free will hater

adult

[escuerzoresucitado]

I'm using this metric for my bets

[zoesupreme]

ah yes. we have a graphic for this in american football actually

[catboybiologist]

My apparently wild and radical take is that trans women can literally just dress like women without much "accomodation"

"but what about hiding your-" I guarantee you women's clothes already does that, and you need it less than you think

"but what about adding padding to-" there are women's clothes that do that, also you need it less than you think

"but I don't think women's clothes will accommodate my proportions" I'm guessing that they will, and if you've been in HRT for any noticeable amount of time, they will likely fit better than men's clothes

Like I had my whole "femboy guide" pre transition, but that was a different vibe entirely.

If you want my advice on how to dress now, it would literally just be:

Take what you currently wear

Look at the woman's cut version of it

Size it properly

Wear it the correct way (eg, use the waist that women's clothes are made for)

There's a lot of clothes that's made "specifically for" trans women. Aside from very specific things (like tucking) I think most of it is garbage. Not to mention the absolute horrible ways that they're often marketed, rolling in trans women's everyday clothes with crossdressers and fetish gear.

When a trans woman first transitions, I've found that they're immediately BOMBARDED with "fashion advice" that is A, extremely othering and sometimes dysphoria inducing, and B, oftentimes outright garbage and uses old school crossdressing/drag advice that often fails to account for the effects of HRT, or doesn't come off as a more casual look.

I do think there's value in guides that are more in the zone of "hey, you've only been taught about men's fashion and clothes your whole life, here's the basics of women's fashion to catch you up to speed" but I've yet to find one that doesn't devolve into a weird "hide everything about your body, tran" kind of tone.

Quick preemptive Q&A

Are you saying that trans women CAN'T wear men's clothes and/or be butch?

No, I'm saying that women's clothes DOES fit and accommodate trans women's proportions, but most people refuse to believe that.

So you're a gender conformist then? Just molded to the binary system of fashion?

The last thing society wants a trans woman to be, is a woman. The most radical thing you can be is yourself, and sometimes yourself is a woman.

But what if I don't want to dress in women's clothes?!?

Good for you, then don't

[catboybiologist]

Fuckit, here's my bullet point fashion guide for trans women. This is stuff that applies to ALL women but trans women specifically will not have learned earlier in childhood.

Your waist is high. Higher than that. It's over your belly button. Yes it'll feel high waisted. Yes it'll also feel good. If your hips are getting wider, this is where pants will try to sit naturally anyways, and anything else will be uncomfortable.

On that note, the lack of pockets on women's pants actually does have a functional undertone. Having pockets at the waistline creates a VERY uncomfortable "pivot point" between your stomach and your legs, meaning if you put your keys or phone in pockets of women's pants, they're gonna jab you in the stomach.

THAT SAID, if you DO want pockets, I'm not gonna stop you. But get cargo pants!!! Women's cargo pants look SO nice, and thigh pockets are a godsend. They're more functional and more comfortable with growing hips.

Yes, women's cuts actually do make a fair bit of difference, and yes, you will fit and look more feminine in a women's cut. Even if it's a women's cut of jeans and a t shirt.

"unisex" clothing is oftentimes just men's clothing rebranded. I'm sorry but it's true. A lot of it will drape over you in boxy ways, since the "visual size" of a men's cut is almost entirely defined by the shoulders and upper body. This looks bad if you have wide shoulders or large boobs. It looks REALLY bad if you have wide shoulders AND large boobs, like I do. (Side note, the solution to degendering this should probably be something along the lines of giving the two cuts neutral names, like "shoulder cut" and "waist cut")

Bra sizing is a mystic art. No chart, calculator, or online tool will get you anywhere close to just trying on a variety of them yourself. They're a necessary starting point, but they're not going to get it right. Doesn't have to be an actual fitting, doesn't have to involve another human being, just grab a couple and try them all on. Hell, order them online and return the ones that don't fit if you're too nervous about being seen at all.

