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Are there any plans for artwork?

Thanks for asking! 

As of now, there are no concrete plans on posting fanart until our admins have a free schedule.  

~Admin Nee

[meliorism-latibule-blog]

Hi ! I just wanna say that you guys are awesome for doing this. I love that you help random people with their problems. You could be stopping them from commiting suicide or doing anything stupid. For this... You guys rock! and the world needs more people like all of you.

Oh my gosh, I love this! Just... THANK YOU SO MUCH! It's really nice for someone to actually SAY this sort of thing. Really, Admin Nee is to thank for this, because she was the one that originally had the idea for this blog; the rest of us admins just answered when she called for help.

I do like thinking that we are making a huge difference in someone's life, but even if we make a small dent or just plant an idea that life is worth living (or life gets better, or there are good people out there; stuff like that), I'm happy.

But I know that all of us here didn't do it for any recognition or anything, we just want to help people and we have tons of things to say and advice to give.

But, again, just thank you! You rock!

-Admin A

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吻吻爱爱 J

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You, anon, are awesome. We do try our best, and we're glad to see that people are responding positively :)

~Admin MM

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I didn't see Nee or MM's part of the answer last night. This is the anon who was jealous of her gf. MM - She just used to tell me not to worry and that I will be happy one day and realize what I want to do but that never used to make me feel ok cause she knew what she wanted and I didn't. Nee - I know it's my fault that's why I feel pathetic. Not really school / work but.. ( cont )

Nee ( cont ) - She got to photography while my parents didn't want to let me do it, There was a creative competition at our school and she entered and won while I can't muster any confidence to do anything , She is getting to study in Europe while my subject doesn't offer that plus her parents are letting her go to France by herself for her 20th birthday while mine are overprotective so much they won't let me when I asked.Nee ( cont ) - I'm also jealous that she has a lot of friends there for her while I don't they always do stuff for her and defend her while I'm always alone. I can't keep friends or close ppl. As for me I don't know about what success means to me. Everything I wanted to do I had no support and no encouragement so one by one all my dreams were dashed. I'm at a point where I know what I want but I don't know what to do / doubt myself ( cont )(cont) because all the classes I want to go to are too far away ( I live in a really dead country area ) , they are professions that don't get paid much and my parents don't want me far away from them even though I'd give so much to get away from them cause I believe they held me back on life. I talked to them about it so much but it's like talking to a stone wall so idk what to do. I'm sorry for spamming 5 asks.~Parents not supporting your dream can be really discouraging, and because of that, I can completely understand your wish to get away from them. But you said your girlfriend is 20 years old, then you must be around the same age, right? Doesn't that mean you're of age, and are legally allowed to do what you want? I know that don't always sit right with parents, but... If you want to move away, I say do it! It's a big step and all, but if you think they're holding you back, you definitely should.About you not being able to muster the confidence to do things... Maybe you could try doing small things that you're interested in, and doing them for no one but yourself to start with? If you don't feel comfortable with your own talent enough to show it to other people, then practice alone, and eventually you'll feel confident enough to show your work to other people. Also, try not to spend any time comparing yourself to others - it doesn't amount to anything. Just try to see your work for what it is, and not what it is in comparison to anything else. I think that's the best way to move forward and grow. What's your biggest dream right now?And don't worry about sending many asks - you can send us 200 if you want that. Anytime. -- Admin Nee

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I have a friend, and her and i have gotten increasingly close as of late. We've really been opening up to eachother. And.. i've been thinking about it for awhile now, and i'm really starting to care about her as more than a best friend. But im scared to tell her because i have no idea what her reaction will be. She has a lot of problems when it comes to love. She doesn't really think she can love anyone. I really do like her.. but i have no idea what i should do..

It's good that she's opening up to you, because sometimes all you need is just for there to be someone to listen and be there for you. Take it easy, and help her as much as you can. See where things go and take it from there. You shouldn't push her or yourself into something. Solid relationships take time and effort to build. It's hard to give a more exact answer, because every case is so different, but I hope it helped some. You should trust your gut and go with that! Trust in yourself and your feelings!

-- Admin Axxent

Maybe, if you feel like you dare, you could try dropping a hint or two about your feelings, just to see the reaction. If you want a more exact answer, though, and don't like it when it's all vague, then you should probably gather some courage and tell her - that will always be the easiest way to know for sure. She's said she doesn't think she can love anyone, I take it; but love doesn't start as love. There needs to be a base for love to grow from, and since she's opened up to you it must mean she trusts you, right? So you two already have a base, which is a definite good sign. ^^

-- Admin Nee

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This has been on my mind for many years. I have loved this boy since he was 13. I never admitted my love to him, nor did he. We used to go to the same high school. He used to like me (so everyone said), we talked online for 2 years. When I was 15 the circumstances changed, and I couldn't talk to him online anymore. No one knew we used to talk online. We stopped talking to each other. Now aged 18, we talk whenever we see each other (face to face) Does he still like me or has he ever loved me?

