#adviceblog

[ask-me-vanessa]

Welcome!

Hello! My name is Vanessa and I have started this blog to help anyone who might need someone to talk to or need advice about life in general. I can not guarantee that I will know everything, but I promise that I will work through it with you. This is a safe space for any topic, so feel free to personally message me or to submit anonymously. Have a great day and always remember to be kind :)

[nightowllistener]

Just created this advice column to help others who are struggling. If you need advice ask me stuff! :) 

[anonyask]

Hi, I graduated college 2 years ago and it’s been hard for me to find a job in the field I studied. This had made me have anxiety and panic attacks and I have this overwhelming feeling of being a failure at life. Sometimes I think I will always work jobs that won’t make me happy. Do you have any advice on life after college and how to overcome this feeling of being lost? Thanks

hey dear anon!

i know, it is hard after you graduated college, because nobody is waiting for you out there. and the even more frustrating thing is, that your professors and mentors made you believe exactly that! that you are wanted and you will soon work on a well-paid job. but unfortunately this is not the reality. depending on the field you’re in, you are only one of too many. i know, this is not helping a lot, but it shows, that it’s not you, it’s the system. you are not a failure, please never believe that! you are only taking a detour. 

but let’s talk about your options now.i don’t know in which field you studied, but maybe have a look around if there (or maybe in a related field) exist any internships. these are a great way to gain some experience, which is important if you apply for a job later. you sort of have a “foot in the door” and get your name out there. and there is no gap in your cv. it can also help to completely change the field. f.ex. you graduated in business, go and see how it works in a hospital or a nursing home. maybe you find some new interests. and it also looks good on your cv.if you can afford it, traveling may also be an option. you can do some sort of work & travel and maybe you find something that fits you and your interests “on the road”.but most important is probably persistence. don’t give up, don’t stop looking for jobs or internships, keep your eyes open and your horizon wide. opportunities come to those who wait and keep patience. you are good, you know your worth. you are not a failure!

– all the best! daniela

[prettypositivey]

[bearsroyals]

Hi! I’m Kayla, and I am one of Charlie’s partners! I’m 22, use she/her pronouns, and am basically just a huge mess in a tiny body.  Charlie and I made this blog with the hopes that we could help others who may be going through similar situations. We accept any who are leading an “unconventional” life such as being polyam or trans or anything in between. We each have our own experiences in certain things and we are willing to share our advice with any of you.  If you want to know more about us or if you have a question or problem that you would like our input for, please feel free to send us an ask!

[artsybean89]

☺️It’s Send Me Asks Saturday!!!☺️

Send me your comments, questions or if you need any advice, I’m here!! (Please no foul language or perverse questions please)

Planning to make this a regular thing

[writtenbydarlin]

picture this; it’s a dark california night. In your room the only thing giving off light is your laptop as it plays a rerun of a random Netflix original. We’re both only in underwear and a shirt, with our limbs tangled beneath your blankets. —a night yet to come

[celinelinesse]

Watch 4 WAYS TO GET INSPIRED here.

We always thrive best when we are motivated and inspired. We create, take action, we are productive and therefore, make the biggest progress.  At the end of the day we feel happy and satisfied and even stoked to get up the next day to continue working towards our goals. Sometimes though, it happens that we feel deprived of motivation and inspiration which leaves us unproductive, lazy and unfulfilled. Every time that happens to me, I feel this sense of restlessness and discontent and all I want is the next day to get back on top of the game.

Today I’ll share my 4 main ways to gain back my motivation and inspiration:

1.Spend time in your head.

visualize & daydream

  Get clear on what you want and how to get there. If you have something to look forward to, it’s easier to take action and also, you’ll get excited about actually reaching your goal which provides extra fuel for your motivation! Every time I do visualise what I want, I get all these ideas popping up in my head and almost immediately I feel the urge to take action towards my desired.

- How To Visualise.

2. Role models.

find someone who embodies what you want and imitate

  Whenever I’m lacking of inspiration, I love to sit down and consume content of people I look up to. Watching their videos, reading their books, catching up on their social media. There’s a reason why this particular person is your role model - find out why and apply it to your life.

- My Inspiration. ♡

3. Inspirational Books, Movies, Documentaries etc.

get new ideas

  There’s so much content with the specific purpose to motivate and inspire you. Read a book about personal growth or watch videos and movies which nourish your creativity. Documentaries often turned out to be a game changer in my life and motivated me to change my way of thinking & living.

- Fav Book. - Fav Creativity Boost. - Fav Documentary. - Fav Inspiring Talks.

4. Experience.

learn from the good things you already experienced by taking action

  There are always up’s and down’s in terms of us being productive and creative. Whenever I am in a less inspiring phase, I recall the positive effects and emotions I experienced to a more active phase. I try to remember how good I felt and how exciting and fulfilling it was to be creating. This works really well when talking about healthy eating, working out or doing yoga etc, whatever physical activity you want to get into.

- Getting Back On Track.

I hope that this was helpful and you’ve got something out of this, thanks on this point for all your love and support. In case you want to watch the video on this topic, you can find it here.

Sending lots of love, xx

Celine Linesse