A Compendium

[oil-heiress-deactivated20191112]

25 Money Affirmations to Attract Wealth and Abundance 💰I am a magnet for money. Prosperity is drawn to me. 💵 Money comes to me in expected and unexpected ways. 💴 I move from poverty thinking to abundance thinking. 💶 I am worthy of making more money. 💰I am open and receptive to all the wealth life offers me. 💷 I embrace new avenues of income. 💎 I welcome an unlimited source of income and wealth in my life. 💳 I release all negative energy over money. 💵 Money comes to me easily and effortlessly. 💴 I use money to better my life and the lives of others. 💎 Wealth constantly flows into my life. 🔥 My actions create constant prosperity. 🙌🏻 I am aligned with the energy of abundance. 💶 I constantly attract opportunities that create more money. 💳 My finances improve beyond my dreams. 💰Money is the root of joy and comfort. 💷 Money and spirituality can co-exist in harmony. 💰Money and love can be friends. Money is my servant. 💴 I am the master of my wealth. 💰 I am able to handle large sums of money. 💵 I am at peace with having a lot of money. 💷 I can handle massive success with grace. 🙌🏻 Money expands my life’s opportunities and experiences. 💪🏼 Money creates positive impact in my life.

- Avalon Ash

[theblackcourtesan]

Cannes & Monaco Part 2

This is a continuation of @golden-yaa‘s ask and my tips, suggestions and opinions. Part 1 is here .

So mainly this part will be focusing on where to go when in Cannes and Monaco. 

One of the biggest pluses about both of these cities is that they are small. Like to give you an idea of how small I’m talking about….it takes about an hour to walk through Monaco. 

So back to Cannes, you want to be in the Croisette area. Don’t worry about any of the other areas of Cannes. The Croisette (also called La Croisette) is where the beach is, the upscale hotels/restaurants, the designer shopping and of course where the film festival will be taking place.

Hotels: Barriere Le Majestic The Carlton (my favorite!) Hotel Martinez Eat at the hotels. Drink at the hotels. Touch up your makeup at the hotels. Use the bathroom at the hotels. You see where I’m going with this? lol 

If you’re worried about staff stopping you, don’t. There’s going to be so many people going in and out, as long as you look the part, you’ll be fine. And if by chance someone looks as if they’re going to stop you, beat them to the punch and ask them where the bar/lounge is. You’re going to be hanging out at the bar/lounge anyway. 

Speaking of eating, I won’t mention too many restaurants because I feel like if you’re a young woman there’s no need to sit in an upscale restaurant by yourself (especially if you’re on budget). You’re much better off sitting at the bar so you can network and be seen. 

If I were you, for dinner I would pick an inexpensive restaurant to go to, fill up on food and then return to one of the hotel lounges. 

However lunch is a different story. Lunches are usually more moderately priced. I still recommend sticking to or near the hotels and eating there. Or depending on your budget, go get a quick bite to eat at somewhere less expensive then come back and have your drinks.

One restaurant I do recommend is the beach restaurant at the Carlton. If you decide to eat there, err on the side of caution and make a reservation. I know they say you don’t need one…make one anyway lol. 

For “dinner” I recommend Bâoli. Although like I mentioned above, don’t go there to eat (save your money, eat someone else, then come back). Bâoli pretty much turns into a club once the sun sets so you go for the atmosphere and to network. 

And now that I’m on the subject of clubs….*sigh*. Some of you already know how I feel about clubs but I digress…

Long story short: Nikki beach in the day, Gotha or VIP Room at night.

Nikki Beach is fine and can be a lot of fun. Also, it’s a good place to begin your networking especially if this is your first time and you’re going solo. Be sure however, to check out what events are on which days. You do not want to show up in a pink dress during the all white party lol. 

Speaking of dress, a lot of people dress very “beach chic” when at Nikki Beach. So either swimsuits (especially if you’re in the beach area, bring a cover up as well and a skirt) or perhaps a pretty maxi dress. Just do a search for pictures of Nikki Beach and you’ll see what I’m talking about. 

Now. Let me talk to you about Gotha and VIP Room lmao. 

I recommend going to these clubs if you’re a partier, really into a certain artist/DJ or if you just want to say that you partied there. Bring a friend (which is a very easy thing to do if you hang out at Nikki Beach during the day and chat up a few girls - a lot of people end up at one of these clubs at night). And while I’m usually #teamsolo I’m also #teamsafety so this time I would suggest going with at least one other person. 

And while going there once or twice can be fun (depending on your personality and what you’re into) I honestly don’t think it should be your focus (remember how I was talking about people getting caught up in the fanfare?). I know this sounds counter productive (after all, aren’t you suppose to be networking?), but chances are you’re most likely to run into some “fake baller” instead of the real deal. However, all kinds of people have been known to stop by these clubs (especially Gotha) so it never hurts to go. But in my opinion, your focus should be on private parties. Only go to Gotha/VIP if you have nothing else to do that night.

Just a few more things about Gotha/VIP Room (and I swear I’m done talking about them lol). Download their apps and follow them on social media. This way you’ll know what time they open, how much it costs to get into VIP, who’s performing that night and also the location. Gotha has its location but VIP (I think) does a pop up at the JW Marriott. Double check. 

I almost forgot. If you go be sure to wear sweat proof/long lasting makeup. There’s soo many people in these places and with the lights, it gets hot. And make sure you look good. They’ve both been known to not let someone in if they didn’t look good enough. 

