniest lines in the entire show (I don’t make the rules). Sure, Rudy is highly charismatic, so that’s also thanks to him, but still. When it comes to the romantic part: I will literally die on that hill, claiming JJ is a true romantic at heart (and he likes to poke fun at John B. for being too cheesy when in reality he’s the biggest simp out there, but okay). I just know it. I feel it. Besides, that dating advice JJ gave Pope in 2x02 was weirdly specific and very thought-out (”play some Otis Redding, light some candles” etc.) Anyway, there weren’t many opportunities for him to be romantic (though, I’d argue his surf trip vision was exactly the kind of dream a romantic would have) and I hope to see more of this side in the future (cause I know it’s there).
hyperfixations
First, his gun obsession (like… literally, this guy can’t go one second without stroking his gun or proposing to use the gun to kidnap sbdy./Rafe or Ward or whoever). Then, of course, his interest in Kiara’s love life: yes, I admit, I might be biased due to my own obsession with Jiara, BUT… JJ literally cannot shut up about Kie and it’s painfully obvious that he’s crushing… hard. The amount of times he asks John B. or Pope about her is quite astonishing (even back in S1 before the writers more actively built up the pairing), and the way he keeps noticing the slightest changes in her behaviour or her dynamic with Pope (”we’re all just a big happy family today, aren’t we?”) ugh my poor heart. This, of course, goes along with the “compassionate/observant”-section.
I’d argue, he’s slightly fixated on his friends, as well, and he takes the “P4L-thing” a little too seriously (I would, too, tbh). I might be projecting, since I always hyperfixate(d) on the people closest to me and there’s nothing more comforting to me than the idea of having a group of friends that are basically my second family. Sure, all of the Pogues are remarkably loyal and they view each other as family, but JJ (and Kiara, to some extent) takes this up a notch. Which makes sense, he’s got the most f****d up home situation and he’s definitely touch- and affection-starved.
Another minor (in the sense that so far we don’t know enough, because the show focuses on other stuff) hyperfixation could be the surfing (and the surf trip, of course). According to John B., JJ’s the best surfer he’s ever met and who knows… Maybe JJ hyperfixated on surfing as a kid and therefore got exceptionally good at it (so good, it’s the only thing that makes sense for him to do in the future, idk). Plus, his very random Yucatan-Obsession? Where did that come from?
rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)
This, again, goes hand in hand with the mood swings and the low self-esteem, depending on the scene I’m referring to. First, I feel like JJ does not deal well with rejection, like… at all. It may be some seemingly insignificant thing (being denied something by his friends, e.g. accompanying John B. to the lighthouse, or bringing his gun, or whatever, so he sometimes “overreacts” or even storms off). But it might be something bigger, too.
For example, I always headcanon him as having tried to make a move on Kie at some point prior to the Pilot (otherwise we wouldn’t have gotten the “I know that door is closed, because I tried it” line), and her rejecting him (due to the No Pogue on Pogue Macking rule). Her rejection probably fed his already low self-esteem and his fear of not being good enough (for her, or in general). It may have made him more cautious and less inclined to show physical affection towards her (yeahh, my shipper brain has been dissecting this very obsessively) but JJ does have a tendency to be extremely open and (physically) affectionate with Pope and John B. but he’s way more hesitant/careful with Kie.
It might be because Kie herself isn’t necessarily the most touch-loving person out there, and he knows and respects that (I think it’s really interesting how all of their intimate scenes are initiated by her and whenever he wants to touch her, he’s doing it in the softest and least intrusive way possible, and whenever she touches him - remember her hand on his shoulder in 2x10 and his expression - he is so overwhelmed by it, he’s literally dying inside), but it might as well be due to his fear of being rejected (again).
The scene where he yells at Kiara (“why do you always take [Pope’s] side? why do you never take mine?”) after she tells him it’s his fault things escalated, is peak angst ofc. Though it’s definitely a result of him being stressed out (and a little jealous), his reaction might have been amplified by his RSD and his fear of failure. Criticism, especially coming from loved ones, can lead to intense emotional outbursts, and JJ does have a tendency to let his temper/anger get the best of him whenever something doesn’t go according to plan or someone blames him for it. Plus, he does storm off twice, when his friends tell him they’re not happy with his methods (1x07 and 2x05).