Don't make any fashion goal to "hide" anything (apart from tucking tbh, but tucking is less dramatic than a lot of other stuff imo). This isn't even primarily a self confidence point (although that's a great side effect) it's a point that if you spend too much effort or emphasis in "hiding" something, the rest of the fit is going to fall away from you or be guided by that in restricting ways. It also might call a lot of unnecessary attention to the exact thing you're trying to hide- and oftentimes, the only reason you wanted to hide it is because you're overly self conscious about something that's falling within normal variation. Choker to hide an Adam's apple? Now you're both calling attention to your neck, and are limited to outfits that work with that choker. Too much stuff over the shoulders to hide them? Now you're limited to things that cover the shoulders, and are also adding more padding or material to them. This point is deprogramming. The fashion choices that trans women are having imposed upon them to look more cis are not only a result of cis bullying, but oftentimes achieve the opposite effect than what people want.

[gardenstatetait]

cmon stoned butch blues. please laugh 🩵💙

[gardenstatetait]

This was a real hit with insane 18 year olds on insta

[vsingers]

new favorite tweet

[moonybear]

op i hope you know about the guy on r/kitchenconfidential

edit 3/13 (happy friday the 13th),

[worldsandemanations]

Monorhaphis Glass Sponge over 11,000 years old

[kingofkarrada]

When she was born, humans in parts of the Fertile Crescent were just beginning to practice agriculture and settle permanently.

[onrtrp]

the set of ships is nonempty and finite

(any reasonable notion of) size induces a total order on the set of equivalence classes of ships of the same size

every nonempty finite total order has a maximum

there exists a ship that is no smaller than any other ship

QED

[escuerzoresucitado]

I'm using this metric for my bets

[zoesupreme]

ah yes. we have a graphic for this in american football actually

[syzygydream]

it's important to be critical of both the USA and China. i don't have anything specific to criticize China for because then you would point out how i'm wrong, so instead i will appeal to the nuance of how you should not be uncritical of anyone in general. there's lots of accusations out there and I'm not taking an official stance on anything because it's all so complicated but you gotta be cautious. i am critical of US propaganda but those perfidious orientals must be up to something. i don't have any evidence but china has bad vibes better block and be safe. i am tacitly supporting US anti-china propaganda but if i call it nuance you can't say i'm doing that without sounding unreasonable

[plaidos]

glad that we’re talking about Alison Bechdel being a terf again. really hoping that fact breaks into the general cultural zeitgeist this time but not holding my breath

[plaidos]

because trans girls are starting to talk about this again, it isn’t going to be long before a bunch of TME people come in like “um, if Allison Bechdel is a terf how come she said this nice thing about trans women in the 90s? checkmate you hysterical tranny” with a few examples of Bechdel being mildly supportive of trans people’s right to exist, but make no mistake — Bechdel keeps close company with self described terfs and has done basically forever; Adrienne Rich is pretty much her idol & the basis of her understanding of feminism, and she actively attended Michfest for absolutely years and years whilst they were excluding trans women and even whilst Camp Trans protested right outside, and even in her most recent book she talks about it as this magical place that was free of men rather than the symbol of transmisogynistic hate & violence it has been recognised as for years. Some of the trans storylines in DTWOF are actively transphobic imho, and the Dykes To Watch Out For website (also Bechdel’s blog) is still to this day filled to the fucking brim with blatant terf dogwhistles including referring to the trans girl character as “trans identified” in her bio.

People have to stop falling for “but they said nice things about trans people…” stuff. Some bigots are still polite enough to refer to trans people by the correct pronouns & think we deserve some basic respects in society/to be free from violence, but still fundamentally are bigots with transphobic ideas about gender. it is desperately important that we do not let transmisogyny go unrecognised and i acknowledged within the feminism movement.

