This Is All Prologue

Special shoutout to the dearMoon folks if you stumble upon me here! // This is a place for me to gather my thoughts, as I continue to write my personal philosophy // 23 / non binary / London

[thisisallprologue]

Just hold my hand. You’re going to be ok. The wave returns to the ocean, one day. We spiral on endlessly and our stories are small, but they matter. They matter to me. We may be mice or ants or grains of sand on a cosmic scale but you hold my hand and stay with me. The stars care for us and give us light and the evening glow that falls on your face will caress you while I am away. I cannot be here all the time, as you know I tend to drift, but even so just hold my hand and you’ll get through it. We wake up at 2 and 4 and 6 in the morning, consciousness returning, a wave in the ocean, but restless and unsteady we survive the day ahead anyway because we have to, because we decide to. We survive because the stars care, and because mice are still mice and they matter, and the ocean is a home for the eons and when we return we will bring stories and poems and tears. We’ve always been together. Hold my hand. You’ll be ok.

[intosnarkness]

Hey, take it from someone creeping towards 40:

Ignore the fun police.

If you like it, order your steak well done. Get your bagel toasted with jam and butter. Put ice in your scotch and ketchup on your hotdog. Get red wine with fish and white with steak. Who cares?

If you want to, listen to pop music. Watch blockbuster popcorn flicks. Read dime store novels. Enjoy them.

Dye your hair or cut it off. Paint your fingernails blue. Wear whatever the fuck you want on your own time (ie, when not at a job or school or whatever where you can get penalized for breaking rules) as long as you aren’t like welding or shoveling snow.

Anyone who tries to tell you you’re wrong? Say “okay” and go back to what you were doing. You’re not hurting them by enjoying yourself or having things the way you like them.

There are no caveats or addendums to this. No “but what about x?” Nah. You’re allowed the things you like. You don’t have to justify your taste or apologize for it if it’s not hurting anyone.

And likewise, let other people live their lives. We’re all dead in the long run, so tend your own garden before you become fertilizer in it.

[thoradvice]

it's so easy to deny yourself basic things, like food and sleep, in order to punish yourself. but you deserve better. you deserve tasty foods that make you smile, to sleep in and go to bed early, to be warm and cozy. you never have to "earn" that. you deserve all of that and more just by existing. you're allowed to be kind to yourself. kindness is brave.

[thisisallprologue]

The thing is that home can be whatever we want it to be but we still don’t get to choose it. Home creeps up on you. Unfamiliar scents blend into the background and one day spring arrives again and you open the windows and the scent of the water drifting on warm air rocks you in place as you realize, I live here. And is this home? I have found home in dark theater coves, in commuting the same way each day, in people and in dirt pathways. I do not think home has been a place in a long time. Only my senses can tell me when I’m home. When the duvet cover is worn with ware and smells like my partners perfume. When I can finally get the key to turn on the first try. When my memories blend and when I think of comfort the scene that unfolds takes place right here. I hope this home will choose me

[recoverr-a-deactivated20210530]

not to be cliche, but life really is the little things. that cup of coffee in the morning i make while dancing to silly songs. that one time someone said my hair looked really cute (even though i disagree). or when i draw something and finally feel confident about it. when i find a quote i deeply resonate with and it stays with me. minutes i spend laughing with someone i love. life is that. the small, really small stuff adds up to the big picture, so when i look back i see little snippets of everything and everyone i’ve ever loved.

[everythingfox]

Advice from Zoe

[theplaysickkitten]

Remember to live life at your own pace. We have different paths. Just because someone else have reached certain milestones before you, doesn’t mean you are lacking. Maybe their milestones aren’t the same as yours? Maybe the milestones aren’t placed in the same spots and maybe you are not running in the same landscape? Live life at the pace that suits you, in a way that brings you joy, and try to remember this whenever you suddenly feel behind or rushed, when you look at the people around you, scroll social media or are being pressured by your familly.

[peoplehood-deactivated20211003]

ON LOVE AND EXISTENCE

Arnold Lobel, Days With Frog and Toad / Wendy Cope, The Orange / Gordon Gahan, Young Lovers / Kyle MacLachlan with girlfriend Linda Evangelista / Sleeping at Last, Saturn / Ruth Stone, Yes, Think / Gabriel García Márquez, One Hundred Years of Solitude

[amargedom]

[honeyymistt]

be proud of all of your small victories. you only snoozed your alarm twice today instead seven times. you changed out of pyjamas and into actual clothes. you found a new song that makes you want to dance. you smiled at a stranger and they smiled back. life doesn’t have to be all about getting first place every time or always being the best. a win is still a win, no matter how small.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

if their apology is followed by “but” and excuses to justify hurting you, it’s not an apology and they don’t deserve your forgiveness

[thoughtkick]

“So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered. I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.”

— John Green (via perfectquote)

[academiquewilde-deactivated2021]

Can we normalise giving flowers and compliments to boys because I really like to get them and I don’t see other boys getting them as well, it really makes me smile.

[mentalcentral]

for the boys on my blog: in case you haven’t heard it today, you look really handsome today and i’m proud of you!

[witchyangela]

People really need to realise that “media can affect real life” doesn’t mean “this character does bad things so people will read that and start doing bad things” and actually means “ideas in fiction especially stereotypes about minority groups can affect how the reader views those groups, an authors implicit prejudices can be passed on to readers”

[featheredadora]

Bird positivity based on a quote from She-Ra! You are worth more than what you can give to other people!

[pr1nceshawn]

Worst Case vs. Best Case Scenarios by Karina Farek.

[castorochiaro]

This is a great joke, but it’s also a wonderful strategy for reducing anxiety that I learned about in therapy. If you’re ever nervous about something, just ask yourself: what’s the best thing that can happen? What’s the worst thing? What will most likely happen?

It does wonders for your nerves, really does.

[paperparachute]

My counsellor walks me through this all the time and it works??

[official-lucifers-child]

this is good but the graphics for “things” and “time” has me crying laughing. yeah things. they go up over time. yup the Things. uh huh those things sure do happen over time.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Yesterday my boyfriend told me "you're not any less of a person just because you can do less things" and I wanted to pass that reminder on to other physically and mentally ill/disabled people who might need to hear it.