girl geoff jokes aside i do think it's very sad how so many people like him have struggled with feeling like something's not right, not fitting into their skin, feeling like they should be someone else, and didn't have the space to really explore it. all the "i never really felt like a man" and "some people don't fit into labels like this" and "i'm gay above the belt" and more. i wish all of them felt safe enough to explore those feelings and figure out what they mean, regardless of whether they were going to discover something or just ponder and decide "yup, still cis and straight". we make jokes like "does he know?" "do they know it's legal?" and stuff like that but growing up in times where stuff like this was not discussed as openly as it is now, people were still going around saying bullshit like "men can't be bisexual", some terms that maybe could apply to some of them had not been popularized yet, being public figures who could only take so much risk exploring their identity with so many people watching them, i imagine it was really fucking hard. and then you'll have people saying that "none of it actually meant anything" and "all those guys actually turned out to be straight men" (same group of people will also come at you for "assuming people's sexuality" when you dare suggest that they might not in fact be straight), completely dismissing them trying to express themselves (i've seen so many people say that about gerard way in recent times. like are we being fr?)
basically i wish all my bandom people a very explore your identity and who you are and be comfortable with yourself. it's never too late.
this of course also applies to everyone else, not just dudes in bands. i just talk about dudes in bands like it's my full time job because i don't have a real job.