#acceptance based mindfulness

[thisisallprologue]

I went back to therapy for the first time in a while today and while we create distance and miles from the events of our past it’s good to acknowledge how close we are to it still. the ocean is wide and deep but water is still water whether in the shallows or the waves or the depths. we are who we’ve been and we are who we’re becoming and treating our past selves with kindness is exactly what they’re owed, I think, because who else would be kind to them but me?

[thisisallprologue]

I hold this paradoxically belief, that:

1) We all deserve all of the love and good we can possibly receive

2) You should give all of the good that you possibly can to others

3) We are not owed anything explicitly from others

I’ve been attempting to work out the details for years. It kinda comes down to this:

Everyone deserves compassion. But no one is owed it. We are not in each others debts, but rather we are in a position to lift each other up, and it is our privilege and responsibility to try and spread kindness.

However, it is not on someone else to make you happy. No one owes it to you. Sometimes we deserve it, and the world still comes up lacking. And that is no ones fault. That is why we must invest in ourselves.

That is why you must only surround yourself with people who recognize that it’s a privilege to lift you up. Find people who don’t think of caring for you as their responsibility, because it’s not. But the people who care for you regardless, without guilt or ownership as a motivator

But that’s also why we can’t get mad at our friends for not dropping everything to take care of us. We can’t expect our partners to be our therapists. It’s our own responsibility to take care of ourselves, but it is not something we deserve to do alone

Cherish those around you that recognize how important it is take care of each other. Then, take care of yourself, so you can help them in return

[thisisallprologue]

Photo description: a pastel ocean horizon. The text is in peach, and begins in large bold letters, “DON’T FORGET TO REST” followed by “and remind yourself that you are worthy of guilt free rest, regardless of what you did or did not do today, yesterday, this week, or this month”

Created by @thisisallprologue

[thisisallprologue]

Photo description: colorful confetti on a teal background, with all caps text that reads, “I AM PROUD OF YOU FOR SIMPLY JUST EXISTING TODAY”

Created by @thisisallprologue