Oh, I almost forgot to mention a tip for Nikki Beach. Be sure to reserve/rent a beach chair or a cabana, it will make things a lot easier. 

P.S. Nikki Beach does their pop up right in front of the Carlton. 

It looks like a part 3 in order, I never talked about Monaco lol. 

[theblackcourtesan]

Monaco Part 3

This is a continuation of my Cannes/Monaco posts from @golden-yaa‘s ask. This is part 3 (and the last part).

Where to stay: If you’re on a budget, don’t worry about staying in Monaco. The costs of renting the tiniest apartment during the grand prix costs more than what some people pay a month in rent. And don’t get me started on the costs for a hotel room…

Instead stay in Nice. You could remain in Antibes if you’re already there but the train ride will be longer (which I already talked about in part 2).

When you’re in Monaco however, you’re going to want to be in either Monte-Carlo or near the ports (where the yachts are). A lot of people will actually be staying on yachts instead of hotels so keep that in mind.

As far as hotels go: Hôtel de Paris Hôtel Métropole  Hôtel Hermitage

There’s one more hotel I didn’t mention which is the Fairmont. Nikki Beach is there so you’ll be there anyway lol.

Before I get into the clubs, I recommend asking people that you meet during the day where they’re going to party at night (this is if you don’t end up invited to a yacht party. If you do end up on a yacht find out a good place to go anyway just in case you need to bail the yacht which I’ll talk more about in a bit).

The clubs/lounges: Jimmy’z Sass Café (this place is also a restaurant but the later it gets, the more it turns into a club) 

Twiga (which I think use to be called Billionaire, but they changed the name?) VIP Room

And as always, if you’re on a budget, don’t force yourself to eat at any of these places (including the hotel lounges/bars); go somewhere less expensive, eat there and then come back and get drinks. 

I recommend doing as much networking as you can during the day - visit the hotel bars and lounges, Nikki Beach, walk along the promenade (where the designer stores are). 

Stay in touch with whomever you meet and remember to ask: “Do you have any plans?”, “What are you up to later/tomorrow?”, “What do you think about [insert name of place here]?” 

Do this enough times and you should have something to do every night there.

A quick word about yacht parties: Be sure to have an exit strategy. Uber, cab, whatever. Have the numbers/apps on your phone and ready to go. Along with Google Maps (or whatever you like to use). Make sure you know how to get off that boat quick, fast and in a hurry. I’ve heard of all types of craziness going down on some of these yachts… but I should also mention that this also has more to do with whose boat you’re on (although you’d be surprised at times). Not trying to scare you, but safety comes first! 

One last thing: Be sure to bring a bikini, a day dress (maxi dress) and an evening dress (just in case). 

I hope this helped and I wish you lots of success, 

Have fun my love! 

[kissesdaddy-deactivated20191024]

“A wise girl kisses but doesn’t love, listens but doesn’t believe, and leaves before she is left.”

Marilyn Monroe

[limperatricedesvices]

I’m the kind of woman to not care if my « hypothetical future husband » cheats on me

Like who cares I don’t take it personally, I would take personally if the lifestyle is lost

Just gonna have a great lover/bf in discreet and make hubby make hoops to gain my attention, and spend on me even more because #guilt

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

If he knows me he will ask me “How much?” Don’t even say sorry or nothing just how much will it take for this psycho not to destroy my life.

[fucklovepayme]

Remember

Only broke men complain about how “expensive” you are.

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

How would you start setting the frame work to build a bond w/a older vanilla POT io turn into an SD? I've read ppl will just constantly create scenarios

Great question!

The key to setting the framework is making sure he sees how your strong your foundation is. You are young but not stupid. You are not rich but you are motivated. You are like a free trial, you will intentionally give previews of what it can be but always indicate what it could be if he pays for the premium membership. 

1. Be his fantasy. Find out his last relationships, and listen to what he likes and doesn’t like. My man’s last relationship, he dealt with blatant golddigger this indicated to me he needed a woman who didn’t demand but led him to be generous.

2. Test him. Talk about your challenges, debt, things you need and watch his reaction. Does he allude to taking care of it? Does he change the subject? Does he try to sneak in a flirt? These are ways I decipher men who are generous, men who are inconsiderate and men who are just going to be perverts to me. 

3. Set limitations. Don’t go on dates where you have to sit next to each other. No movie theater, driving in the car together, lay down and etc. Older men are very affectionate and like to inappropriately touch women, when they are too close. When men realize they can’t take advantage of you or have you, you become a challenge. This is what separates a young vanilla woman from a sb. 

4. Give him a deadline to his promises. If he says he will do something, ask him when should you expect it? Men will say anything to get to the vagina. 

[sugarblu-deactivated20200101]

Remembering how rapey men are…

I haven’t been formally out freestyling since I got roofied . I’ve been sticking to dating apps or men noticing me on the street (LOL). And I’m feeling so nervous too. I think it’s mostly because I’m alone. I don’t think I will until I’m back in NYC with my girls. So so grateful to @bergdorfbeauty again for saving my ass when it happened. How do you all keep yourselves safe when you’re out alone? Hell, How do you freestyle alone at all! I feel like I rely so heavily on my freestyling partner in so many ways and I’m trying to break out of that. Part of that was me being a newbie at the time but I think it’s mostly general anxiety (that has worsened after that fucking incident)

1. How do you explain how you’re at the bar /whatever alone? Especially as a young hot girl lol.

2. When you go to the bathroom. Do you just make sure you’ve finished your drink? Or do you just not go at all?

3. How do you keep yourself busy when you aren’t talking to a POT? I’ve had some nice bartenders and others that just flat out ignore me so I’m just there twiddling my fucking thumbs.

