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Trouble even at Scouts

It didn't occur to me to explain to the patrol leaders at scouting about G's fun, lively character (or as they worded it "medical status"). I didn't mention anything because I didn't want him to be labeled or treated differently. I wanted him to start off a great boy scouting experience. Unfortunately, he was talked about and the leader begins with "I do not want others to discuss about my son, especially when he has certain behaviors." I think this is a misinterpretation or misrepresentation of the message he is trying to perceive. But, boy, am I heated! They discussed his immaturity, risk-taking adventures, lack of focus, inability to complete directions and tasks and inability to follow direct commands as given by his leaders. Then they say he cannot participate in canoeing, because of his risky choices. Again, my boy is denied. Told he isn't able to participate in an activity he's interested in. Implied that he's too much to handle. I hurt for him. For his rejections. For his loneliness. I fight for him, but will he fight for himself? Is this an ongoing battle he will have to face alone? Will he be rejected constantly? If I don't fight for him, will he? Do I have to teach him to fight and stand up for these negative nay-sayers? He's misunderstood too often by outsiders. He's curious and loves adventure... not someone whose "unexpected behaviors are risky." He's discovering his interests and knows what he desires... not "easy to become negative" or disrespectful. He's learning social skills at a different rate than others and needs time to grow... not someone with "bad behaviors." As I discussed with his leaders G's skills and talents, I don't feel I justified his greatness. I'm still very hurt for him.