#911ls 3x13

[oh-evan]

courtney's gifset remakes tk + little 👉🏻 pokes on carlos (og post)

[oh-evan]

for @chaotictarlos

[ropoto]

sleepy Carlos

[hihuddy]

I have mixed feelings about that ending because it felt like it was mostly about TK and none of it was about Carlos’ feelings. It’s great to see that Carlos was supportive of TK and his sponsor but where was the flip side to show TK trusting and opening up to Carlos?

As I already wrote in another post I’ve been with an addict I get that there things that they need meetings and other addicts for because non addicts won’t always understand but TK was pretty much keeping all of his addiction stuff separate from Carlos and that’s not fair to Carlos. Carlos getting jealous wasn’t cool but I think it was less about jealousy (like worrying about TK cheating) and more about feeling left out. I don’t think Carlos would have been feeling the way he was if TK communicated to him more about what was going on with him.

TK is an addict and he will always be an addict even if he’s clean in 20 years he’ll still be an addict it’s one of the things people learn in AA/NA. Being an addict and staying sober and the history TK has had will always affect him and by extension Carlos. If TK were to relapse and actually start using again then that would impact Carlo’s life in a huge way. My point is that if TK and Carlos are going to build a life together then TK can’t just close off that part of himself from Carlos because it impacts Carlos’ life too. I just wish the show would have let them talk about some of this more and not just make seem like Carlos needed to be more supportive because that wasn’t the real issue in my opinion.

[hihuddy]

I’ve been with someone who had a substance abuse problem and I gotta say these scenes are really hard to watch. I feel like they’re making Carlos look a little too much like the bad guy here. It’s really hard when you feel like your partner is keeping such a huge part of their life from you.

I get TK needing to talk to people who have the experience and who can help him in ways that Carlos can’t but part of being a good partner means including your partner in your life even the dark difficult parts of it. TK needs to understand that Carlos just wants to feel like TK trusts him and needs him and wants to share these parts of his life with him at least to some extent. I honestly think that TK is ashamed of being an addict and so is trying to compartmentalize that part of his life from his life with Carlos and you can’t have a health relationship that way.