4. How do you dress? I feel like two girls going out looking cute makes a lot more sense than me all alone! But maybe I’m overthinking. I feel fine all dressed up alone in some upscale restaurants but a bar or restaurant I still feel out of place.

As things go better and better in the bowl for me I want to really dive the fuck in when I’m back in NYC. Also I’ve been talking to some girls and …maybe I’m not too young to transition? I’m not sure. escorts how old were you when you when you started? I’m older than barely legal. But still a youngin’.

Okay im done shit posting. May be M.I.A. Until I return from Amsterdam .

[xo-sugarbabe]

20 Tips for new SBs

I have friends that want to get into sugaring and as I started writing important tips I learned (some the hard way), I realized other ladies getting in the bowl could always benefit from some of these tips. You may already know these things or you may not, but here are just some things I’ve done/found helpful:

1. Fake name, home destination (unless you’re willing to host), phone number, and possible occupation. Delete yourself from the internet. Do not send pictures that are on your personal social media ESP if it’s an open profile. Never sync contacts with personal social media or sugar social media. You don’t want some of these “SDs” finding your real name. If I have to explain why to you, don’t sugar.

2. Set aside certain days/evenings for your sugaring. I try to keep one day a week per SD, unless they’re traveling SDs then that can be more sporadic. It just makes things easier when balancing multiple SDs/work/school etc.

3. WARDROBE. Most of the older men on the site want a clean, well dressed woman. Remember if you look expensive they’ll know what to expect in terms of financial obligations

4. Sugar persona. Decide who she will be. Is she the princess type or the girl next door? Is she outgoing and bubbly or the intellectual and mature type? This persona will greatly vary between SDs as well. Cater to who he is, play who he wants you to be and what he’s missing in his life, but most importantly, do what comes NATURAL. If it’s not natural it’ll be that much more exhausting to be with your SD, and being with him (unless you are v lucky) will be work.

5. Three words: Little. Black. Book. If you have multiple SDs this is even more important. Write down each POT, screenshot their profiles. Make sure you have notes on their likes, dislikes, occupation, address, things they’ve given you, allowance offers, family members names, etc. This will make it soooo much easier on you than remembering each little thing about someone you may not care that much about. That way, before you go on a date, refresh your notes. It’ll be that much easier to strike up conversation and seem interested in them if you know what conversation points to hit.

6. Slow down. Talk slower, you won’t trip over your words. Eat slower, you won’t be messy or appear savagery. Walk slower, you won’t trip over your shoes. You are a luxury. Good things take time.

7. Get in the habit of exfoliating and moisturizing daily if you don’t already.

8. Own a sugar purse. It doesn’t have to be anything designer (though nothing like a big YSL to paint a picture of who you are and what you require), even ones from Aldo can be classy if you dress them well. What I carry in my sugar purse is different from my vanilla purse. Vanilla purse: ID, credit cards, lip balm, headphones, mini perfume, blotting papers. Sugar purse: NO ID/CREDIT CARDS. Nothing with your name on it if you sugar under an alias. Continued.. travel size perfume, mouth spray, blotting papers, headphones, compact, lipstick, $50-100 cash, hand sanitizer & cream, lip balm, portable charger. The portable charger saved my life on many occasions. Just less fussy than finding a cord and an outlet and leaving your phone possibly unattended.

9. Turn off Bluetooth on dates. You don’t need it showing up on ANY devices saying “Sara’s phone” when you said your name was Chanel.

10. Sugar playlist. My SD lives 45mins away and he’s old and just not something I always look forward to. The sugar playlist has songs that are money based, songs that remind you that you’re that bitch and you deserve to be treated as a luxury. It just helps put me in the mindset to slip into my sugar persona and finesse cash outta these men. Some on my sugar playlist: “Glamorous” - Fergie, “Bitch Better Have My Money” - Rihanna, “Luxurious” - Gwen Stefani. Go with that kind of vibe and you’ll be set 👌🏽

11. Make a financial goal for yourself. Why do you want a SD? Why are you on SA? Answer these questions for yourself. Then answer them again as your sugar persona with a more “appealing” answer. You need to support yourself through school, you need money for rent and don’t get enough hours working, you would rather get to date and handsome man and spend more time with him than slaving away at a minimum wage job, etc. Play to his likes, you’ll know what angle to go with.

12. Do not get in a car with a POT. Do not let them pick you up/uber you from where you live.

13. Find places in your city you’ve always wanted to go to but can’t rationalize spending on. Make these places your POT dates. They should be expensive. They should be classy. See how much he will spend on you.

14. Don’t get drunk on POT dates. It opens you up to being taken advantage of and you may let something slip you don’t want to.

15. Phone on silent/vibrate, notifications turned off. You don’t want any POT or SD seeing your texts from family, friends or other SDs pop up on your phone. Don’t text on dates. The only text you should send is to your trusted contact of where you are, and MAKE SURE to say to SDs/POTs, “Sorry I’m just letting my roommate/friend know where I am and that I’m okay.” If possible, say that someone is expecting you later. This will let your SD know people are looking out for you.

16. Don’t trust that just because they invite you to their apartment/house/condo they are trustworthy. Airbnbs exist. It’s easy to fake a residence. Same thing with cars. These aren’t reliable character checks.

17. Know your desired allowance. Look in the mirror, say it out loud and confidently. You deserve that amount. You will receive that amount. Don’t compromise, you aren’t a bargain.