[wiigiwaamcore]

As a follow up note, in addition to the transmisogyny she has also at times blatantly misgendered trans men as well. When I was a college student, UChicago hosted an exhibit of some photography she had done around the theme of butchness. And at the end of the lineup of photos there was a note that said something like “Some of the people in these photos actually prefer he/him pronouns and identify as men, but for the sake of consistency and centering butches I am just going use she/her for them all.” This was around somewhere between 2011 and 2014. So she fails even at “calling trans ppl the right pronouns” in some cases too

[plaidos]

that’s legitimately stomach/churningly disgusting

[plaidos]

i’m going a little bit crazy how many people i’m seeing reblog this now that there’s something about trans men specifically, after those same people ignored transfems for years when we were telling people she’s a terf who went to michfest and kept rank with Adrienne Rich & her supporters. it’s almost like you don’t actually give a fuck about transmisogyny unless it also effects men

[counttwinkula]

hey did you know that uhh

i. the monster's body is a cultural body

ii. the monster always escapes

iii. the monster is the harbinger of category crisis

iv. the monster dwells at the gates of difference

v. the monster polices the borders of the possible

vi. fear of the monster is really a kind of desire

vii. the monster stands at the threshold… of becoming

[counttwinkula]

oh shit i didn't expect this to actually get notes lmao

these are all direct quotes from jeffrey jerome cohen's "monster culture (seven theses)" (full pdf linked) i highly encourage you to read it yourself!

that said, while i think cohen's writing is evocative, it can be a little dense, so while i'm here, here's my capsule summary (you can also hear me talk about this in the first episode of my podcast) (listen to @ghostswerepeopletoo)

i. the monster's body is a cultural body - The monster is a work of fiction to be analyzed through tools of literary and sociological theory.

ii. the monster always escapes - As long as the cultural fear from which the monster stems persists, the monster will reappear in retellings, reimaginings, and sequels.

iii. the monster is the harbinger of category crisis - Monsters defy binaries and challenge easy comprehension or categorization.

iv. the monster dwells at the gates of difference - The monster represents the Other.

v. the monster polices the borders of the possible - Tales of the monster exist to discourage unacceptable or taboo behaviors.

vi. fear of the monster is really a kind of desire - Subjects can vicariously participate in the disruption of the social order through the monster.

vii. the monster stands at the threshold… of becoming - Within the monster we find information about the self.

[street-dog-bread]

[strawberry-crocodile]

if i was writing deltarune i would have included a moment in chapter three where tenna slips up and he/hims kris

[strawberry-crocodile]

like the two biggest things about Tenna is 1. he is outdated and 2. hes an incarnation of everything Kris doesn't like about their family. like if any one character in the game would be transphobic it would be him.

[strawberry-crocodile]

there's that one tumblr post about Noelle or Toriel being mildly transphobic and i absolutely do get why you would draw that conclusion HOWEVER. the fandom is 1000% not ready to handle the nuances of a woman having transphobic biases and still being an ultimately sympathetic character. yes this is also partially motivated by spite towards the kind of person who makes spamtenna have more fics on ao3 than suselle.

[calllynx]

Op turned off reblogs but I MUST

[artificial-absinthe]

So... that skybound panel, in tfp style.

It's an impressive composition, and I needed it in my preferred iteration/ designs.

And black. Black background. Of course.

I honestly haven't read the skybound comics, nor do I plan to, so I don't have the faintest idea of why Megatron has no optics and is seemingly wired to Laserbeak, and why in Hell is he able to fix and restart bots. So, if anyone would be so kind to enlighten me...

[allegedly-human]

nonsense words such as "blorbo" and "skibidi" are outliers and a minuscule minority and thus do not invalidate that statement

UPDATE: my white ass somehow forgot that skibidi toilet is quite literally scat, a musical practice born from jazz so, also AAVE

UPDATE UPDATE: skibidi comes from traditional Romani folk singing and cultural contacts between Romani folks and African-American people heavily influenced scat. While I don't feel like I'm particularly fit to determine whether a series made by a Russian-American man in the 2020's has its roots in one or the other, I think it's important to note skibidi is part of the nonsense words used specifically in said Romani songs, so I guess it's an outlier in the sense that it's taken from another culture than AAVE

[zvaigzdelasas]

The tiktok/Instagram reels of any given random 10 person Chinese factory producing some key pivotal commodity coming off of a given production process is on average more in touch with The Meta of The Algorithm than your local 6 figure salary social media content production manager

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