Coupled with his low self-esteem and his conviction that he’s not good enough, he often seems to come to the conclusion that it’s his fault or that he’s a disappointment to his friends (I guess the fact that he takes the fall for Pope, doesn’t hesitate to jump a group of guys after Rafe’s “tell Kiara she looks pretty hot for a Pogue” comment at Midsummers, or his readiness to do anything to save John B. from jail, even considering shooting his way through a bunch of policemen at the end of 2x04, proves how far he’s willing to go for his friends: “I know for a fact, all I got is you guys. You’re it.” (This, of course, goes along with his little to no sense of danger, his sense of fairness, his loyalty, and perhaps even his potential hyperfixation on his friends).
Another thing is JJ’s relationship with his father: Luke is all the blood-related family he has and it makes sense for him to want to be loved by his father, no matter how much he mistreats him. It literally pains me how many times JJ mentions his dad in a way that emphasises how desperate he is for Luke’s approval, despite everything, or how he’s internalised a lot of “advice” his father has given him over the years (he has those “my dad used to say…” moments). I might be reaching here, but it could be the RSD increasing this urge to please his father (as seen in 1x07 when he comes back with the money and clearly craves Luke’s endorsement, or the way he clutches to him in 1x10, or obviously the entirety of 2x08).
Like I mentioned before, RSD can often cause, or rather increase beliefs that you’re a disappointment to others or that it’s actually your fault if someone mistreats you. Feelings of shame and humiliation can rise (the scene where JJ helps his father escape and he literally apologises for not being a better son???) Plus, both the car scene where Kiara appoints herself the president of the JJ Maybank protection squad (“do you have any idea how special your son is?” ahhhhhh) and the scene in 1x05, perfectly depict that Luke does see his son as a disappointment and how little he thinks of him (he basically tells him what a “worthless piece of sh*t” he is in 1x05, so yeah).
kleptomania
This one was pretty much only mentioned in the pilot episode and we literally never see him be the “mild kleptomaniac and future tax-cheat” John B. made him out to be in his introduction round (I mean, sure, in the pilot episode, but other than that, idk). Still, this may also be a result of the lack of impulse control ADHD people experience (similar to him buying the hot tub).
Congrats to all the people who reached the end of this messy post I call an analysis, oops…
Update: For anyone who’s interested, Rudy actually talks about having struggled with attention-problems in the past, and hyperfixating/hyperfocusing on acting, and possibly having ADHD (thank you to @rudystree for pointing this out to me<3) here (in case anyone wants to check it out, it’s overall a really interesting talk).
JJ Maybank character analysis
How parentification shaped JJ's personality
Part 2
Victim role, low self-esteem and compulsive caregiving
Especially in the first season of Outer Banks there are moments where JJ is not fully respected by his friends, the Pogues, and he often accepts this dismissive treatment. For instance, his ideas are frequently brushed off, and he is called names like "dumbass," reinforcing his belief that he is not valued or taken seriously. JJ tolerates this treatment, likely due to his low self-esteem and his desperate need to maintain these relationships, as flawed as they may be.
Additionally, JJ voluntarily gets himself into situations where he simply can't win, exemplifying his compulsive caregiving and martyr complex. For example, he confronts a group of Kooks alone to defend his friends, even though he knows he is outnumbered and likely to lose the fight. This behavior underscores his willingness to sacrifice himself for the sake of others, even when it is detrimental to his own well-being. He also constantly highlights how the Kooks have the advantage, which, while often true, also shows how he puts himself in the victim role more than the other Pogues.
JJ's low self-esteem is most poignantly visible in his interactions with Kiara in Season 3 Episode 4.
JJ feels uncomfortable when Kiara is getting close to him
When Kiara confesses her love for him, JJ's immediate reaction is to dismiss it. Kiara tries to confront him again, reminding him of an affectionate moment on the boat where they almost kissed. But JJ shrugs her off, recollecting the moment as "just weird", later admitting that he has issues getting close to someone.
Considering that JJ probably had a lifelong experience with parentification, it has caused him to prioritize others' needs over his own, leading to poorly developed emotional boundaries and a lack of understanding of his own desires. Coupled with his low self-esteem from his abusive upbringing, JJ struggles to believe he deserves love and affection. So when faced with Kiara's romantic interest, he feels confused and uncomfortable, questioning his worthiness and feeling that someone as stable as Kiara couldn't genuinely want to be with him.
Another point is that the potential relationship with Kiara represents a significant change and requires vulnerability, which JJ finds unsettling due to his need to always be strong and in control. This internal conflict makes the near-kiss feel strange and out of place for him. When admitting to his feeling of unworthiness, describing it as "not even having a home or parents" Kiara offers him help, which he refuses, illustrating once again his difficulty in accepting care from others.