18. If your SD wants you to be “exclusive” and you have no desire to do so, block him on SA/tinder/wherever you met and say you deleted the profile just for him. Continue your cash grab.

19. Probiotic supplements. Condoms. STI checks. Fluconazole is the generic canesten pill. Sea sponges can be used on your period (after disinfection) if you want to have sex without bleeding everywhere. Carry a little lube on you and apply it right before getting with your SD. Be kind to your pussy. You’ve only got one.

20. And of course… NO MONEY NO HONEY. Get the bills before you do ANYTHING. This includes sexy phone calls, this includes sexy pictures, this includes him copping a feel. Get the money FIRST. Basic sw rule. You don’t want to suck a dick and then have him say oh next week, I’m short on cash today and then next week never happens and you’ve just sucked dick for free. If you wanted that you could just vanilla date fuckboys, and you are better than that.

Obviously I’m not perfect and I’ve probably missed huge things. Feel free to add your own tips below!!!

[ultrasugarlifestyle]

SUGAR BABY, SPOILED GIRLFRIEND, TROPHY WIFE YOUTUBE CHANNELS TO FOLLOW 💰

💖 Cyndi Sofia  💖

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→ What About You Is Intriguing? Describe Your “Brand”

→ How to Become a Rich Man’s Muse Replay

→ Are You a High Value Woman? 

💖 Michaela Pink  💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ HOW TO MAKE HIM CROSS THE ROOM FOR YOU | FROM GETTING LOOKS TO BAITING HOOKS

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→ MEN FALL IN LOVE WITH THEIR EYES | WOMEN FALL IN LOVE WITH THEIR EARS

💖Pretty Woman 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ 10 Sugar Daddy Red Flags!!

→ TOP 5 places to meet a Sugar Daddy

→ Sugar Daddy: Sugarbaby Safety Guide

💖School Of Affluence 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ 10 Ways To Look Expensive On A Budget - School of Affluence

→ How Law Of Attraction Changed My Life - School Of Affluence

→ What nationalities are the most generous, all my previous jobs & the key to a happy relationship!

💖SheRaSeven1 💖

:: VIDEOS I RECOMMEND ::

→ How to Get Money From a Sugar Daddy

→ Act Like the Prize and Weed Out Dusty Men

→ Things to Never Talk About On Dates

💖ZIVA 💖

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→ HOW TO GET MONEY FROM A SUGAR DADDY 💸 Turn A Guy You Meet into Your SD

→ Do you HAVE to sleep with your sugar daddy?

→ How To Get A Sugar Daddy 💰(part 1)

[lilithluxe]

haven’t watched any of these so we’ll see…

[trustfundkiller]

How To Manipulate People Into Liking You More

Original Content From Reddit

1. Be good looking. Don’t be not good looking.

Good looking people are always well received and have a greater margin of error. Serious mistakes will still cost them, but little blunders will not cost them in the way it costs ugly people. This one is hard to control though. You can influence this by working out, good hygiene, pay for nice teeth, wear high quality clothing.

2. Remember peoples names. Use them frequently.

Remember everyones name. When you see them, use their name and smile. Everyones favorite word is their own name.

3. Touch people. Body language.

when you are talking with someone, occasionally touch their shoulder or lightly grab their arm while laughing at a joke they made. Go for high fives/brofist. Do playful pushaways (more roughly with guys). Give firm handshakes. If guy/girl, go for playful palm reading. Occasionally mirror the body language of person you are talking to (not all the time or its obvious and creepy). Do not cross your arms or put hands in your pockets when talking to someone (defensive body language). Use your hands when talking to amplify your communication. Hold eye contact 70-90% of the time. Learn to smile naturally on command and do it frequently.

4. Make people feel like they are important

When talking 1 on 1 with someone, do not get easily distracted by outside things. Stay focused. LISTEN to what they say, occasionally repeat it back to them in different words/summarize after they say their bit and then ask them a question about it. Ideally convo should be 70/30 with them being 70% talking and you 30%. Just enough on your part that it does not feel like they are being interviewed. As above, smile naturally when they tell a joke (even if its not funny).

When talking to a group of people, learn to make each person feel they are the most important person you are talking to. This is very difficulty to master (I certainly havent mastered it). It’s about utilizing eye contact, body language and engaging with those in the group that engage with you.

5. Be funny and mysterious. Learn to converse well.

When its your 30. Reveal a little about yourself but never too much. Always leave a few critical details out, leave people wanting more. Make jokes. Learn to make fun of the other person in a non-cruel and playful way. NEVER insult their taste. aka NEVER insult their favorite band/movie/artpiece/author/philosopher/scientist/politician etc.

On the subject… you do not have to avoid religion and politics. Actually I would encourage it… BUT do not be argumentative. Perhaps give a a non threatening “light” countering view (like weed legalization) and ask them to share their views and they make them think you have possibly been persuaded by them. People often do not get to talk about religion/politics and when they do someone is there to yell at them and argue with them and make them feel bad. Stand out by letting them almost persuade you. However this leads into another important point.

Do not share your views on everything. Do not be a fedora or a bible thumper. Do not be a liberal or a conservative. Give 100% support to neither side and nooone. allow them to fight for your approval but never fully give it anyone. People will respect you for being open-minded and will do good things for you while trying to win you over. Great politicans win the hearts of people by being ambigious and never being too stuck on a philosophical or political point. Be loosy goosy and mysterious.

