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[kravitzkrusher]

"now cause of social media all these abusers have therapy language to use against their victims--"

I'm gonna let you in on a little secret. Foster parents have been legally required to know this language for over 30 years. And if you think that's not the same thing. Honey. Ask a foster kid.

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As a black Caribbean who loves animals, I am furious that Trump would say we steal and eat our neighbors dogs and cats DURING HIS DEBATE knowing his fans don't fact check!! 😮‍💨

Hello, world. Caribbean people eat oxen. Saltfish. Goat. Chicken. Salmon. Rice. Cabbage. Potato. Carrot. Cucumber.

If you've never had a Caribbean woman fix you a plate, just say that. It explains why he's so grumpy. Just one bite of jerk chicken and curry potato wrapped in roti bread would introduce this man to the concept of Empathy. Oxtail is what teaches kids to share -- especially in this economy.

He ruined it for himself.

No island woman on earth will fix him a plate after this. He'll never know the taste. 🤌 The flavor. 🤌 Of a good heart warming soul nurturing plate of island food prepared by an islander who loves him.

Sad. Depressing, even.

[kravitzkrusher]

Racist people, transphobic people, homophobic people, and bigots are NOT STUPID or MISLED they're using your soft heart to manipulate you into giving them the space to continue hurting innocent people.

They are lying to you. 👏 On purpose. 👏 Because they know you'll feel bad for them. 👏 And give them a break. 👏 So they can keep doing awful shit. 👏 Without hearing your goddamn MOUTH.

Stop believing people when they say they're hateful because they're ignorant. They know full well what they are doing and you're insulting their intelligence by insisting they're stupid.

That "I'm just a dumb little baby 🤪 I can't stop saying slurs" lie is actually a fucking smart, calculated, and well researched manipulation tactic that WORKS on people.

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Idk i don't do well with the whole "the pandemic affected everyone and the entire world suffered" because yes. Sure. Everyone for the most part stayed inside for a couple weeks. But the pandemic DECIMATED the lifestyles of so many people in some ways that just straight up didn't happen to others.

The millions of people who died or lost family members to COVID.

The cost of food and housing became too much for most families and now over 60% of American kids live in poverty and are also food insecure.

Kids who went to middle/high school during the pandemic and had to be stuck inside with their parents 24/7 while abuse rates skyrocketed. On top of literally getting their asses beat every day, they missed their prom/homecoming/graduation/first date/first school sports game ALL OF THAT NORMAL BASIC TEENAGE LIFE was gone. And they're in their 20s now without any of those core memories.

The younger kids whose parents didn't teach them the basics because they were too busy. The kids who can't read in the 6th grade. The kids who were raised by Andrew Tate and Sexxy Red because once again, their parents are too busy and for whatever reason couldn't be bothered.

The wives who left their husbands in DROVES making this one of the biggest mass exodus of marriage.

The Only Fans girlies who made a couple good paychecks before their job got oversaturated with celebrities and now their nudes are online forever for like $2.

The immunocompromised who never got their lives back.

The people who bought NFTs and lost all their money.

The people who worked with anti maskers and anti vaxxers and had to work in unsafe environments, risking their lives

The people who got long COVID and are permanently disabled with no resources to help them

The essential workers doctors/grocery/dentist/delivery that never took a break from work and never stayed home and never "experienced the bitter lonely solitude of the pandemic that everyone went through". because they HAD to be close asf to people every single day and work their asses off so we literally DIDN'T ALL DIE off in 2020.

The people who got kicked out of their homes, Mary!! The people who became homeless!! Because they lost their jobs and couldn't pay rent! And the landlords didn't care!

I could go on. But the fact of the matter is the pandemic did NOT affect us all the same.

We all struggled yes but in completely different ways. Some more than others. I was lucky enough to be a grown single adult at the time, so kids or spouse was stressing me out, but I very much lost my home and was forced to sleep on an antivaxxers couch for six months until I could afford housing again. I very much did have an abuser reach out to me trying to use the deathfear of this pandemic to get me back in their clutches. I have had people wave life saving money in front of my face, trying to lure me to do all kinds of horrible degrading shit. Everyone didn't go through that. It would be dumb of me to assume other people struggled the way I did.