JJ's low self-esteem and compulsive caregiving are deeply rooted in his responsibility thrust upon him from a young age and the lack of nurturing from his father which led JJ to develop a skewed sense of self-worth, believing that his value lies in what he can do for others rather than who he is. However, this can also expose JJ to extreme stress and anxiety. This is notably seen when JJ and John B. encounter smugglers threatening Miss Lana at her house in Season 1, Episode 2.
JJ's decision not to help Miss Lana once the smugglers are gone can be attributed to a combination of emotional overload, psychological exhaustion, and his complex relationship with trust and authority.
Contrary to his usual impulsive and confrontational nature, JJ experiences an anxiety attack, urging John B. to leave rather than confront the danger. This reaction can be interpreted as a symptom of his chronic stress and trauma of having experienced his abusive father. The sound of someone being beaten and threatened might evoke a generalized trauma response, leading to anxiety and a desire to escape the situation. This reaction could be seen as a form of PTSD, where certain triggers cause an overwhelming urge to flee rather than fight.
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JJ Maybank character analysis
How parentification shaped JJ‘s personality
Part 1
Parentified children face multiple challenges. They often experience stigmatization, feeling judged or isolated due to their family dynamics. Additionally, they carry the burden of family secrets, keeping quiet about the true nature of their responsibilities and the issues within their home. These children are forced to grow up too quickly, dealing with adult responsibilities and emotional burdens, which can lead to psychological stress, anxiety, and role confusion. This dual pressure impacts their social development and mental health, often leaving them feeling overwhelmed and unsupported.
Stigmatization
JJ referring to his difficult and abusive home life after taking the fall for Pope. (Season 1, Episode 4)
JJ's behavioral patterns and anxiety caused by the stress of his family life are often misunderstood by others. Additionally, he is viewed by his environment as the son of an irresponsible and criminal father, which likely causes him not only shame but also increases the pressure on him to disprove the negative prejudices.
Stigmatization can also lead to stereotype threat by making individuals acutely aware of negative stereotypes and increasing the pressure to avoid confirming them. This heightened awareness and anxiety can impair performance and behavior, resulting in a self-fulfilling prophecy:
"He's just like his father. He's a liar and a thief." (Kiara's father Mike Carrera, Season 3, Episode 5)
In Season 3, Episode 5, JJ overhears Kiara's father saying, "He's just like his father. He's a liar and a thief", labelling him based on negative stereotypes associated with his family background. The words visibly hurt and demoralize JJ. They also increase JJ's anxiety and pressure to avoid confirming these stereotypes. He notices Kiara's father's wallet and the stress of his comments then triggers the impulsive reaction to steal it before leaving the house.
"You'll be back here one day. It's in your blood." (Deputy Plump, Season 2 Episode 5)
In another scene, Deputy Plumb is in the Sheriff's Department when JJ arrives to see John B. After allowing JJ to see his friend, she intentionally leads him to see his imprisoned father. She tells JJ that he is destined to end up in jail because it's in his blood. Plumb's actions and words reinforce negative stereotypes and social stigma, contributing to his internal conflict and feelings of inadequacy, potentially having a significantly impact on JJ's behavior and self-perception.
Impulsiveness and the tendency to make solo decisions
Having grown up in a high-stress environment where he frequently had to handle crises on his own, JJ has developed a habit of making quick, decisive actions independently.
Growing up in a stressful environment where he had to manage crises regularly, JJ has learned to make quick, decisive actions without seeking input. This habit translates into JJ often making impulsive decisions and acting alone without considering his friends' opinions. Parentification can lead to a strong desire for control and independence, as the child feels the need to manage everything themselves to ensure stability and safety.
JJ’s need to regain control over his life and situations manifests in making solo decisions, even if they are risky.
In Season 1, Episode 7, JJ gets into a heated argument with his friends about stealing money from Barry. The group votes against it, but JJ, driven by his own determination, decides to go his own way and separates from his friends. Possibly JJ is accustomed to make quick decisions under pressure due to his chaotic home life. In stressful situations, he tends to seek immediate solutions to regain control (over his life) without fully considering the consequences, exemplified by his decision to steal from Barry despite his friends' objections. It's also hard for him to trust their decisions. His separation from the group reflects his believe that he alone must handle crises, disregarding his friends' vote.
JJ Maybank character analysis
Luke Maybank and the unhealthy dynamics of parentification
What is parentification?
Parentification is a role reversal where parents are emotionally unavailable to provide support to the child typically due to their own problems often caused by alcohol or drug addiction or a mental illness. The child is forced to take care of themselves and take responsibility of the parent. Parents who are emotionally unavailable might also put down their children, contributing to a lack of self-esteem and increased stress for the child. This unavailability leaves the child without the necessary emotional guidance and stability.
