What is FinDom and being drained like? Does it feel good? Where are the feelings? In your head/heart, dick, ass, somewhere else? What does the Dom and the sub get out of it? I don't mean the money, what else do they get or experience? Sorry it's so many questions.
Before I dig into your questions: @maxtem19 recently responded to similar questions in this post. I agree with what Boss said, so start there and come back.
Caveat: There are different kinds of FinDom and they're all a little different. I can only speak to the kind that Boss and I use, one built on a trusting relationship that affects my entire life, not just a hole in my wallet. I tried other methods many moons ago and they just didn't work for me.
What is FinDom and being drained like? Does it feel good? Where are the feelings? In your head/heart, dick, ass, somewhere else?
FinDom feels amazing to someone who's into it. The best way I can explain is that it's an orgasm, except it's extended, sometimes as long as hours or days, and instead of your dick getting the majority of the feeling, it's spread across your entire body and every single thought and feeling that you have.
I literally lose the ability to use grammar when Boss drains my bank account. It's that powerful.
What does the Dom and the sub get out of it? I don't mean the money, what else do they get or experience?
Well, I get that feeling I just described. And I get a feeling of accomplishment from being so strong that I let Boss do it to me. I get Boss's guidance on certain things, and I get to be closer to him in other ways, too.
And as with any form of power transfer, I get to let go. I get to go outside what of 99% of society says I should do with my income and do what I want instead. I get to give it to someone I trust, who understands, who accepts my decision.
If you really want to understand FinDom, you need to accept one thing from the offset: It's barely about money. Like any kink, it's the taking and giving of power that makes FinDom work.
With any kink there's a price of admission. If you're into impact play, you accept that it's gonna hurt sometimes and maybe you'll have a bruise or two. If you're into rope play, a few rope burns from time to time are just part of the deal. If you're a cuckold, you know that you'll probably have some lonely nights and have to work through serious bouts of jealousy.
When I started wearing thongs all the time, I accepted that I had to start seeing my body differently and I accepted that it would get strange looks and extremely visceral reactions from some people. That was a price of admission.
When you're into FinDom, the price of admission is that you'll have a bit less money than you otherwise would. It's just the way it is. That doesn't mean you'll be ruined financially, just that you'll periodically have fewer nights out and will make clothes last longer. And you accept the knowledge that your Dom will have more nice things and fewer of those challenges.
From the outside, I suppose that sounds insane. From the inside, though, it's more than worth the sacrifice to have a richer life than I ever could have dreamed possible.
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