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May I just bitch a second? (Yes, yes I may.)

So, I met this dude from Tinder, like, a week and half ago. He seemed really cool and we'd talked on the phone a texted for a couple of weeks before meeting each other. Totally doesn't know the first thing about kink, but he had some really great questions and was able to talk about other stuff too. He's intelligent, out going, and a bit charming without feeling like a creep.

Prior to us meeting in person though, he texted me after having gone silent for a couple a says saying that he felt a little smothered due to the constant communication. He was polite and communicated with me about it instead of just ghosting on me, so I replied cordially. We smoothed thing over and I made a point of telling him that I'm not interested in a relationship.

We meet and it goes really well. He actually wanted to see me the next day, but shit hit the fan and car issues happened, so we haven't been able to see each other since. He's been very apologetic and I've told him every time, sincerely, that it's fine.

Yesterday, I posted a video on Facebook (where he and I are friends) with a guy talking about guys who are seemingly too busy for girls.

Today, I get a text for him saying that he believes I posted the video because of him and that it seems like we're looking for different things. He stated that he didn't feel like we should continue because I'm "getting too far in."

I have very mixed emotions about this. I'm extremely irritated because he fucking assumed that something on Facebook was about him. Like, what the fuck even. That's a bit conceited. Also, I told him that I wasn't interested in a relationship, and he straight up said that he doesn't believe me. On top of that, by believing I posted the video because of him, he's implying that I lied when I told him that I wasn't bothered by him having things he has to do, which is mostly work stuff.

On the other hand, he chose not to ghost on me again, and decided instead to communicate how he feels. And that's a big deal to me.

He made a comment in the past about how I'm the youngest person he's been involved with. (Hes 29, I'm 22.) I'm kinda wondering if he is underestimating me and believes I'm going to be like "every other 22 year old." Lack of maturity, inability to communicate, unable to understand my own motives and emotions, etc. If so, his fucking loss.

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