6. Be positive.

Do not be overly positive about EVERYTHING. But generally be positive. Be fun. Be spontaneous. Be a “dancer” not a “wallflower.’ The world sucks. We get it. Everyone knows. Thats why we need some damn positivity. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop imagining yourself as the victim of circumstances outside of your control. Don’t waste energy hating people. Don’t complain about anything ever. Never. Just never. Yes, its tough. But the world is 99% complainers. Find someone who doesn’t complain and you might just start a religion or cult around them. World is going to end tomorrow? Sounds like a good time to go dancing, enjoy the stars and make love.

7. Learn Skills and get good at them.

Horse-riding. Guitar. Dancing. Acrobatics. Magic. Math. Judo. Swimming. Writing. Painting. Acting. Fixing machines. Electronics.

Whatever it is, get good at it. Enjoy it. The world is full of people who just sit on facebook/reddit or watching tv or reading crappy fiction novels. Be someone who has a skill or enjoys doing something productive and people will want you in their lives, they will idolize you. You will have intrinsic worth.

8.Be Narcissistic but set your ego aside.

Do not let people insult you. If someone jokes at you, joke right back and laugh. Never be insulted. You are a god. Gods are not insulted by mortals. But do not talk about yourself, do not complain, do not have a victim complex. You are a god, you do not need approval. You are not worried about the loss of a friend or a girl who does not appreciate your godliness. But you are not rude. You are above them. This kind of attitude is hard to cultivate and maintain, but people will be drawn to you if you learn to utilize a kind of narcissism.

9. Learn to speak properly 2.

Lower the tonality of your voice at end of statements. Do not uptalk. Learn to pause between sentences, 2 seconds is good. Learn to speak a bit slower. (see Carl Sagan, Obama etc.) Do not be nervous about silences. Utilize silence.

10. Do not be a know-it-all. Make other people feel smart.

This one is tough. Learn to come off as intelligent but never try to one-up people. Do not be a know-it-all. Come off in body-language and attitude, in skills and success - come off as intelligent. But in conversation, do not always be correcting people. Do not try to constantly teach people. A wise teacher teaches by success and through kindness. Do not insult people for having differing opinions or not knowing something. Let people teach you. Remember that everyone you meet knows something(s) you don’t. Let them teach you. Be open minded. Refer to 5 though, let them enlighten you but maintain some skepticism, do not be won over too easily. People are constantly being told by other people they are stupid, stand out by making them feel smart.

11. Give specific compliments to specific people, do it rarely and only when desrved.

Another one I had to edit to add. Generic compliments like “you are beautiful” or “you are nice” or “you are a good person” or “you are smart” are given ALL the time. They mean nothing. It is very evident that you are trying to win them over, it’s lazy, and it just inflates their ego. Yes, for all the negativity in the world and people telling them they are stupid - most people have massive egos (which is why you need to learn to set aside your ego while being a narcissist. wei wu wei, bitch). Everyone has now been brought up being told they are special, the are the hero(ine) of the story, they are destined for greatness. We live in a culture of the ego-maniacal. Vague compliments only inflate this false sense of ego and make people think you are trying to get something from them.

Women and hot guys get these kinds of vague compliments daily. They essentially become a screening process on who not to talk to. Forget it.

However, specialized compliments are good for the less egotistical. The more genuine they seem or are, the better. They don't have to be genuine of course, they just need to appear genuine. “That’s a cool hat” or “wow you nailed that dance” or “how did you get a 90 on that test?” are much better.

Do not compliment people with super-egos. These people take all forms of compliments as fodder for their ego. they will toss you aside like a cheap snack bar wrapper. Learn to be different by not complimenting these people. Play hard to get. Make light jokes towards them. Treat them as an equal or lesser. These people crave that, deep down inside they often desire an equal and are tired of being treated like idols.

12. Learn to read people. get what you want by learning to give people what they want. Be the trojan horse.

Each person is different. As 11 illustrates, everyone wants something different. Learn to read people and give them what they want. Some people want to be insulted, some people want to be idolized. Some of them want to huuurt you~~ No but seriously, a good tactician changes his/her strategy to the battefield and the state of affairs. Learn to vary your approach. Give people what they want (not usually physial objects, this is metaphysical/metaphorical) and they will often willingly give you what you want.

My best example for this is anal. I used to just ask girls I was dating “Can we do anal?” and the answer is 99% no. It’s not a sexy way of going about it and its too upfront. Play the trojan horse. If you meet a girl who likes to be dominated, dominate her, and she will love anal. Meet a girl whose never orgasmed, and give her an orgasm while your finger is in her butt, and she will love anal. Meet a girl who wants to be dominant, and let her dominate - and she will love anal. This seems like just idiotic sexual advice, but it is metaphorical for a lot of things in life. You can substitute anal for a lot of things - a pay raise, a promotion, going skydiving, moving in together, getting a record deal etc. There are plenty of things in life that may seem to people a one-sided deal that will cause them pain. Rather than charging the gates and being confrontational or begging for what you want - learn to sneak in like the trojan horse. Many of these things often end up being good for both parties (I bet whoever Jay Z convinced to sign him ended up happier for it later).

END

This is just a “brief” list. If you aren’t willing to do these things, you don't really want to be liked. You only kind of want it. For further reading see:

48 laws of power

Wisdom of Psychopaths

Influecne

What every BODY is saying

How to win friends and influence people

How to talk to anyone: 92 little tricks for big success

The Charisma myth

The Art of SEDUCTION

~By HellsArchitect From Reddit via this link <view on reddit>

[socalsugarprincess]

Reposting so I read this weekly

[chanelsugababy]

my friend is straight up CONVINCED that it is easy af to be a sugar baby, that she'd never have to sleep with anyone she didn't want to, and that she could get paid upwards of 10k without even so much as a kiss... I am 99% sure I have seen a post of yours somewhere describing what it's actually like being a sugar baby and explaining that it really is sex work (emphasis on work) and its not as easy and glamorous as (fake) insta baddies make it seem. can i have a link plz <3?

