That’s Yes Ma’am

Learning to embrace my power as a strict wife in a semi-trad, yet F/M DD relationship with my naughty hubby

[strict-consistent-wifey]

Happy birthday @hillbillyhubby! So happy to be the one that gets to keep you in line ❤️

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Celebrating another birthday with @hillbillyhubby. This is the third since we embraced DD and we are stronger than ever.

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Willing Women #26-23-1

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You mentioned books on the subject of DD. What are some that you found most helpful?

I found How to Spank Your Man and Spanking the Male Mind, both by Monica Wilder, to be really helpful. The last time I looked for a link, I wasn’t able to find one, but hopefully you’ll be able to find a version online. She published under Wilder Street Publishing.

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Please repost the rules.

My original rules post is here

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You mentioned your daughter. How much does she know about the situation with you and your man? I assue she does not take part in the DD life, now. As she gets older will she be given spanking privilages or, hopefully. it is kept between the two of you

My goal is for it to stay between us. She’s elementary aged, and she knows that some spankings happen, but not the seriousness of how it impacted our lives. She’s seen me smack him on the behind with an oven mitt for repeatedly being in my way in the kitchen or heard me light heartedly threaten to smack him with a spoon, but I think, in her mind, it’s framed as loving teasing.

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Fashion #25-17-1

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Scantily-Clad and Sexy Spankers #24-17-1

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Loving Wives #26-16-1

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my wife and I have been in a similar relationship since 2017’ We’ve had a lot of ups and downs. I am an Alpha by nature and it’s not that she’s a beta. She’s just very passive. She has no problem spanking me. That’s never been an issue. And she has no remorse when it’s more severe. She just lets things go that I wish she would discipline for. Have yall had this issue?

This is specifically why I wrote down the rules very clearly toward the beginning. It’s part a natural inclination to be more passive but also the state of our lives right now - we’re in those peak middle years. Our daughter is active. We’ve both got activities outside of the house, growing careers, and the demands of roles as caregivers to aging and elderly family members. If it’s not written down, with an auto scheduled reminder or two, I will forget. A dentist appointment, a bill, a rule that I made in passing but is actually really important to me. The written rules keep us both accountable to the foundations and principles we’ve established. In those passive moments, it’s not that the issues is any less important than something else, in fact it’s almost always more important than it seems, but it’s more of a capacity issue. If I have established a concrete rule around it, it’s easier to enforce; but if I’m mentally at capacity because of other things and I have to make a judgement call around behavior, I may not call it out in the moment. I will circle back around pretty frequently, but it’s not always instantaneous. Keeping the rules as more of a “living document” that I can update on the fly keeps us both in check.

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How long and hard is an average spanking? Are you able to get him to tears?

I don’t know that I have a great answer to this. They are hard enough to be effective and long enough to be memorable. The goal is consequences for misbehavior and those consequences are relative to the transgression. I’m going to use the example of being late because it’s something important to me, was one of the first rules I implemented, and is always a really good illustration point.

If he’s 10 minutes late and didn’t call, my goal isn’t tears. Will he still get spanked? Yes, absolutely, but it’s not going to be the worst spanking he’s ever had. The goal is to remind/reestablish the rules, as necessary, and provide a deterrent for continued misbehavior. If my goal is always tears, or always to “break” him, then we lose the sense of nuance that some correction is going to be more harsh than others.

[strict-consistent-wifey]

Do you ever spank anyone besides your husband and daughter.

No - and I don’t think I ever would.

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Assertive Young Ladies #24-12-2

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How often do you have to spank him besides his weekly Sunday spanking,does your daughter hear you spanking him do you think

It really depends on the week. There are some weeks where I spank him 3-4 times and others where it’s just maintenance. It’s all based on his behavior.

I don’t believe our daughter hears - we always wait for her to be asleep before discipline begins.

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