20, 21,22 for be honest meme~
Have you ever felt pressured to write something you weren’t comfortable with?
Absolutely have. And I was slow to catch on exactly what was happening that basically, an antagonist that I was writing in a mobile game called Mystic Messenger was being used among the fandom and my peers as basically a fetish play. That’s probably one of the more disgusting examples I can think of off the top of my head and when it finally clicked that was what was going on ( because these people would have triggers against what they were trying to corner me into roleplaying ) - it didn’t ruin the character for me, but it woke me up to people can be really deceptive ~ and I would end up leaving because I wasn’t playing that game anymore and owe and behold, suddenly people weren’t interested anymore.
Write what you want; I honestly don’t care. But I do not write villains and antagonists personally for fetish, romanization and sexualization. If I’m writing a villain, I want to make people feel ( consensually ) uncomfortable - such as when you go to watch a horror movie, you watch it to be scared, disturbed, and thirlled, and what have you. Usually not to get your rocks off. I’ve since put up firmer boundaries and step away if you start smelling like bullshit.
Have you ever followed someone because you felt like you had to, not because you wanted to?
Hmmm, yeah, I’d say I have been guilty of this, as silly as it is. No one should follow anyone they don’t want to. I can’t say I can think of examples of where this has come up though - just that I know it’s happened. Usually this results in me unfollowing or black-listing their URL and forgetting they’re there.
What would make you block someone?
The number one thing is comparing real life trauma as being ‘just as bad’ as fiction. Full stop, fuck off, no it’s not. This tends to be a dramatic trigger for me to the point I am actually legitmently worried of being sent to the hospital on account of how badly my heart starts acting up and my body starts shaking. I’m sure these people have the best of intentions, but I also find they don’t actually listen to survivors who’s narratives don’t fit their own. If you’re a danger to my health, mental or physical, you have to go.
Content policing. No one owes a reason why they want to write something and it isn’t your blog to determine if someone should or shouldn’t. You’re allowed to not like something, even hate it; trying to act like an authoritarian over freedom of expression isn’t it. Also purity culture is extremely gross and cult like and eeh - keep it over there. I honestly feel bad for people in those circles.
Public humiliation. I don’t see it often anymore ( I’m sure it’s still a thing ), but Tumblr used to be really bad about someone making a mistake, and pulling them on full blast for their dashboard to humiliate and ridicule and harass. As someone with a processing disorder, this is nightmare fuel because I do not retain memory very well and I probably will make mistakes. I just see it as needlessly cruel and bullying. And yeah, fuck being a bully. If you can’t talk to someone like a human being, don’t talk to them at all - block and bedone.
Sometimes I may block people who’ve unfollowed / soft blocked me, not out of ill will but just so I don’t end up refollowing them at a later time and potentially making them uncomfortable.