& * NOTES ! audrey jensen’s mbti personality —— INFP-T.
mediators’ tendency to focus their attention on just a few people in their lives means that they will approach new relationships wholeheartedly, with a sense of inherent value, dedication and trust. they share a sincere belief in the idea of relationships —— that two people can come together and make each other better and happier than they were alone, and they will take great efforts to show support and affection in order to make this ideal a reality. mediators aren’t necessarily in a rush to commit —— they need to be sure they’ve found someone compatible. in dating, mediators will often start with a flurry of comparisons, exploring all the ways the current flame matches with the ideal they’ve imagined.
as a relationship takes hold, mediators will show themselves to be passionate, hopeless romantics, while still respecting their partners’ independence. mediators take the time to understand those they care about, while at the same time helping them to learn, grow and change. while mediators are well-meaning, not everyone appreciates what can come across as constantly being told that they need to improve —— or, put another way, that they’re not good enough. mediators would be aghast to find that their intents were interpreted this way, but it’s a real risk, and if their partner is as averse to conflict as mediators themselves, it can boil under the surface for some time before surfacing, too late to fix.
between their sensitivity and imagination, mediators are prone to internalizing even objective statements and facts, reading into them themes and exaggerated consequences, sometimes responding as though these comments are metaphors designed to threaten the very foundations of their principles. naturally this is almost certainly an overreaction, and mediators should practice what they preach, and focus on improving their ability to respond to criticism with calm objectivity, rather than irrational accusations and weaponized guilt.
but that’s at their uncommon worst —— at their best, mediators do everything they can to be the ideal partner, staying true to themselves and encouraging their partners to do the same. mediators take their time in becoming physically intimate so that they can get to know their partners, using their creativity to understand their wants and needs, and adapt to them. people with this personality type are generous in their affection, with a clear preference for putting the pleasure of their partners first —— it is in knowing that their partners are satisfied that mediators truly feel the most pleasure.
