He doesn’t quite know how to describe the feeling he gets when he’s failed one of his doms. It’s a bit like going under, except it’s darker, and colder, and it feels more like falling than flying. It’s awful, and Ephram doesn’t like it, but it’s hard to come back up. The worst part is how he knows he doesn’t deserve to come back up, because he wasn’t good enough; he’s been a bad sub, and this is his penance, but it’s too much. It’s not a nice punishment.
He thinks maybe that’s why he’s been a perfectionist his whole life through, because he doesn’t want this feeling to spread into the rest of his life. He remembers once when it did, when he was just a child and had broken a lamp while playing inside, and he remembers how awful it had felt and how hard he had cried, even when his parents tried to tell him that they weren’t angry. He had known that they must have been disappointed, even if they weren’t saying it - the lamp had belonged to his great-grandmother, and he knew his mother loved it. He still remembers how he promised himself that he would never disappoint anyone like that again, and the realization that he’s broken that promise only makes him sink harder into the cold darkness of his drop.