The relationship between JJ and Luke Maybank
Luke is a single father. He is drinking and addicted to the prescribtion drug "Ambien", also known as a Z-drug. He is neglectful and abusive, failing to offer the emotional backing that JJ needs.
Luke Maybank is addicted to sedatives
Until about the third episode of the first season, we don't learn much about JJ Maybank's abusive family background. The first time we get a glimpse of his father is when Luke Maybank is exiting Barry's house, where he possibly went to get drugs or being involved in other shady activities. We also learn, that Luke Maybank lost his job at the salvage yard because he turned up drunk for work.
In Season 1, Episode 3, JJ Maybank and his friends visit the salvage yard to steal an underwater drone. During this scene, JJ concocts a lie about his father to distract the security guard, crying that his father "was gonna hit him again" if he wouldn't finish a certain task for him. The viewer is left wondering if there is some truth in his lie.
In Episode 5, father and son are on screen together for the first time in a dramatic scene, which intensity shocked many viewers. Beforehand, JJ Maybank was portrayed as funny, reckless and rebellious. There were no actual signs that he could have really been the victim of such vicious domestic violence as portrayed in this Episode.
In the scene Luke Maybank picks up his son JJ from the police station. As soon as they got into the car, Luke's entire rage is suddenly unleashed on JJ as he brutally beats him up. The mistreatment continues at home, where Luke verbally abuses his son mercilessly, possibly being under the influence of prescribtion drugs and alcohol. Meanwhile JJ locks himself in his bedroom. He is badly bruised and anxious, visibly traumatized and shaken by his father's actions.
"How you gonna get that money back, huh? By sittin' around doin' nothin'? I'm gonna tell you right now, you are a worthless piece of shit! Your Momma knew." (Luke Maybank, Season 1, Episode 5).
But physical abuse only being one possible hallmark of parentification. Parentification mainly involves overstimulation in parent-child interaction, where the focus is strongly on the parent's emotional needs. A strong indicator for JJ being parentified is, that he only feels valuable when fulfilling his father's needs. He really tries to please his father, desperately longing to "earn" just a small moment of parental kindness.
When he steals money from Barry's drug shack to pay for his restitution, he is even willing to jeopardize his friendship with the Pogues, just to fix things with his father.
At first, Luke gratefully accepts the money. JJ is shown beaming with relief and happiness over his father's praise and appreciation. But soon after Luke makes it clear that he doesn't want to use it for the restitution to help his son. He argues that the money was his to spend because JJ had already "cost him so much".
Luke instills guilt in JJ by blaming him for his misery (Season 1, Episode 7)
With that being said, Luke twists the fact that it is actually his paternal duty to provide for JJ's basic needs. Instead, he manipulates JJ by making him feel responsible for financial burdens, further solidifying JJ's role as a caregiver.
When JJ objects and takes his money back, his father beats him again. This time, JJ fights back, ultimately overpowering his father, pinning him to the ground. JJ is about to possibly hit and kill him with an object, but at the sight of his father being defeated he breaks down in tears, heartbroken and frustrated about his father's repeated rejection towards him and possibly feeling guilty and ashamed about having to defend himself like that against his own father. As JJ realizes how weak his father is, he might have also felt uncomfortable and confused with the sudden power he has over him. Notably, that particular scene also visualizes the unhealthy role reversal between father and son.
"You gave me nothing. You gave me nothing but a shitty life. All you ever did was try to scare me. But guess what? I am not scared of you anymore!" (JJ Maybank, Season 1, Episode 7)
The internal struggle between longing for parental affection and dealing with the reality of his father's behavior becomes clearer in Episode 10 when JJ tries to steal the key to Luke's boat, the "Phantom".
As JJ is about to take the key off his sleeping father, Luke surprisingly wakes up in a changed demeanor. He apologizes to his son, not without shifting part of the blame onto JJ, saying: "You remind me of your mother".
"I know I'm hard on you sometimes. But sometimes I see your mother in you. And it get's me a little tweaked, you know?" (Luke Maybank, Season 1, Episode 10)
Although Luke comes across sincere and apologetic in this moment, he actually refuses to take any responsibility for mistreating his son. Worse than that, he shifts the blame onto JJ's mere existence and heritage. This justification for his anger issues is another form of abuse and emotional manipulation.
Additionally to that, Luke Maybank repeatedly brings up JJ's missing mother and his frustration about her, with complete disregard for his son's feelings for her. He never considers whether JJ loved his mother, if he misses her, or if JJ himself is hurt or confused by her disappearance. He focuses only on his own pain and frustration, completely ignoring his sons feelings who must navigate complex emotions and family dynamics all by himself.