Yes, this pandemic traumatized everyone but please. Ellen Degenerate was not suffering. Elon Musk was not suffering. Dwayne the Rock Johnson was not suffering. I'm not saying some people did not go through shit but by June 2020 some of y'all were still in your house, still making money, still taking care of business, and still healthy. And that is SO FUCKING MUCH to take for granted especially in the year 2024 after successfully living through a world bending nightmare.

The pandemic did affect everyone. But not everyone suffered.

[kravitzkrusher]

We were talking about how lame football season was at work and I was like "yeah if people were this passionate about rupauls drag race I would understand. these guys are just running on a field. they can't make a bodice from scratch in 30 minutes." and these straight girls looked at me like I was batshit crazy

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"Some people fake that nurturing energy but not you. You actually care." she said, reminding me why I clock in.

I may not be making the big bucks waiting tables or whatever but last week, an elderly woman traveled 16 hours on the plane and her first stop was my restaurant. She didn't even stop at the hotel. Jet lagged and exhausted, she smiled widely as she ate her favorite meal. It's been her favorite food ever since she was a teenager. She was finally sharing it with her daughter.

A small business owner remembered me after only working with me once during the pandemic and his face lit up when he realized I was the one to help him and his clients again.

Yesterday, a guest I wasn't even helping stopped me to tell me she noticed how I much I cared about people and how I treated everyone like they were important. Not a week goes by someone I helped doesn't stop me and give me a real human hug before leaving to thank me for giving up my hours to work. Not a birthday celebration passes in my section without someone genuinely saying "you made this day really special".

And that's why I do it.

It's not about money. It's about putting positive energy into the world using food and cooking. It's about the universal language of a full belly and a helping hand. It's about making someone feel special, heard, listened to, cared about, fed, warm, safe, and supported. Being genuine, being real. Making sure they know I will advocate for them in every corner of the building because if you're mine, I am taking care of you now. And I don't care who you are, while you're with me, you're gonna be okay.

That's what I do.

[kravitzkrusher]

There's something about being The Neighborhood Autistic™ that everyone in the city slowly gets to know as "funny'. I'm the local girl with flat voice and The Aesthetic who always orders the same thing. So after a while everywhere I go they're immediately like "You want ____." as soon as I walk in the store. And they're right, so I'm like "Yes, I do." And I give them money and I stand quietly in the corner with shades and headphones on and we literally don't talk. We never talk. I can't stress enough how little I know these people. It's just a special kind of weird interaction to be so well known and so anti social at the same time. It is such a unique experience. Idk. Here's to being The Neighborhood Autistic™.

[kravitzkrusher]

a composite list of the best stims of all time:

fingertips

touching wool

touching fur

running warm water under fingernails

poking face with nails

plucking guitar strings

clicking pens

snapping

"finger crickets" rubbing fingertips fast together in a snapping motion, using all fingers (helps me think quickly and task switch, VERY EFFECTIVE)

tapping rough surfaces

dipping fingertips/palms in water

scratching denim

creasing paper against fingertips/palms

wrists

shaking wrists up and down

wringing hands

"lightbulb-ing" shaking wrists side to side (also helps with task switching)

opening hands wide and squeezing tight

cracking both wrists with open fingers

punching pillows/blankets

punching the air

throwing stuff

ankles

popping and cracking ankle bones

"floppy feet" sitting on chair, loosening ankles, and wobbling feet in the air without ankle support

tip toeing everywhere

bumping ankles against chairs/tables

lifting leg up in bed and throwing it back down on the bed

standing in sand

two pairs of socks before shoes

neck/back/waist

straightening posture and taking deep breaths

expanding muscles in back while taking a breath and holding it before releasing

cracking neck several times in a row

cracking back

cracking lower waist

cracking shoulders

face

"gremlin face" hard brows, pout, wrinkled nose

"sturgeon face" ☹️

hard quick blinks

tapping, pulling, poking lips

pulling off eyelashes

"sharky mouth" no lips all teeth all fury

verbals

singing

mimicking, copying, repeating music and people for fun/accuracy

repeating phrases and words until satisfied with how the word FEELS

onomatopoeias, making sounds that aren't words and repeating them

saying nice things to people/animals (this is my favorite its almost an emotional stim, being randomly kind as a reflex)

aural

loud music

repeating same songs over and over

background tv

cat purring

noise cancelling headphones

whole body

shrugging

airplane arms

rocking back and forth

dancing/grooving/waving

jumping up and down (esp if nonverbal)

spinning in spinny chairs

walking long distances