Not sure which post specifically, but heres some links!!

https://sugarandthecity.tumblr.com/post/161359469112/truth-about-the-glamorous-lifestyle-of-a-sugar

https://sugarandthecity.tumblr.com/post/165823415927/brutally-honest-description-for-newbie-sex-workers

[cocaineteas]

[hoegoalsunited-deactivated20161]

Me and sugar daddy 5

[la-diablareina]

God I fucking wish

[biscaynesugarxo]

Ugh one day

[jessdunn18]

Or you could get a job be independent not rely on some guy 20+ years older than you to pay your way…date a guy your own age and who respects you and not be a total harlot….*shrugs* just me who wants that? guess so…

[backbayqueen]

“I only date boys my age because I like to have have sex for free in the back of a Honda at the end of our McDonald’s date and then get called a slut by him and all his friends. You dirty sluts actually charge for something I give away for free? Disgraceful…”

[backbayqueen]

“Occasionally he sneaks me into his parents house and we fuck quietly in his twin size bed on top of a pile of dirty laundry his mom hasn’t gotten around to washing, he gives me half a poptart and sends me on my way before his parents wake up”

[coldheaux]

lmao ew

[whysperforsugar]

💀💀💀💀💀

[sensei-silvia-blog]

Deceased.

[wildlyunlikelybabe]

Yall gone learn to stop slutshaming SBs We coming for your throat tbh.

[badgyal-k-deactivated20190901]

^^^

[soorayray]

@gisexual

[sugarysweetcallgirl]

Yuuuus! We’ll , see whose debt free, living her dreams and not stuck at a dead end job because she never learned to get her nose out of the air and is ‘too good’ to manipulate older men..?

Let our paper be our revenge for those who shame us.

One day they’ll understand when we snatch their daddies up, so they can take us shopping.

[jhameia]

why is there slutshaming on what is such a joyful video of two people happily dancing with some really nice moves and grooving so well together

why do slutshamers hate fun

[cherrybabe101-deactivated202004]

Speaking It Into Existence ✨

I believe in affirmations. I believe in positive energy.

Monday is a holiday. Think on ways to obtain money this weekend and bonus day.

I am WORTHY of everything that comes to me.

I WILL make a lot of money this month.

My ATTITUDE determines my mindset.

I WILL stay positive and ACCOMPLISH everything I put my mind too.

I WILL obtain a job, apply to graduate school, and make 5K/month.

I WILL have multiple SD’s, SDBF’s, and sponsors.

I am WORTHY.

Happiness is what I define it to be.

My life, my goals, my self-care. :)

🔮

Cherry 🍒

[chanelsugababy]

Is $175 enough for one meet up?

It depends on whether there will be intimacy, how long the meet is, how far you’ll have to travel, what you’ll be doing, and how many times you’ve already met this POT. 

[femininephilanthropist]

Sugaring 101: Upping your bedroom game with some sensuality and simple escort tricks.

*** Warning: Only try this with the sugardaddies you actually like and feel some attachment too. And definitely trust ***

Please heed the warning or you will crash and burn if you attempt the following.

PREPARE YOUR MEETING PLACE: If you’re regularly meeting at a hotel room, get daddy to get you a prepaid card so that you can go ahead and rent the room ahead of your visit. This will save him the trouble of doing it and allow you a chance to control your interaction. A lot of escorts do this for that very same reason: control.  For him, the businessman or exec who’s dealing with all kinds of shit this takes some pressure off him. What you have to understand about a successful man is that he’s always under pressure. He’s getting beat to shit daily from work, life, and home and he’s probably middle-aged meaning half of daddy’s life is already gone. Daunting. You need to be the calming voice in his life. When he gets there, of course be in your best lingerie, smelling good, etc, with the sheets pulled back on the bed. Or, answer the door naked, in a pair of red bottoms, etc. Or, ask to keep one of his ties for a souvenir on a previous date and when your next visit at the room arrived, have it on and nothing else.

If you host your visits at your residence, then ask daddy what kind of snack he likes. Fruit? Have some strawberries or grapes waiting for him when he comes over. He likes wine, etc.,? Have a glass poured. You can enjoy glass too. Its ok. If you have a problem drinking with daddy, refer to my warning above. :)

RELAX HIM: Give daddy a massage. Not an hour, just 10 minutes to break him down. This is a good time to ask for shit. If he has dry skin, bring some oil in your purse. First rub his back, making sure you’re getting in between those shoulder blades, etc. Skip the legs, lower torso etc. Unnecessary. He’s tense from meetings and conference calls all day. Turn him over and rub him briefly on his chest before you work your way down to his love zone. Rub his dick and don’t forget the boys. When he’s nice hard, start fellatio (if you do fellatio).  If he doesn’t want a massage or doesn’t have time that’s cool. You need to put it out there anyway. 

