#adoptionfromfostercare

[stormyfayethechristianrunaway]

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Congratulations! .... .... ... ..... ... Sharon decided to become a foster parent with the encouragement of her 10-year-old son, Jameson, who wished for siblings. His wish came true when Sharon adopted Djimon and Curie. Djimon joined their family at 17 months old and Curie at 10 months old. Although they were young, they had experienced both neglect and abuse, and harbored feelings of fear, anger and uncertainty. But today, they are thriving. Sharon shared, “With love and patience, these children can overcome their challenges.” #FindingForeverFamilies @dtfa #adoption #adoptionfromfostercare

[breezymama-blog1]

These 3 have been friends since the beginning (almost) ..... She was a placement that was offered to me but we were exhausted from a placement that was going home, and needed a short break. I gave my friends info to the placement worker, and they took placement. She was 5 weeks old , and the bios seemed to be on the right path. About a month later I got a call from a CW friend asking if I'd take one of the boys because he was still in the NICU and the FM with his twin wouldn't take him because he was medically fragile and couldn't go to daycare. I also had another newborn that was 2 weeks old, and I had a great working relationship with her bio family. The goal was to move the twin to me when she went home. Within 2 weeks she left, and I took his twin. The other FM was livid because I was talking "her baby ". The boys case was never even on the table to be adopted at that point, an icpc to VT was in the works. He also had already coded 6 times and had spent most of his time with her in the hospital. He couldn't be in daycare either anymore. I stay home and am trained for Med fragile kids so it was a good fit. We weren't looking to adopt, and twin boys were not on our agenda for sure! We had them for a good bit of time before we knew we could adopt them. Their extended family just couldn't meet their medical needs. Anyhow, back to the original story - they started playing together at about 5 months old, and have been thick as thieves ever since. We all ended up adopting our "temporary " kids on the same day, and all 3 love each other like siblings ❤️

[breezymama-blog1]

WTF

Boys bio mom tried to add me as a friend on FB. I know I'm nice. I am friends with her mom and his mom so they (bios) can see pictures , as well as other family members. These family members I know, they interact with our family, and have from the beginning . She has not see the boys since they were 10 days old, and that's been her choice!!! We offered many many many times before adoption. After adoption I told both families that if they get clean (she's violent when high) then we can talk about visits. I'm open to them. This request from her totally blew me away. Am I blowing it out of proportion?

[breezymama-blog1]

Sitting at social security, waiting what seems like forever. The boys are with their paternal bio aunt, grandma, great grandma, and cousins. They visit with them about once a month, and always have a blast. It's nice to be able to give them that connection to one part of their bio family. I've gotten in touch with their bio moms family, and now have some history. It puts a lot of pieces into the puzzle. They are all back east in NY, but I've been able to share pictures. I sure hope I'm doing the right thing. They are nice people, loving, and appropriate. I'm trying to navigate adoption the best way I can. I don't know how to tackle the topic of their birth parents later. They are alive, but are on a path that means they may not be in the future. How do I tell them they literally walked away from them in the hospital? They refuse pictures, offers of a supervised visit (before adoption) , anything. I've met them once. Both high, but very kind, well spoken, and appreciative of our care. I believe in my heart that they love them, but how do I explain that to the boys? Lots of thoughts, and I know it's a long way off before they ask questions, but when I see the bio family that stays involved it brings up my feelings of wanting to do right by all of them .

[breezymama-blog1]

Ok- so if you know me IRL I’m very friendly with my boys bio family. Not the parents (their choice) and am FB friends with most, as well as their 15 year old sister(really sweet kid) . Anyway, I comment from time to time on her posts , and I still refer to her as their sister. Her dads choice was not hers, so she’s very much their sister still. They have 6 siblings from us. 4 are mine, 2 are his, they are “ours”. My kids dad is deceased, so my husband is really the only living dad figure my kids have, but they call him by name and always have. They refer to him as dad, and their relationship is awesome. “His” kids have a mom & stepdad as well as a sister, “my” kids also have a brother they never really see because dads second wife cut off contact. We have a huge extended family- I still consider my ex (deceased) husbands family as mine, AND they include hubby and his kids. My family does the same. Hubby’s family pretty much sucks (his words, not mine) but I still try with them. Anyhow, the boys also have bio cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. We are friendly with all, and visit regularly . Bio grandma even invites me out to play bingo.

How do I even begin to explain this as they grow? If their bio parents ever get clean and want a relationship, I’m open to it. How do I lay the groundwork for their already crazy life? They are so very loved, I just want to make sure they have healthy connections too.

[breezymama-blog1]

After 604 days, they are ours. We even had their birth family there. Today has been great ❤️

[breezymama-blog1]

Genetics dr visit

Spock has no known syndrome that can account for his facial dysmorphia and host of health /physical issues. The dr- who is amazing said she's pretty sure his DNA has been altered by the drug use of both parents; pre- conception and during pregnancy. Return in 6 months with his twin. She's going to continue seeing them and testing as needed because she's curious and extremely interested. Our little Spock is a quandary for sure, but oh how we adore him❤️