I have some pretty short and heads-on advise for you; Ask him!! Just build up the courage and ask him! If you really want to know it's the only way you can get the answer. There is no point in trying to figure it out by his actions, because that will only be confusing and lead to misreadings and all kinds of weirdness.Take a leap of faith! I promise that it'll feel a lot better when you know, (if not knowing bothers you that is). You never know what awesome adventure you two might start together if you are just honest about what you want!

--Admin Axxent

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Just think; you're sitting here asking yourself if he likes you, without saying anything out loud, what if he's doing the same thing at his end...

-- Admin Nee

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All I can say is, listen to Admin Nee. She has an excellent point. Otherwise, I'm not experienced with relationships and such (though people say I give great relationship advice, go figure), so I won't say very much on this matter. But I will say this: It won't be easy to find the answer to this question unless you go and look for it yourself. :)

~Admin MM

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Definitely ask! The very worst feeling is regret so even if he doesn't like you back, the hurt from rejection is only temporary. Going the rest of your life regretting is the worst.

Admin J

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Hey there. I'm just gonna dive right in. I'm in my last year of Sixth Form (the American equivalent is senior?) and I'm feeling so stressed out at the moment I don't even know what to do. I've started having panic attacks in classes and I've started smoking when it's got really bad. I've been feeling really low the past few weeks and I can't really speak to my friends about how I feel because it's so out of character for me. ....

.... I started having thoughts about death a lot as well, I'm not suicidal, but I just don't know, it's not good. I don't really know what you can say but I just needed to let this out. I guess it's just anxiety and stress getting to me. Thanks (sorry for dragging this into 2 questions)

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Hello Anon!I know what you are going through, because I'm in the middle of it myself. I'm in my third year at university, so I consider myself to have a considerate amount of experience with this.The main advise I can give you is: Take a step back and find your perspective again. It's easy to get lost in the piles of essays, labs and exams, but you need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.

Find a good routine and stick to it! Devote a certain amount of time for school a day, and when you are done you are done, no matter how much there is still to be done. And never forget to take regular breaks to clear your head so that you can focus better. Most important: DO SOMETHING FUN! Hang out with friends, play the guitar, draw, sing, build a huge boat if that's something you'd enjoy!

You should definitely reconsider talking to your friends, it's what they are for! I sure they would listen, and it's good to have someone that knows, maybe they can help you more than you think.

Drop the smoking immediately! It's an addiction that will only drain your energy without bringing any good what so ever. D: Stop while you still can.

Don't lose faith in yourself, remember that you are amazing.

My advice though would be this: During these times when you feel anxious find something that calms you. Try this, breathe deep through your nose to your navel and out through the mouth, close your eyes while doing this and picture your pulling in good air, (give it a color, for example mines yellow, makes me happy ^^) and pushing out the bad air and anxiety (give that a color as well like black)   focus on your breathing and only your breathing for as long as it takes to calm down. The colors help make focusing easier.

-- Admin E

You should try this, it really helps. And if you are in class, go outside if it's possible to give yourself some space.

Prioritize what you need to get done, and slowly work off the list when you feel that you can. Your health and wellbeing is the absolute top priority, nothing comes before that.

I hope this helps, and if you feel like you need more don't hesitate a second to send a million asks if that's what you need!

It get's better, I promise.

-- Admin Axxent

I agree with everything Admin Axxent said, and I really just want to stress the importance of talking to your friends. Even just getting it out is always a huge relief, especially crying with somebody. Do you have anyone you feel you could do that with? If so, I really think it would help a lot.

And like Admin Axxent said, send however many asks you want, say whatever you'd like, and I hope that we can make you feel better somehow!

-- Admin Nee

Talk to your friends, I find that it often helps best to talk about things like this with someone of your age rather than a grown up, because adults tend to all say pretty much the same thing, and chances are that, like Admin Nee said, even just letting your friends know what you're going through can be really helpful in de-stressing! ^^

Try and focus on the good things in life, and like the other admins said, talk to us as much as you want! That's what we're here for! ^^

~ Admin MM

[meliorism-latibule-blog]

Intro post

Meliorism (the belief that the world gets better; the belief that humans can improve the world) Latibule (a hiding place; a place of safety and comfort)

Hello, I'm Admin Nee, the 'creator' of meliorism-latibule. The sole purpose of this blog is to be there for people. To listen to people who need someone to talk to, because I know there are plenty of you out there. To try to help anyone, anywhere, with anything we can. There are currently 8 admins running this blog - there's me, Admin Axxent, Admin MM, Admin J, Admin E, Admin A, Admin M and Admin Rie. You can read more about us here. Our strength is that we're 8 different people, from 8 different places, with different experiences and points of views. So no matter what you need to talk about or want advice on, there will always be someone here who understands you, and could provide you with a new perspective. No problem is too big, no problem is too little. Even if you just need to vent without really expecting a brilliant answer, you've come to the right place. We're here to listen and do our best to help. So please, don't hesitate to write us - we will always reply. Just to mention, also, we'll always reply to asks publically, since there might be other people in the same position as you that also want advice. If you want us to answer privately, please add it to your ask, and we will, no problem. Looking forward to speaking with all of you! - Admin Nee