Time taken: 7 - 10 minutes

LAY YOUR HEAD ON HIS CHEST: After sex, cuddle up next to him and lay your head on his chest. If he has little or no hair this will be easy. If he’s a hairy bastard you might find another place to lay your head but the goal is to cuddle him. Use the hair to your advantage and play with it as you lie there. Twist it in your fingers or some shit. Make him feel like he just pleased you in every way possible. He probably didn’t, but it’s all about the fantasy. This is easy to do if you like him. Refer to my warning above! Say something meaningful like, “That was good daddy.”  If you have psychological hang-ups about calling him daddy then say “That was good baby..”  or “Mmmm I needed that.” All too often chicks are just lying there side by side with him in her own world. You can remain in your own world just do it cuddling him. This is also a good habit to have when you get married. :) 

Time taken: Not applicable

CLEAN HIM UP: Grab a warm damp warm towel, and remove the condom. Wipe up his penis and go put the condom in the toilet. If no condom was used, you can still clean him up if his penis is about stick to his leg. If  he’s caught off your guard, or ask what you’re doing, tell him “I’m just taking care of you daddy…” I got this one from several Escorts I’ve seen over the years. Trust me. You want some brownie points? Try it a few times. You can even be cute about it and say, “Gosh, you had a lot in there.” Or my FAVORITE “….I see you’ve been saving up for me. You had a lot!” The latter is perfect for you babies seeing daddy once a week. When you’re done cleaning him up, lay back on him. This is also another good time to ask for shit. 

Time taken: 30 - 45 seconds

TASTE IT: Now I might lose a few of you here but it’s my duty to put it out there anyway.  While you cleaning him up, put a forefinger in your mouth and say, “Mmm you taste good.” He might pass the hell out. If you’re good at this he won’t know you don’t actually have some cum on your finger. Hopefully, some of you catch what I mean on the latter. :) Or, if you swallow anyway then nothing is wrong with a little protein on your finger and tasting it.

Time taken:  2 seconds

PUT HIS SHIRT ON: If you’re going to be in the hotel room awhile, try this one out. This will kill him. If he wears good smelling cologne capitalize on it. With the shirt on, pull the collar up to your nose and say, “Mmm I love your smell daddy…” You won’t be lying if he wears good cologne. Chances are you already noticed his cologne but you were too much of a bitch to say you smell good. This is the sexiest shit EVER though. Nothing cuter than your 110, 120, 150 lbs ass in his big ass shirt. One of my previous sugarbabies used to do this. Drove me crazy.

Oh and congratulations!!!! Now he’s going to be thinking about you the rest of the day. You’ve inadvertently left your perfume on his shirt. Now he’s gonna be smelling your pretty little ass the rest of the day. Just don’t leave any lipstick!

Take a selfie with the shirt on. Send it to him days later in between your visits.

Time taken: 10 seconds to put on his shirt. Time elapsed before he wants to take it back off and fuck again: 60 seconds. Likelihood of you getting that Celine purse: High.

HELP HIM GET DRESSED: This one is especially important for the busy executive, businessman or man that works in a professional setting and he’s on his lunch break, or on his way home to his vanilla life. No, don’t help him pull his trousers up. But you can help with the belt as you kiss him on the chest. I’m saying as he buttons his shirt, go help him. Help him button the ones on his sleeves as well. And most important help put his tie back on and straighten it and his collar afterwards. Then finish it with a kiss. If you don’t get a chance to do all that, then collect his shoes and socks and bring them to him. Don’t’ try and put those on - that’s just corny. You’ll love his reaction I promise.

Time taken: 30 – 45 seconds

CUDDLE HIM: Recently, I learned something about myself. I read somewhere that one of the reasons why I cheat is because I as a man want to be cuddled and held. I thought this was bullshit but it’s quite true.  I know this is contrary to all the SD advice you’ve been getting but take it from a long standing member of the sugar community its true. I’ll explain this one better by giving a real life example. Now when I would first come over, Nebraska and I would sit on her bed and talk and she’d find some way to wrap her legs around and hug me like I was her long lost boyfriend. I was going through some things and it felt good for somebody in this world to seemingly take an interest in my plight. Then, she’d just sit there and stare at me like I was a big piece of steak. Staring at my mouth. When I’d talk too long she’d start taking off my clothes. While she was getting me undressed, she was always say one of these 3 things:  “ I know you didn’t’ come here to do all that talking…” or “You just gonna talk?” or my favorite “Or we gonna fuck or not daddy?” One day, after sex I was sitting on the bed and she climbed on the bed, sat down behind me so that I was in between her legs. As I was talking so she kissed me gingerly on my back and also laid her head on my back as we talked.  This shit made me feel like a king. When Nebraska and I ended our arrangement she said, “Well I was actually genuinely interested in you…” This is why I mentioned only try these techniques when you have some type of genuine attraction to daddy. Its easier to do and you won’t be faking which will speak volumes.

Time taken: none. You were going to be doing all this talking anyway, just on one side of the bed or side by side as you sat on the bed. The difference here is you’re cuddling him while you do it.  

Now, I’m about to drop half of you right here.

LET HIM CUM TWICE: You’re laying there in his arms, listening to his bullshit. Reach down and play with his love while he’s talking. After a moment ask, “You got another round in you daddy?” Regardless of his answer, go down and start blowing him again. It should be cleaned if you followed my advice earlier – clean him up. Anyway, if he said no, he’ll appreciate your dedication and let you try and revive him before he stops you. If he says yes, then its self explanatory.  Relax though. Your middle-aged daddy most likely won’t have a second round in him anyway. This METHOD is extremely effective with the sugarbabies that only see their daddy once a week.  But, for other arrangements its works quite well too.  