JJ finally accepts his father's attempt to hug him because he deeply craves for his approval and love. In doing so you can see him desperately trying to push down his emotions and unsuccessfully holding back his tears. The intimate moment is interrupted when Luke, under the influence of his drugs, collapses back on the couch sleeping, allowing JJ to think clearly again and finalise his mission of taking the key of his father.
Another instance where the role reversal becomes very clear is when Luke JJ helps his dad to escape to Yucatan in Season 2, Episode 8. After they share an emotional farewell on the boat, JJ gives his father some money for the journey and secretly disposes the pills fueling Luke's addiction. These actions are another example of JJ routinely stepping into a caretaker role, which traditionally belongs to the parent.
Luke Maybank pressures his son into helping him for the last time (Season 2, Episode 8)
JJ stays behind, relieved that his father cannot harm and manipulate him anymore. But his hopes are fading that he will ever change. JJ is left with the growing certainty that he will, despite his relentless efforts, never be able to have the unconditional love and acceptance he craves for. It is questionable if JJ will ever give up seeking his father's love and acceptance, but due to his personal growth in the last three season it becomes clear that he will no longer fight for it to the point of self-sacrifice.
Luke Maybank leaves his son (supposedly) for good in Season 2, Episode 8
JJ Maybank character analysis
The meaning of the gun
"I got this thing, you know, to protect us" (JJ Maybank, Season 1, Episode 3)
At the start of the Pilot we see JJ Maybank as a funny, imaginative, rebellious guy who, although doesn't really think through the consequences of his actions, seems quite harmless.
However, his personality becomes a bit darker and erratic after he steals a loaded gun. He gets literally obsessed with always carrying it around and, to the dismay of the Pogues, does not hesitate to show it off for intimidation.
The possession of the gun holds a deep symbolic meaning for JJ Maybank, which goes far beyond the simple necessity of self-defense. Psychologically it can be described as "compensation" and a "defense mechanism." These terms describe how individuals use symbolic objects or behaviors to cope with inner conflicts or to make up for a lack of control in their lives.
The gun as a symbol for power and control
For JJ, who grows up in an environment where he has little control over his own life and safety, the gun symbolizes the opportunity to regain control. The gun gives him the feeling that he can protect himself and his friends.
Also, JJ is the one who faces the most oppression from many sides—whether it's from his abusive father, societal stigmas, or conflicts with the Kooks. Owning a gun represents a form of power that he otherwise lacks. It serves as a means for him to defend himself against those who oppress him.
In a powerful scene in Season 1, JJ points the gun at his abusive father and later breaks down crying to his friends: "I can't take it anymore... I was gonna kill him!"
The gun as an expression of JJ's inner conflicts
JJ's decision to possess a gun is an expression of his inner anger and desperation. The weapon represents his deep-seated frustration and his drive to combat the feelings of helplessness that overwhelm him due to his familial and social circumstances. It also expresses JJ's self-destructive tendencies. His willingness to take extreme measures highlights the depth of his emotional pain and despair.
The gun as a proof of coming of age
For JJ, forced to grow up early due to parentification, the gun also symbolizes his claim to independence and maturity. It is a means through which he can prove himself as capable and adult, someone who can protect himself and others.
Because he is often not taking seriously, JJ believes that possessing a gun will earn him more respect. It is an attempt to strengthen his position in the social hierarchy and assert his autonomy.
"(...) Remind you that I am the only one who can properly defend us." (JJ Maybank, Season 1)
The key moment of JJ losing his weapon
In "Outer Banks" Season 2, Episode 4 JJ Maybank finally gives up his weapon. It happens when the Pogues are about to get cornered by the police. JJ brandishes his gun in order to assert control over the situation. Recognizing this, John B steps in by assertively taking the gun out of JJ's hand, letting it fall to the ground, gently reassuring him, that he is going to be ok.
This message was extremely important for JJ, lifting the heavy weight of responsibility finally off his shoulders. JJ, being usually prepared to constantly put his own life on the line for the well-being of his father or his friends in order to "earn" their love and respect, was now protected and guided himself by his best friend.
"It's gonna be alright." (John B., Season 2, Episode 4)
After a short moment of indecisiveness and shock, JJ gives in and completes the act by quickly kicking dirt over the gun, so it stays hidden before the police can find it.
This is one of the most powerful, though underrated scenes in Outer Banks, because it really marks a key moment of JJ's personal development. It signifies his willingness to confront his inner demons: giving up control- for once not relying on himself but really trusting someone else's judgement. He is also accepted and cared for without having to proof himself or fulfill someone else's needs beforehand.