#advice-blog

[martytwin8]

Life Lesson 1

You don't have to rush in life, you'll only wear yourself and burn out faster.

[plan-ters]

Another Acceptance!

Hey guys, I've been too busy to share the news with you because it's been finals week at my school but on Monday I got my decision for the University of Miami!! I got accepted! This was the school I was dreaming to get accepted to, i mean, everything about the school is flawless! The housing for the upperclassmen (me), the buildings, the academics, the teachers, the students, the study abroad programs, I COULD GO ON! However, I'm not sure it i can accept the offer just yet because I'm waiting for the decision of an Ivy! What have you guys been up to? Any of you in the process of applying or transferring college/highschool?

[les-conseils-blog]

the thought of being in a relationship really scares me. I dont know why. Maybe im scared of being so close to someone. And i cant really think of why anyone would like me enough to go out with me, so yeah is this normal?

So I see we think alike. Every time a guy likes me and we start getting close, I always wonder why they feel that way in the first place? Why would anyone like me? Why would anyone even date me?

It’s so easy to question these things, but it’s so much easier not to. I’m always the kind of person to think about everything and criticize myself when there isn’t really any substance there to criticize. If you ever do become close to someone, you’ll be able to judge whether or not you should begin a relationship by the trust you have with the other person. I know that’s what all of the best relationships are based on.

I’m just as scared of relationships as you are. I guess it’s just a matter of putting the fear aside and trusting the person you have feelings for to take care of you.

[annabelle]

[les-conseils-blog]

My boyfriend dumped me and I'm lost.

Darling I know it’s hard. 

But right now you need to breathe and clear your mind. At the moment, don’t let anyone tell you not to cry, or that it’s weak to cry. It is definitely not weak and you should let it out. Trust me.

When you’ve finished crying, distract yourself, because letting yourself remember him for too long will only cause more problems. 

You can:

bake a cake, try a new recipe!

make a playlist of some feel good songs

read a book or watch a movie

catch up on a TV show

visit some fun friends. They can help take your mind off things for a bit

Remind yourself that he is not the only guy out there, and you deserve much better than getting dumped. Try to feel good about yourself too. You are a champion, you can definitely overcome this! 

I believe in you, come back if you need anything else<3

~Serra

[les-conseils-blog]

i think i have a stalker..what do i do..

Hello :)

Sorry to hear about this! It’s scary, I know, but it will be okay.

Just assuming you know this person, keep a record of things that he or she sends you. If things get creepy you need evidence, as scary as that sounds.

Also, cut off any contact with this person. That means phone numbers, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. If someone is really stalking you, this is a serious matter.

Never attempt to reason with a stalker. This only reinforces his or her belief that his or her tactics are working. And you do not want to do that. 

Also keep your phone on you at all times with some emergency contacts ready to dial. Don’t take this lightly. For your safety you need to be able to tell someone if this person is following you.

Tell someone you know about this!! You will be able to get help that way. 

I really hope everything works itself out for you.

~Serra

[les-conseils-blog]

This is a really really stupid question, but is it wrong to take secret pictures of your crush to show your friends?

Darling, no question is stupid.

And honestly, I think a lot of people are guilty of this. (I am, too!)

As long as you’re not posting them on the internet, or using them do disgrace him in any way, I’m sure it would cause no harm. Maybe just delete them once you’re done showing your friends. After all, these photo’s aren’t exactly for you, are they?

Think about all the photos taken of the streets in New York City. The people in those photos aren’t typically voluntarily there, they don’t even know there is a photo being taken of them. 

Whatever you do, don’t take too many photos, and try not to be obvious while taking them! And if you’re still uncomfortable with it, don’t take any more photos. But all in all it’s not necessarily wrong.

Don’t hesitate to come back if you need anything else, and have a great day<3

~Serra

[les-conseils-blog]

My boyfriend (let's call him Is) was really big into weed and alcohol before I met him. He always lies and tells me he won't do them anymore, but then I find out he does behind my back? I keep telling him I'll give him one more chance before I'm done but I love him a lot and he loves me I just want to tell him it's me or the substances, would that be too pushy?

Gosh lovely, this is quite the situation. Sorry if the answer to this is slightly delayed!!

I am glad that you have realized that he is doing this behind your back. Now put into perspective that if he lies about this, that doesn’t mean he won’t lie about other things.

You could try confronting him about this, telling him you know he is still doing it and that it concerns you. Explain that you really do love him, but with the way his drug and alcohol use is going, you are worried. Tell him in person, definitely not over text or call. He needs to know it’s serious and it’s putting your relationship on the line.  

Telling him he has one more chance may be risky. Realize you could lose him, but if he is lied about this before then this is not pushy at all. 

Good luck with everything and come back if you need anything else<3

~Serra