A lot of chicks are jumping up, cleaning up and rushing out the door, saying how you have so much to do today. Nothing kills a relationship like feeling like you’re being used (even though you actually are!). But remember, you want him around awhile. This is definitely a powerful tool to make that happen. Sends a clear signal that you’re all about pleasing him. (I hope the latter doesn’t get me in trouble). Trust me. An extra several minutes is cheap time to spend if you knew you’d be getting another 4 - 6 months out of daddy.

Time taken: 5 – 7 minutes

FINISHING TOUCHES: Put the finishing touches on it. When you’ve helped him finish getting dressed, and you know he’s on his way back to work or back to business, when he heads out the door say something encouraging like, “Go get’em baby.“ Or if he told you about some crap going on at work, take the opp to regurgitate it. “Fuck Bob. He’s an asshole. You should have got the promotion.” blah blah. You get the point. The latter can be applied even as you both do a last kiss before you head out the door. Again, it’s all about the finishing touches.

Time taken: 2 seconds

I know some of you are saying, “I ain’t doing all that shit.” But remember you are selling a fantasy. You’re giving the most precious part of your body away. Only to have your average sugardaddy relationship end in 2 to 3 months? All because he’s had his fill of your kitty. I assure you incorporating these techniques into your visits with daddy will go a long way and add months onto your relationship. This will help keep him coming back for more and more. Another way to put it, why not hook daddy for several months or even a few years and milk him dry (no pun intended) with just a few extra things?

I put the time on the end of these sections to show how long these little techniques actually take. Like I always say just a little extra goes a LONG way. These simple yet EXTREMELY effective techniques WILL prolong your sugar relationship. So why not incorporate them into your experience? I GUARANTEE daddy will respond to this stuff. I know because I’ve had it all done to me before and it blew me away then and it blows me away now as I type!

Damn I’m horny now. And my visit with sugarbaby isn’t for a few days.

Time to close the office door and get in a little pornhub and redtube.

[keptotherwoman]

Read.

[sbmisstaylor-deactivated2020031]

Keeping a Conversation With An Sugar Daddy on a First Date.

Someone asked me about conversation pointers and who better to ask than the PRO of talking to people. Not to toot my own horn but I just have a knack for talking to people, maybe it was because I worked in restaurants and bars since I was 16 so I was forced to keep a conversation going. 

A POT date is a “Get to know you process” I ask questions to determine who they are as a person and if their information is viable to what they put on their profile and to find out what you have in COMMON. 

Tip #1:  READ a book or many, so much that you can articulate your words in a fashionable manner to which you sound educated.

See how proper that sounded? This is how I speak to my SD’s and why I can and have dated CEO’s of big companies. They love an intelligent human being and you know what? I don’t even have my Associates Degree. However, I can bullshit like no tomorrow because you know what bullshit it? Knowing a little information about A and a little information about B and piecing it together just enough to sound like you know what you’re talking about. The more educated you sound, the less these men are going to think they can fuck you over. 

Tip #2 : Ask one question that gauges a story that way you can sit and listen to most of the date or you can sit and talk while he listens.  If you just answer the question with simple answers, that’s where you’re going to have short. awkward conversations. When you answer, answer with other questions. Examples of my answers below. 

Tip #3 Be REAL…to an extent. 

The point of being a sugar baby is to have an actual relationship with these guys. One of my recent guys stated that he went out with this girl who put “Drama free! :)” on her profile Yet all she was, was drama. So be mostly honest with who you are to them because they’re investing in who you are as a person rather than JUST a pussy and looks like an escort. (I love my escorts out there…and you all know it if you’ve followed me) 

ALWAYS SPEAK YOUR MIND if you like or dislike something. I don’t care who you are, you show more intregrity by stating an honest opinion than going along with what someone says. Even if I do, I politely let them state theirs and sometimes I’ll give my opinion if it permits. 

Questions to ask : 

What do you do? (job wise)  —> How did you get into that profession? 

Me : I’m currently working at an upscale cocktail lounge while going to Arizona State University for Business Analytics and Entrepreneurship. I was Pre-Med for a while but saw my roommate go through the schooling and hated it, but my parents have always been into business. BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH....  (He can ask more questions based on the stories you give him, thus creating a longer conversation) 

What got you on The Site? How long have you been on it? <— Personal favorite one

How have your experiences been so far?  

Me : “Oh, really? That’s good because man I’ve heard some horror stories on the guy side of things like… _______” <—-Sharing mutual experiences creates things in common and more conversation.  

Oh, you’ve traveled? Where was your favorite place you’ve ever gone to and WHY? 

Me : “OMG, I just went to ____ and have always wanted to go to these places because of _____” 

Where are you from originally and why did you move here? How long have you been here? 

Tip # 4: Talk about the things you like, mostly for gift ideas. 

For example, I talked about how I LOVE this spring season because LIGHT PINK is the statement color right now. OMG. Even the Louis Vuitton bags… Now my SD knows that if he were to ever get me anything, it has to be light pink. 

Tip #5 : Before your date go to Google and look at the news, pick a current even that you can talk about. Preferably in Business, Wallstreet or Political or something related to your SD’s profession. Again, this not only shows your educated, but interested in his line of work, or NOT. 

Tip #6 : Don’t confuse oversharing with things honest about you. 

Granted I always avoid talking about ANY experiences with my family, trauma, or my past. Try to talk about the FUTURE, the things you want to do, not what happened to you in the past. If you go in that mindset of thinking, you won’t overshare. 

You’re creating a new chapter with your SD and his/your life not repeating an old one.

-Hope this helps

sbmisstaylor